I have nothing to talk about with my father, HELP!?

This discussion actually makes me sad. I mean, I have an awesome relationship with my dad. Do you know the things he likes to do? Does he paint the garage, fix the car, cook.. When my dad paints a part of the house, I usually help him out. That way I can listen to his crazy stories back when he was a kid, while we do some chores. I'm not sure how distant he is to you but you could start with doing stuff with him. Then the conversation just follows. Good luck.

It's sad to hear about what you just said. I must say that's it's never been easy having a gap with your father. I'm experiencing the same thing actually. My dad is a seaman and he rarely goes home. I used to be a daddy's girl. My dad used to come home regularly before his rank went up higher. Ever since he got a higher position, he's been away for like months and years until the time came when we get used to the fact that he's not really present during family occasions. That's when the gap build up. When I was already in high school, for some reasons my dad tried and did his means to mend the gap. But still, even though he tried, he is still away all the time and rarely comes home. And I must say that even until now all of us are trying to mend it, it's still there since he's not really with us and we already got used to it. Before, I blamed him for this. I completely misunderstood the situation but then later on I was able to understand things and I asked for an apology from him. Now, everything's quite good. Although my dad is still away in the open seas, but still we do a means of communication. And I can say that it's kinda okay now and I hope it goes on. ^^ Well, I hope this helps. ;)

Hi, we have the same problem here. I want to be closer to my dad too but because I grew up really close to my mom and I didn't grew up getting close to my dad, it's now hard for us to have a long conversation. I want to be closer to him too but I just can't because I didn't grew up being confident in talking to him. This is really hard.

I think you said it yourself. Since you haven't got much quality time in the past maybe you can try have some now with your father. It will get you both closer to each other. :)

You definitely don't want that to happen. I lost my father at the young age of seventeen. My father and I had a great relationship. And I would do anything to have him in my life right now. So my advice to you is make the arrangements to spend that time together. It is very important. Plan something that you both will enjoy doing.

Start with something that you like, for example if you like computers say I need your advise as I am thinking of changing my computer, and this will start a conversation, keep prolonging the conversation by debating on technical, financial or over brands issues, keep asking questions, this will keep you conversation alive and going. In this way you can start your conversations to over come your shyness

Hello HornedDemoN. Since you have no issues with your father, may I suggest that you find out what your father likes doing, (except anything illegal) or determine events, placed of mutual interest. Structure an informal meeting between both of you, and work towards meeting him and spending quality time with him (perhaps, ensuring that both of you can get to know each other). May I suggest that either of you can initiate the flow of the conversation, and try to keep the conversation(s) enjoyable, informative and of a high quality. Try to avoid discussing anything that may contribute to 'unearthing' of issues that may ruin your relationship. Also, try to ensure that both of you create, and open all channels of communication, so that the relationship may be improved, over time. All the best, ok?

It is a slow process to get back to have a healthy relationship with parents, especailly if it had already been strained in the past. What does he like to do? If he likes for instance watching football on Sunday, maybe make a day out of it and just a little effort by buying some snacks and drinks and watching a game. Maybe he likes to golf? Ask to go do a round with him. Don't push it all at once, but don't be too timid either. The more time you spend around each other, the more you will feel comfortable with one antother and the conversation will come automatically.