Her heart is broken again!!!!

well that boy is an a-hole. they are coward and not want to father an innocent child. they would make excuses so to make it seem like you are at fault. i understand how heart broken and devastated your friend is. i hope she can get through all this without that selfish and stup*d boy!

hm...why he talk like that?? maybe your friend had mistake too with her boyfriend?? who knows...

I am seeing a trend amongst younger guys, ages 20-30, who have this attitude towards girlfriends that they knock up. I have a friend who also got pregnant and the father also refused to talk to her once she got pregnant and even quit his job so that they wouldn't bump into each other in the office. I hope your friend stays strong and I hope that she is of age to get a job. One thing that I always tell to friends who feel that it is the end of the world because they are pregnant and the guy refuses to marry them is that we now live in a different age. I keep reminding them to let go of the traditional thinking that a girl, once she becomes pregnant, gets married then just stays at home to take care of her husband and the kids. It's not like that anymore. With all the call center jobs available, she can raise this child on her own. The guy may think that he has destroyed your friend by getting her pregnant. But tell your friend that she is better off without him. Guys like these aren't worth loving.

I wonder why your friends boyfriend is treating her in such a horrible and disgusting way. They only live seven kilometers from one another so the distance isn't far. They should have met face to face and not by electronic message. I don't think your friend is being selfish at all. The boyfriend is wrong to say it is all up the the girl. He should be supporting her. It is such a shame your poor friend is being treated in this awful way. Early pregnancy can be very emotional and the girl needs to be happy. I agree that he has broken your friend's heart. I wish her lots of luck in her pregnancy that she looks likely to face alone.

Hi Ryanong, So he is not a kid, which was my first thought. This is a 42 yr old man? Well, at this point, there is not a lot she can do other than to prepare herself emotionally to be a single mom. I was and I know how hard it is but also that it is not impossible. The news of an unplanned pregnancy can be so devastating but these things always have a way of working out. In a year or so, your friend won't even be able to imagine her life without this child in it. Right now, it may feel as if she is the victim but ultimately, he is the one that will lose out. Maybe with any luck, the father will have time to think over the news that she gave him and come back around. If not, then he is missing out on a wonderful opportunity.

The guy is not a good man. He just said that because he don't want to support the baby at all, or don't want to take responsibilities with the baby. I was in the same situation with your friend, and I can feel the pain. My daughter's father told me that he don't want the baby and he said the same thing what your friend's bf that it is up to me what to do with the baby. So, that's it! I was very hurt and tried to be strong. We didn't have any communications since then and my daughter is 7 years old already and didn't even see her real father.

there is something wrong with the boyfriend. if he doesn't want her anymore and the baby so be it. it will really be hard at first but i think God has a better plan for them. so just continue to be there for your friend because she badly needs you now. i do hope she will continue with the baby because it is a blessing.

What a poor girl!As far as I can see,the selfish person is not your friend but that guy.However,your friend should be more careful to find the next boyfriend.The next boyfriend should be of responsibility.

Jeez...what an awful situation to be in. Your friend has up to about 3 months to end the pregnancy if she wishes, but if she decides to keep the baby, that boyfriend is hers is going to have to pay one way or another. Of course, in order to make him pay, she'll need proof that he's the father, which costs money, and she'll have to go to Domestic Relations as well. This will be a lengthy process, but if this were me, I'd go as far as I could to make him pay! That no good SOB!!

i recommend that your friend be careful in choosing her partner next time to avoid similar occurance. guys of nowadays are selfish, they only enjoy your honey pot while it last and the next minute its all over. i just hope that she make a wise decision next time.