She needs my help again...
By lynpreety
@lynboobsy11 (11343)
Philippines
April 27, 2012 10:26am CST
This is the friend I was talking to in one of my previous discussion, that called me in the middle of the night just to help her how to block a rude person on her facebook account.
Early this afternoon she called again and telling me that she needs my help again. Her facebook account was hacked by his ex boyfriend and the man is posting some rude comments about her. She wants me to message all her friends that was on her list to block her because her facebook account was hack by someone. She had 500 active friends on her list and she wants me to send them all message. Ahhh!
now I refuse, I told her that I'm very busy mylotting, end of the month is near and I need to reach payout. I can't believe what she says she ask me how much will I make to have a payout this month and she will pay me, just help her to send all her friends a message. I turn down her offer, I know it is a very easy job but I thought I can reach payout this month without her offer. And I don't like to be part of her messy life.
What do you think mylotters, Do I have to accept her offer or not.
now I refuse, I told her that I'm very busy mylotting, end of the month is near and I need to reach payout. I can't believe what she says she ask me how much will I make to have a payout this month and she will pay me, just help her to send all her friends a message. I turn down her offer, I know it is a very easy job but I thought I can reach payout this month without her offer. And I don't like to be part of her messy life.
What do you think mylotters, Do I have to accept her offer or not.3 people like this
14 responses
@obe212003 (2299)
• Philippines
27 Apr 12
Just simply help her, as doing so would greatly make you as a real friend to her. Her life is all messed up, and surely making that gesture of lending a helping hand would surely make a difference. Forget about the monetary offer, and just simply help.
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@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
27 Apr 12
Maybe I can only If i'm not busy, but she actually want it as soon as possible. Every time she has a problem she always ask me, I just thought am I the only one friend she has that can help her?
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@kimmysay113087 (171)
• Philippines
28 Apr 12
I agree. You can just simply help her, at least she would feel that you are still there for her. She may have lots of friends but maybe it's you that she can truly count on the most. I feel you because there's this also a friend of mine who always runs in to me whenever she needs something. Even if I'm busy, I always make time for her. I sometimes feel that it's not right but I feel happy when I get to help her. But in your case, if you really don't have that much time, you can say No and just explain to her why and maybe make it up to her next time.
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@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
28 Apr 12
I actually help her and message some of ours common friend that's the least I can do.
@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
28 Apr 12
She has lots of friends too there are about 500 on her friends list why she can't ask help for them.
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@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
2 May 12
Well, i have more around 150 in my friend list but if i ask a help, i wont ask anyone of them...simply is they are not my closed friends. I have 5 closed friends only. I will ask a help from my closed friends first or i may ask a person who ready to help me, in my opinion.
For sure, you help her or not is your right. No one blames you about it.
@marguicha (222377)
• Chile
27 Apr 12
That sounded like a bribe and that´s not what friends do. I know friends should help one another but it´s not fair to get into trouble all the time and ask your friends to help you out at any time of the day. Besides, you could have problems if you start sending messages to 500 friends of your friend.
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@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
28 Apr 12
That's what I thought too. How about if one of her friend is a common friend also of her ex BF and they knew that I help her to send message to block her. I know her ex will be mad at me and I don't want to involve unto any kind of trouble.
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@marguicha (222377)
• Chile
28 Apr 12
It sounds as she wants you to clean up a mess she hsas made. That is very dangerous, even if you say it´s little work.
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@shylade (3132)
• Philippines
28 Apr 12
your friend seems to be too comfortable with you and she sounds to be too demanding. anyways, she should consider your time too. it is not that easy to do what she wanted you to do. sending message to all of her friends? why can't she do that by herself. she cannot open her account anymore? then she can try to report it to facebook to block that account then create another account. sometimes, friends exceed their boundaries and are too comfortable that they forgot you have your own life too.
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@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
28 Apr 12
Maybe she just want me to be part of her mess
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@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
27 Apr 12
How crazy can one be? Nobody has 500 friends for real and how important can something like fb be? I also wonder how come she always has fb problems.
If you can do this next to fb let her pay for it! Why not you will have to invest a lot of time in it.
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@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
28 Apr 12
I don't know we only have 10 common friends on my list and the rest I really don't know who they are. That's why her life is a mess, she always have problems like that, and I don't want to be part of it.
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@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
28 Apr 12
I always treat my friends like a sister to me, I don't know how they treated me. But into a relationship either it is a friend or a family there is always a limitation.
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@ajithlal (14716)
• India
29 Apr 12
I think your friend should try to change password and also try to go around facebook to see what options she have to block the person. I am not good at facebook. I think most probably when you get time you should try to help your friend. I do not think you should help your friend in the middle of the night. Most probably you can help your friend in the next morning when you have time.
@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
29 Apr 12
she can't open her facebook anymore that's why she needs someones help because her ex hacked it and control her facebook. and she wants me to do it as soon as possible but since I'm busy I have to say no this time.
@jillhill (37354)
• United States
27 Apr 12
I probably would have had the same answer...do it yourself. It's her account and her problem...she certainly needs to clean up her own messes and you helping her isn't helping..it's enabling her and she will continue to ask for your assistance every time she needs it unless you say no..good for you!
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
28 Apr 12
lyn oh my go sh 500 thats a lot of stuff to h ave to do for her and why on earth cannot she do it for herself. How about one message to all 500 is there any way she could do that herself?I would not
do that for her as she could do that for herself.Yes I too'would not want to be involved in her messy love life at all. let her get ride of the jerk.
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@celticeagle (165954)
• Boise, Idaho
28 Apr 12
It's up to you. 500 active friends she wants you to email each? SOmetimes people expect too much of us. I think she is doing that now. Asking too much. If you do her bidding each time then she will just continue asking. Does she ever thank you or anything? It would be easy enough for her to message all these people. If you tell her no and continue to tell her NO she will at some point GET IT. You need to set up some boundaries and not let people treat you as if they can aak you into their 'messy life'. I met send her instructions on how to do it herself. It isn't that hard. But that is all I would do. Set up the boundaries and make people respect you.
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
27 Apr 12
500 friends? thats just totally rediculous. I wouldnt help her with that. Id be like what have you done for me lately? Besides, it seems like its all about her. someone with 500 friends think thats a popularity contest. 
its the only reason i can think a person would be seeing how many friends she can get. btw, what happened to the friend with the missing daughter? is this the same one? 
@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
28 Apr 12
That's why I dis agree on her I would like to help but not the extend of 500 friends I will send message. I just sent our common friends which is only 10.
No she is not her, I don't know either I lost contact with them she did not even bother me to send her latest update about her daughter. Well I just thought maybe they already found her. I sent message to her but no reply.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
27 Apr 12
I don't want to be mean, but she is acting childish (sorry)
She can simply create a new account and send message to all her friends.
Or,she can send them text messages as well.
She have all the means to do it without disturbing others.
Besides- she's old enough (I guess) so she should act according to her age.
I know what she ask is a simple favor- but sometimes we should teach them to learn things for their own benefits.
Enjoy mylotting and yes- it's just 2 days to go
@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
27 Apr 12
Yhea your right Jai, they knew me I never turn them down as long as I can but I hope she will understand me, this is the first time I said no to her, actually not totally no because I send also some of our common friend a message about her situation. And also I'm afraid about that guy, how about he knew that I help her, I don't know him.
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@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
28 Apr 12
I agree with Jaiho2009. It seems there are other ways that she could take care of this herself. I think it wouldn't be such a big deal if this was a one time thing. But it seems she comes to you and expects you to do all sorts of things for her. She should be mature about things and take care of them instead of going to you all the time. Enjoy your mylotting and don't let her stress you out.
@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
28 Apr 12
Actually this is her 2nd time to have an account and I don't know why she did not got a lesson in the first time that her account was hacked. She doesn't own a computer on her house she has one but it's for her children. And I don't think she can do mylotting like ours.
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@dzzziei (39)
• United States
28 Apr 12
How long will it take to message them; you could make on mylot about two cents in that time? Maybe it's just me but if I consider someone my friend, which is a tough title to earn, I'd go through hell and back for them. Just saying is all. Gl
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