Do you like to be controlled?

... And when I started typing out the response... there was no one else... and by the time it got posted I am at #3... Now doesnt my ISP control that or even a slow MyLot?

Haha,that only means the two there are faster than you buddy,lol! You remind me of my hubby,now I am missing him that much! I don't know why I always unintentionally control my hubby but it's fine with him. Sometimes,he would even ask me first if he's going to do it or not,yay! And what I will say,he will do! But frankly,I don't wanna be controlled by my hubby,lol!

Dear Sidhu, I know your weakness Your doctor is controlling you, I think definitely you don't like, but under some circumstances you have to. That is life. I don't think I have any control on my hubbyBut he does have the habit of asking simple things, may I do it or not, but in case of serious cases, he is the boss (lol). My sons have some control on me for sure.

Hello Vijikutty, Yes 'love' and 'care' is a weapon to control Sadly all people won't like to take in the right sense dear. There start problems. Take care dear.

Who is the viji_v2? may i know?

That is true sis. *hugs

Hello celticeagle, Ok I agree it break when in case of partners. What about in other kind of relationship.

Victoria, I am glad to know that you like to be controlled. Yes, controlling means, there is some more care and concern. The same time it is not applicable in all cases. I mean, it varies in person to person or in different relationships.

everythng depends on the person. as for me, i like when somebody controlles me it eans that he cares about me, that he wishes me the best. but when ny non cntrolles me it is like "Fuuuu" :DD

I must learn many things from you dear. I easily lost my patience.

Dear sister, I loved your response. What about your children dear, will you listen or like to be controlled by them. Am not asking the reverse question anyway.

My kids- I don't think they're controlling me. I raised my kids the other way- I am their mom and they are my best friends. Even when they are small ones, I talked to them like adult and not as small kids. That is why they grow up, they treated me like a friend. We fight, honestly, we fight like friends. They can always say and open their hearts to me. they can express their feelings. If they don't like what i said- they can tell me and I listen. We debate and resolve issues. If they want to go out, they go out with me and they seldom go out with their friends. Even late night when they want to drive somewhere and eat or crave for their favorite foods, we do go out and look for a place where we can have some food trip and sit for a while -talk and have some laugh. It's hard to raise young teens alone- but somehow I've manage to tame them :)

Even i do prepare oats for my hubby.... but he seems to be ok with it but not everyday.

Oh ok then, but here he won't touch it if I prepare.

Hey.. try those flavoured ones... or try making dosa / sandwiches etc... Best thing - make what he loves, especially cooked by you...

Hello Zammee, Love means freedom. Same time those who love us, asked, not to do something, then we may consider the same.

but controlling is not love, the p erson controls as he or she feels the controllee is their poession not a real love for a woman or man.

Hello Kala dear, Have I written anywhere I have argued with my husband? No way, and this discussion is not related with him at all. I rarely argue with him, I argue when I am sure that I can win else 'silence is golden'. Now a days kids also don't like to be controlled.

Hello GemmaR, Asking opinion or helping the other one to take decision among partners is common and needed for a healthy relationship. But the other one never get the feeling, I am being controlled. When there is ‘love’ the controlling seems to be good but too much controlling will definitely break the relation.

Hello vandana ji, That means, you are considering many things when in case of controlling. The person should be qualified to control you, that is what I gathered from your response.

Not the qualification that comes from the universities. Qualification with reasoning is the best I can say. I become unreasonable when there is ego conflict if I feel the other person is not as good.

Hello stanley, Yes, that is something ridiculous to listen, 'don't do this and that'. Even kids don't like to get controlled all the time.

Dear mtr, No confusion at all dear. Love does not mean control, but freedom only. Yes, in case of children, we tend to be liberal and act according to their wish. Love to your angel.

hi mtr my daughter controls me,haha! If she says she wants me to play like the role of a monster,I have no choice but to do it, my response now makes more sense to me... I too mention - I know i will be controlled by my daughter when we have one... cute angels I must say.

Hello thelmadacullo, Controlling ourselves, I think that is a must in our life.

Hello jureathome, In childhood it is normal to get control over by parents or elders. Children need to be controlled to learn discipline in their life.

Discipline is good, with the right approach. But, I also have seen the wrong ways of other parents in trying to raise their kids to be obedient individuals. So wrong that they grow up to be rebels and notorious people trying to prove their right to be free from their parents' leash. My husband and his 3 brothers took off from home, one by one, the very chance they get to leave, because they could no longer live the way their father controls them. But, good thing, they still became good men and fathers of their own kids.

Hello arlera, Yes, controlling may make you hide things from your friend or the person who controls you.

Hello cupkitties, How do you conclude that I mentioned about my hubby/partner here. I have so many other close in my life, children, parents, siblings etc. In case of my hubby, I know him very well, what he like and don't like.

Hello Shanizzt, I agree, it related with the person and situations. When there is love and care, nobody can deny the control (as in the case of you)

Hi obe, What I understand from your response is, we are controlled in some way or other even though we don’t like to be controlled. I mean we have some kind of limitations and it is a part of disciplined life.

Hello victoria, You felt that control (your boy friend's) is a care, that is understanding dear. Understanding and compromises are essential to lead a happy life.

Hello Tamosree, You like to be controlled?

Hello doroffee, When we start to living with our partner/husband, automatically some control is coming up and I think it is necessary too. It does not mean that the partner may destroy our freedom. All the best to you for getting an understanding partner in your life.