My Little Schoolgirl came home crying, again..for the 3rd time
By jureathome
@jureathome (5361)
Philippines
April 29, 2012 9:27pm CST
I'm getting concerned about my little girl's behaviour, this past few days. Last Thursday, her nanny told me that she was just crying at school but remained inside the classroom with her teacher pacifying her. The next day, she was crying again, and this time she wasn't able to do her writing activities in class, so they just let her bring it home as an assignment. And, then today, as I was going thru myLot responses, I was surprised to hear the door open and see her standing there looking at me sadly. She cried again, and this time, she didn't go inside the school gate, at all.
The only reason I could think of why she's going thru this, is because her cousins are staying here for the week, and she doesn't want to miss a minute with them. So, she frets about going to school as she wants to stay with them.
Tomorrow, the kids will be gone, and I just really hope everything else will be back to normal, with her attitude about schooling.
She wasn't like this at start of summer class.
Could there be other reasons of the sudden change of mood?
What tips can you share to help me and my little girl.
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6 responses
@chrystaltears (3392)
• United States
1 May 12
How old is your little girl. My little girl is grown up now, but she cried when she was going to school. Sometimes it was peer pressure. Lots of times. But we always talked about things as it was only the two of us. I sometimes took her to school in the morning with both of us having tears in our eyes. Sometimes when there are three friend groups, they will shut one out for a day or so, and it will make one of them cry, but later it will be the other two shutting one of the others out. I don't know if it could be anything like this. We went through alot of different things. Wish you could just get her to talk to you about it. I wish the best for you two, that she will be happy and not feel like crying.
@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
1 May 12
She's turning 4 this June, and its her first time to go to school. I was also a crybaby during my time, and I cried on the very first day and didn't want my mother to leave me.
She was better, because she didn't cry on her first day, and I told her that so she'd be proud of herself. But, I guess it was too soon to tell.
@me123party (487)
• United States
30 Apr 12
Dear,
Maybe your little girl is crying because she is thinking of spending time with her cousins and thinking about how much fun they are having and she is stuck at school.I have felt the same feeling before.It also could be the lack of sleep becaus when you have a bunch of kids on a school night sometimes you don't get your kids to sleep on time.And with the lack of sleep she could be very tired at school and wanting to be home.The last thing I can think of is that of the lack of routine.Sometimes when your morning and night routine get changes it could affect her mood.I hope things get back to normal and your llittle girl stops crying and is happy :).
@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
1 May 12
It can't be lack of sleep, because she still sleeps and wakes up, at the same time as usual. I hope its really just about having the kids around.
@jazel_juan (15746)
• Philippines
30 Apr 12
oh that is sad..why not observe first after the cousins are gone..if she is still crying, maybe find out first if something is upsetting her at school..
hope you sort this out, i know how it feels to see you kids upset 
@MakingCents (743)
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30 Apr 12
If she's out of her routine, or if there is something she would rather be doing at home then I guess it can make sense that she's been crying and acting up at school. Hopefully when things go back to normal she'll feel better about being at school and her behavior will return to normal.
@TheIzers (680)
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30 Apr 12
Hi Jureathome, I hope you are right that she doesn't want to go to school because afraid of missing things with her cousin however, I think you might want to talk to her about her feeling and the reason why she cried to make sure that it's the reason. As parents and as teacher I saw some of my student acted like this, they cried and got to the point they won't make it to the school gate and the reason could be one of yours afraid loosing attachment from family (cousin, parents, sibling etc.) and the other reason could be from school doesn't feel comfortable/ problem with friends/teacher. If the problem comes from school we should discuss it with school counselor or principal. good luck 
@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
30 Apr 12
I really do hope it's just a temporary thing. When school started, she never cried or showed dislike about the whole schooling idea. She happily talks about her day at school and her classmates, when she arrives. It just started when her cousins came. I will make sure to speak with the teacher, tomorrow.
@whoslovetanyway (58)
• Philippines
30 Apr 12
May be the best thing you'll do is to talk to her, ask her what bothers her. It's really hard to make assumptions but it does help too. You may ask her teacher how she's been doing at school. May be there's something or someone that causes her to act or to respond like that. Bullying can be one too. And if it's because of spending more time with her cousins, explain to her that she could still spend more time with them after school. Or that you could also visit them at their house after summer classes are over.
@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
30 Apr 12
I always ask her, and all she says is that she doesn't want to go to school anymore. She just wants to stay at home. She always comes home with happy stories about her day at school, that's why I'm thinking it may just be about missing the fun with her cousins at our house.
