i got a lot of friends

I can relate with you on this. I also have a lot of friends whom I rarely see. I have friends whom I cannot just get to be with because of their busy schedule, and I have to be honest that it can get lonely and sad at times. I am a friendly person and I do have a lot of friends from different walks of life, but sometimes I found myself along spending time at the mall because all my friends are busy. But I am okay with it. Yes it is sad at times, but I am fine with it because I am confident that when the time comes when I really need them, I know that they would come to my aid. I think that is the thing about true friendships, no matter how long you spent time apart, at the end of the day, you will still gravitate back towards each other especially when certain situation calls for it. and I am not talking about the good times, most especially the bad times as well.

You are very lucky that you have true friends with you. I prefer friends who stick with me no matter what. I have friends who are always busy too but not when I have problems. They are the one to whom I can run and cry whenever I have problems. I love them because they are like real sisters to me. I compare our true friends to starts. During day time, we cannot see them. Perhaps, I can say that day time may be compared to the part of our life where we are comfortable. But then, during the night that is the time we can see the stars. And there, night may represent problems, sadness or troubles. We do not see stars in the morning but we know they are just in the sky. It is like our real friends. We may not see them often but we know they will be always there for us. Indeed, we live in the hearts of our real friends.

There is a difference between having friends and having good friends. I have a lot of people who I would call friends, but I wouldn't always say that they would come out an socialise with me if I wanted them to. You should concentrate on the people who you know you get on with, and make sure that you try to arrange one day each month where you agree to meet up, otherwise you might find that life takes over and you wouldn't be meeting up as much anymore. Friends are usually for life, but you both have to put the effort into the friendship.

When i was younger i spend most of my time with friends, partying, drinking, talking till wee hours of the morning. But it's all in the past now, we've got our own family now that we have to take care of. Though we hardly see each other now I know in my heart that when i need them they will be there for me.

Yeah I agree with you that everyone is usually busy. I too have quit a few friends. And it's hard for us to get together because we all have busy and different schedules. But with forethought and planning friends can get together. I know that a lot of the time for me we have to set the date and stick with it.

You are alone because you don't have friends. Seems to me that what you see as a friend is a one way relationship. Ask yourself what you need for you from a friend. If people are not able to give that to you, you should better find some other friends. Also be realistic. Many people are busy, have a hard time to survive, they don't have the time or energy to be that full-time friend anymore (do you?). So find friends with whom you can do different things. Go out with one, have great chats with someone else, etc.