Do love is tough to get even it is real?
By kajal1992
@kajal1992 (354)
India
April 29, 2012 8:25am CST
I am little sad today because somebody said something to me which really touched me and I need to find its answer. Mom and Dad loves their daughter, they grow their child to a perfect girl, till she was good obeying girl, after sometime she fall in love with a boy and they love each other with lots of dreams, her parents wants she will only marry to that boy which will be chosen by her parents and not the boy she love, only this time she refuse the words of her parents, she is not willing to marry with the boy chosen by them, her parents started to say that she is bad she is not respecting us blah blah, is finding own love means disobeying the parents? or finding love is a tough work?
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5 responses
@viji_v2 (727)
• India
30 Apr 12
Hi kajal, for both of the questions my answer is 'no'. Those parents are loving their daughter. In the fear that her daughter should not be cheated by someone or to face sorrow they are compelling her to marry a man of their choice. The daughter should think that they are loving her and in love they are just using harsh words. If she believes that he is the right man and want to marry him and live long, she has to take him to her parents to let them know about her love. They will surely understand.
@kajal1992 (354)
• India
30 Apr 12
Thanks for dropping down viji, well if what the boy chosen by her parents is more worst than the boy she loves, her parents may had never seen what is in his mind, parents only see the outside of the boy, so whats wrong with the boy who loves each other from last four years, they may know each other more than anyone else... and yes sometime culture and tradition also matter but it don't suit now, every thing need a change
@viji_v2 (727)
• India
30 Apr 12
It is not I mentioned that the girl should go for what her parents chose. I insisted that she should take her lover to her parents to let them decide further about her love and lover.
Yes it is not sure what if the boy would like even if he is chosen by her parents. But no parents wont let their daughter life down at any time if they love her truly. Here they just need their recognition as parents to choose her life partner to take care of her life long. It is not idea for her to take her lover to them and get permission from them if she loves him truly.
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
30 Apr 12
It actually depends on the family or the traditions they want to follow. I don't think the girl is 'bad' because she doesn't want to marry someone else. I don't think the parents are wrong because they just want what's best for the daughter.
It's really funny how love is. We don't choose who we love, neither could we really explain why we love the person we love. Most parents would always see this 'love' as something petty and something unreal, their understanding of love is different because for sure they love the daughter very much too.
I guess they need to sort it out (well, it's rare for the parents to listen to the kids anyway, but it sure is worth to try). I think it's the only way for them to truly understand. But most of the times they will never understand till they grow old really.
I guess I am just lucky that I don't belong in a tradition that forces children to marry or where parents chooses the husband for their daughters and wives for their sons. Else, I would be in that turmoil as well. I wish that they'd just let the two people meet up and become friends and kept them together in all things so that they'd be sure that they'd love each other and not to just meet when they're already old.
Have a great MyLot experience ahead!
@cutefem123 (228)
• India
29 Apr 12
finding love is the most toughest part of a humans life. but after he/she finds love he/she will be more attracted towards that lovable person only. If parents love is more than that guy she won't say that she will marry him only. she will say that she will marry him if her parents agree. I think My point is true
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
29 Apr 12
To me when it comes to love it should be the womens and the mans choice if they want to be together or not and if they want to get married or not. Other wise to me no body else should have a say.
@geen1234 (111)
• Philippines
29 Apr 12
If that will happen to me, i will chose the one I love. I will never be happy if i will marry the person i do not love at all. I know my parent will understand me, time can tell when they will accept my decision but i know someday they will forgive me, i will just pray to God that my decision is right for him.
