What's left for children coming from a broken family?

I was raised by my single father and grew up with him and two older brothers. We were dirt poor, but didn't really have any serious emotional problems. In fact my emotional problems didn't start until I was out of High School and on my own. I think the only thing that came from growing up the way I did was the fact that I'm not a very feminine girl. I associate much easier with guys.

Hiya LP, I would hope that for the sake of the Children in the case of any of them breaking up that they come to a mutual agreement and not start doing things that go against the grain. Children are so very sensitive and I see a few from broken Families here some seem to do okay because their Parents are making a real effort to be good Moms and Dads to their Kids. Alas on the other hand I see a few that take their Children in too to live with them and only take notice of their own Children and almost ignore the others. Would like to see more care taken of these kind of Children as it is very hard for them to be on an even keel when you have a Mother that loves you but the boyfriend or new Father is not quite that way inclined. xxx

It's true that there are more kids coming from broken marriages. A lot of my friends or the people I know are from broken marriages. It's like sometimes you need to really confirm if their parents are still together, or if the sister or brother they're referring to is a half-sister or a half-brother. But I think that although kids do get some trauma from a family breaking up, they're able to cope with this set up. Since so many kids come from broken families, it's almost 'normal' ion some places, and kids who have step parents, or just one parent don't find it weird anymore, or that their situation is unusual. I don't really see any grae differences from my friends and I. When we talk about their home life, it's as if we were talking about how we spent our summer vacation. Very matter-of-fact, totally-accepted expressions. And now a days, single mothers or fathers are able to do things that was not thinkable long ago. Like a father who teaches his little girl about girly stuff, or a mother who teaches a boy to be tough and how to protect himself and his sister from bad situations. Most parents automatically take on the Mother/Father image. So coping isn't as hard for kids as before.

I feel sad about the experiences facing children from broken homes. This is because the side-effect from that break up usually have a devastating effect on the well being of the children from such a marriage as there are nobody to be around to guide such a child perfectly. This is made more harder as the father and mother have all gone their separate ways. The child suffer emotional problems, and inablity to complete an education, there is financial problems also. I think the church,ngo, remand homes,step fathers and step moms, have a role in helping children from broken homes. The church should be able to provide that comforting assistance to these children and also assist in training this children. Special skills acquisition could be set up to train children from broken homes by the government. The views I expressed is based on my experience about children from broken homes in Nigeria and Africa as a continent.

There are some broken families out there.If they are sweet,helpful ,loving family at first,but later they break up. Sometimes the cause is that having affairs to other person,no understanding and etc. But its sad for those children because they are affected.

I guess it's kind of silly to suppose that all family breaking, and just this is what is causing emotional stress and what it only causes is trauma for the kids. Most kids coming from broken families are just as healthy and optimistic as others. It's nice to have an idyllic family, but these traumas these kids get aren't necessarily worse than the ones people coming from the perfect families can face somewhere, some other time in their lives. Kids should be left to cope with these matters their own way, unless it's threatening lives. They are going to face problems anytime in their lives, mabye it makes them stronger if they experience it at a younger stage. Also, when their parents are fighting, kids sense the tension, and that's not good for them, either. In these cases, divorce could be the best option...

It is not an easy situation to be in, for both parents and children. I am also a product of a broken family, and even if I may seem strong and tough (as what others would say), I also have my share of psychological and emotional troubles as I go through the pain and the disappointment. I became more responsible with myself and my actions, after the sad incident happen, but I don't want to call it a positive outcome. I can still learn to be responsible and even have a better personality if my family had stayed in tact. I think the only positive result I could note is that the kids are spared of seeing their parents fight and hurt each other everyday. If the parents can't live a harmonious life together under one roof, and they've tried everything they can to fix their issues, but still failed - it would be best for them to just live separate lives and not let their children witness how they maltreat each other.

You can always give love to your children.