How To Treat a Guy..Tell me what you think.. :)

hi ravi all good points but no no to jerky friends, that one I never did .also in loving and giving affection and attention I refused to be walked on in the process. this fellow kept pushing until I realized I was being controlled and was u nhappy and felt abused til one time he pushed me hard and I fell.then it hit me,he did not love me, he liked controlling me , owning me. I handed back the engagement ring and told him to leave, when he threatened to hurt me I called the police. five years later I was 32 and working making a surgical bed when the new orderly came to help me. love at first sight.,both of us,we were married six weeks later. We were married for 33 years and supported a nd loved each other through good and bad times. we lost a child, I had surgery he had cancer of the colon and recovered to die ten years later of a bad heart from smoking.that was 1 9 91 and I still miss him, still love him.

Hatley aunty: Happy to know you lived happily with uncle for 33 years. That too in a place like USA where the number of couples living together for this length of time is not a common phenomenon. If I am wrong please correct me. Love at first sight -- I am not able to appreciate it now possibly because I am 62+. No individual can live in isolation. we all need others help. How many people stay in your hostel/apartment aunty? What about cooking? Each one has to cook by herself or there is a common kitchen?

Exactly. I could't have said it better.

I agree with you, before giving everything to a guy we need to know that he feels the same way, if it's one sided you will probably get hurt. When a relationship is based on love and respect from bith sides has best chances to work.

dude! are you a man hater? I wouldn't be surprised if you are, I used to be a woman hater and thinks that every single woman the same so I should not take them seriously, well I was wrong when I met this girl who showed me love that is true and she stays beside me beside of my flaws, I don't have a feeling for her but because of what she did I find it hard to let her go, I know must love her the way she love me, main point is, do not think that all men are the same

Shanonymous: I check up the point No.11. 'jerky' --meat that has been cut into long thin strips and dried in the sun. Yes meat eaters may like it. I take it this way--that the friend though he is dry and is not enthusiastic one has to encourage. visiting the house of another --that is normally done only by close friends or others who have to come for getting things done. I have seen that relationships among people of same gender is less complicated than the relationships of people of different gender. I am telling based on my experience. may be in USA things may be different and that too in the present days.

You're right, I agree that male friendships are less complicated and I don't mind him having friends that I...don't care for. But I don't think I should be forced to spend time with them. I didn't choose them.

Definitely respect is a really big part when it comes to a relationship. No matter how the situation rises between the both of you or with anyone around you, it will surely be applied.

I agree entirley. Communication is also a key factor in having a good relationship.

yes that's right, I have to agree with that, because a relationship involves two people, and if one would rather not compromise with the effort being given by the other person, it will surely affect the emotions felt by the other person. Ending up with a serious tension between the two and definitely it wouldn't be a way for keeping a relationship alive.

Eucalyptus - welcome to mylot. this has been the case on occasions -- a wife doesn't like her husband's friends-- rather dislikes them. For married people what you said is right --keep themselves happy always. But not for just friends.

yes I actually do those, but of course at times, when you have some misunderstanding that can't be easily solved, the list that I have posted wouldn't be so helpful. Because it will take both people in the relationship to compromise.