How does having a lovelife affect your schooling?
@LaurenPogisky (131)
April 28, 2012 8:42am CST
Hello there folks. We all have our crushes in school right? Others have engaged into relationships like having a girlfriend or a boyfriend. But is it good to have such relationships while still in school? I have seen many who had declined academic performance just because of having a lovelife at the same time. Often, students' attention in school are sacrificed and are diverted to their partners. Focus isn't really present in classroom discussions or lectures because what the student thinks about is his or her crush. But other seemed to use lovelife as an inspiration to strive harder in school. What can you say about this? Which one is correct, is lovelife a distraction or better yet, an inspiration when it comes to schooling? Thanks for your thoughts. More power.
8 responses
@Cherish14 (2693)
• Philippines
29 Apr 12
i had my first boyfriend when i was 17 and i was so in love i would stay up late with him, texting each other hahaha. i admit that i almost failed my classes because of that but he has always been there for me, he pushes me to strive hard and study hard. he has always been my strength and hope. now, it has been almost 8 years and we are still going stronger. 
he is my inspiration.. sad that he is away from me...
he is my inspiration.. sad that he is away from me...
@LaurenPogisky (131)
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29 Apr 12
Hello Cherish14. It's good to hear that you and your boyfriend are still together. It is also nice to know that he served as a good influence in your studies. You guys are the living proofs that love can jive with schooling. I hope that your relationship will grow stronger and stronger. Cheers.
@AwesomeGuy250 (334)
• United States
28 Apr 12
This really comes down to a matter of opinion. Some might let their lovelife divert from their focuses, while others may push themselves in their focuses. It depends on the person. I don't think either are correct, but rather neutral. As I said I think it depends on the person.
@LaurenPogisky (131)
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29 Apr 12
Hi there AwesomeGuy250. It seems to me that balance is essential if one really wants to engage her or himself in having a lovelife during school. Yes, you are correct. It truly depends on the individual, on how he manages his time, effort and attention. Good or bad effects are dependent on his choices.
@AwesomeGuy250 (334)
• United States
29 Apr 12
Of course. Everyone does their own thing. There are some who may push themselves for their partner, which has been said already in this thread. I can agree with that as well. As humans with freewill, though, our choices come from us. We make our own decisions.
@vaishnavc (556)
• India
29 Apr 12
Hey Lauren.You are welcome.
And yea,i had a couple of them when i was in high school.
And i don't think it really affected anything.I still got about 85% in my high school.
So tell me about yourself.Are you having an affair?How is it going?
And a little advice.Don't let it get to your head.
@LaurenPogisky (131)
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29 Apr 12
Hello there vaishnavc. Thanks for sharing your thoughts. Have you ever had a lovelife while still in school?
@almond24 (1248)
• Hungary
28 Apr 12
Many people say it takes time and energy away from your studies if you are busy with your love life. But I don't know, it's hard to handle feelings.
I had crushes while I was a student, but I didn't get in relationships. I spent a lot of time daydreaming, it drew my attention away and it was hard to concentrate at times. I wonder if I wasn't worried about having a relationship, maybe that wouldn't have turned out that bad. We could have studied together and motivated each other.
@LaurenPogisky (131)
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29 Apr 12
Yes, I agree that it is hard to handle feelings specially if they are so strong that you can't help but think of love. That is the time that love turns into a distraction. I like the idea of daydreaming because maybe, it does not sacrifice much of your attention. But sometimes, it is difficult to stay away from daydreaming and go back to reality.
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@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
28 Apr 12
It all depends on how you manage your school and love life. When I had my first steady relationship, I was very inspired and since the guy was also among the smartest in class, I was challenged to do my best. We even compete with each other and our professors were amazed by our motivation. However, later on, we got distracted and I failed a couple subjects. But, after that incident, I learned to be more responsible and redirected my focus back on my priorities.
@LaurenPogisky (131)
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28 Apr 12
Thanks for your reply jureathome. Yes, I agree that it depends on how you manage it. If you fell in love too deep then your schooling while be sacrificed. Likewise,if you push through school too hard, then you might lose your relationship. I am glad that you have learned a lot from your experience. Thanks for sharing it. Godbless.
@ladyhemingway (965)
• Philippines
29 Apr 12
I think it depends on the person. I for one have tried to enter a relationship when I was still studying and I found myself with grades a little unsatisfying than the usual when I am not in a relationship. While I have a friend who got into the relationship and do well in school at the same time.
So I guess we cannot really say that it is the same for everyone. We cannot generalize love as a distraction nor inspiration in that aspect along. It still depends on how a person's approach on how to take it.
@LaurenPogisky (131)
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29 Apr 12
Hello there ladyhemingway. I agree that the answer depends on how a person caries his or her emotions. The strength of your focus in school and the interest you give your lessons also play as major factors. We are indeed responsible and accountable for our choices, if love will serve as a distraction or inspiration to us. Cheers.
@autumndreamer (3185)
• Philippines
1 May 12
It really depends on the person. When I was in high school until now or ever since the age I started dating, there has never been any relation of my love life to my school life. For me, those are separate things. Either I get into a relationship or I become single, nothing changes in my grades. It's still the same, just average. I see my other classmates get boyfriends and their grades improves. Other girls' grades stay the same. I don't know anyone who let their love life affect their grades.
@JohnRok1 (2051)
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30 Apr 12
Lauren, in your profile your country is unspecified, and for this discussion it is relevant what it is. This is because it isn't quite clear what you mean by "school". In the UK and countries that get their terminology from the UK, "school" refers to primary and secondary education, whereas "college" refers to tertiary and adult education (though it can also refer to the last two years of secondary education if these are spent at an establishment separated from younger age-group education), whereas in the US, etc. the terminology is reversed. The answers may depend on age and maturity. What do you mean by "school"?
