what to do with unreasonable people?
By chiyochan
@chiyosan (30183)
Philippines
April 29, 2012 8:12pm CST
I have this person well, who was unreasonable not in front of me but behind my back. He and She was sure as hell making my life difficult because of some things going on. It was a project we started working on but then no help was given to me... I finished the documents on my own - without them asking for anything or letting me know how they can help and they went behind my back and is being unreasonably unfair because they apparently saw minor - as in itsy bitsy minor thing that was worth correcting in my paper... =( darn. people can make you feel awful at times! it makes me sad that i thought these people are with me - smiling and as if nothing was going on and i would hear they raised me as a concern with someone else.
this is disheartening. =(
5 responses
@megamatt (14291)
• United States
2 May 12
Well there is sometimes no reasoning with unreasonable people. Otherwise they would not have been rather unreasonable to say the very least. There are just times where it is rather frustrating and there are times, where people tend to just really do something, where there is absolutely no pleasing them ever. And by ever, I do in fact mean ever.
Some people tend to just pick apart everything, because they are rather picky when you think about it. It is rather frustrating, but these people are just something that we need to deal with. We just need to press on, rather press forward, and just tackle life as it is, just really take life for what it is. Sometimes we just got to deal with it and hope that things will improve.
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@chiyosan (30183)
• Philippines
4 May 12
Oh yeah, you bet i have been trying to deal with him ever since i knew about what he said behind my back. He was so pushy and he was really unreasonable to begin with. i am not going to ever let him get away with it by just pretending nothing happened. i have started not to respond to his doing this to me and i sure hope he gets a hint that he can't be like that all the time to people.,
@annierose (21571)
• Philippines
30 Apr 12
Hi chiyosan,
We cannot avoid such kind of people. I have met people like that too many times. They are only good when you are in front of them but once you are no longer present , they will say bad things about you. Just be true to yourself. If you can ignore them, then just do. I think so that people who are doing such bad things are people who are insecure. For sure, you have good things in you that they don't have so they tell things which is unfavorable with you. Don't be sad. As long as you are not doing bad, everything is okay. Those kind of people do not worth your time. Just continue doing what you love. Happy mylotting!
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@chiyosan (30183)
• Philippines
4 May 12
thank you annie rose. i think it is really something that like you said is very inevitable. we can really see or find people we do not agree with all the time but i guess we just have to understand that whatever they feel or do should not really make a difference but only better ourselves.
@bewitchingmelody (366)
• Philippines
30 Apr 12
I think you should just ignore those kind of people. Don't mind them because the more you entertain them in your thoughts, the more you will become miserable. Besides, who are they to have such right when they're just nobody. Cheer up girl! You're better than them. GOD BLESS! ^_^
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@chiyosan (30183)
• Philippines
30 Apr 12
thank you melody for your response. appreciate it much. this is why i think mylot does a lot to us, users... we can almost always share and vent and no one is going to bash you for being human - that we get hurt, we go through stuffs, and so on. thankyou once again... and God bless you too.
@blink69nix0 (847)
• Philippines
30 Apr 12
those person or people who always say bad things about you is insecure. They just make you pathetic infront of others but they don't know the more they add words the more they curse. Just ignore them I know this time shall come to pass keep in mind you're born to defend yourself. No matter what as long your in the right track.
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@chiyosan (30183)
• Philippines
30 Apr 12
yeah, i guess though i try i will still have to speak with theperson because we are doing a project together and well.. i will just have to put on another layer of protective shield of some sort (meaning i need to just try to feel and think that his bad side did not show) sometimes i cannot stand to look at them because i feel betrayed. =(
@sherrybelle (707)
• United States
30 Apr 12
Rise above the situation and realize that other people don't have the power to "make you" feel awful.
Choose to feel good about yourself and the effort you've made. Limit your time with people who aren't good friends and be selective about who you spend time with.
Good luck!
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@chiyosan (30183)
• Philippines
30 Apr 12
hi sherrybelle, thank you so much for your response. Your response made me realize that by feeling this way i have really given them the power over myself. Ha... i guess it is really up to me then, i know i am better than this, and this situation. I will just try to focus on work and what i still need to do.
Sometimes I just feel i sad especially everytime i see the person.. i remember and wonder how can this person be such an a-hole especially knowing that i would be informed about their comments. geesh. ok ok.. i'll try hard not to think about it
