What would you do if your son was angry with you because you wouldn't lie?
By Dominique25
@Dominique25 (9464)
United States
May 1, 2012 2:37pm CST
Some people's reasoning about things get to me. My brother was yelling at my mom on the phone today because she basically didn't lie for him. He is cheating on his wife and this pass weekend he brought his girlfriend to visit my mom. Today while him and his wife were together talking to my my mom on the phone she asked if he brought her down. She wouldn't answer and made me talk on the phone to them. So later my brother called cussing her out saying that all she had to do was tell her that she didn't bring her down. Which would be a huge big lie. Now mind you he says he wants to work things out with his wife and his wife is trying to get to the truth about the whole situation. Yet my brother continues to lie to his wife and he can't figure out why she doesn't want to stay with him. What would you do if you were in that situation. Or if that was how your sibling treated your mom or dad?
9 responses
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
1 May 12
It is your mother her right to be honest. If your brother doesn't know his mother that well it's his problem. If he doesn't want her to lie he should have been smarter to not her know what he is doing.
I would not lie for any of my kids and they know I would never do that, no matter how hard they yell at me. BTW if they do so I kick them out.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
2 May 12
Yeah I agree with you. My mom has told him countless times that she didn't want to be involved in their situation. She doesn't want to be the middle man. Out of nowhere he shows up at her house with this new girl he's with. My mom lives two hours away from him. He was disrespectful by putting her in a situation knowing that his wife would want to know if my mom has met this woman and that the only way she could meet her is if my brother brought her to see our mom. I definitely wouldn't put up with all that. He is being disrespectful with all of his actions. Knowing that our mom has heart problems and has high blood pressure she doesn't need any added stress because of his immaturity.
@viju0410 (2286)
• India
2 May 12
Hi,
It is the fault of the son and he is already in trouble and a mother’s ‘lie’ is not going to save him forever. In fact if your mother had lied, then she herself would be losing the dignity as well as the respect of this son’s wife. If I was in her place, I would have done the same thing and I would not support him until unless he’s over with his marriage. Calling mother again and cussing shows that he is immature and unable to handle his responsibilities. Since you say he is trying to work out things with wife, it is better leave the decisions up to them.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
5 May 12
I agree with you. He has to take care of his own problem. He should know that the situation he has got himself in, isn't going to get better by lying or trying to get others to lie for him. That is why he makes me so angry because he expects others to do something that isn't truthful in his behalf. It is so disrespectful to expect others to lie for you.
@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
2 May 12
Your Mom did the right thing. She should not lie for your brother and your brother should not expect her too. He sounds extremely disrespectful - especially towards women. I hope his wife wakes up and divorces him.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
5 May 12
Yeah I agree my mother did the right thing. I was surprised that my brother EXPECTED her to lie for him. He was upset with her because she didn't. He really is so backwards. Yeah he is disrespectful. I'm pretty sure that my sister in law is going to move on with her life and find happiness with someone that treats her the way she deserves to be treated.
@nonersays (3335)
• United States
2 May 12
Neither of my brothers OR myself would put our parents through that! Its horrible enough that he's not hiding his cheating FROM her, but to expect her to help him hide it from his wife is HORRID.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
5 May 12
I'm glad that you and your family wouldn't do something like that. That really would be awful. I'm still upset with my brother about his actions. And he will not get over it. He called my mom the other day and said that all she had to do was call his wife back and tell her that he didn't bring the woman over. He needs to let it go. I think that his wife is done trying to work on their marriage because he just continues to lie.
@naija4real (1291)
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2 May 12
Why is the mother or father called a Parent? It is because the mother and father are the leader of the child. A leader should show good example. If a mother or father start telling lies to defend an erring child in public then what example is the parent showing to the child and to the viewing public.
Positive value and good moral are becoming rare in most of our society because parents are now turning a blind eye to the truth. It is a bad parent that will defend an erring child.
As for the man cheating on his wife which you mentioned in your questions. I still think it is wrong to expect someone to tell lies on your behalf. Be that person a mother, father, brother, sister, friend, etc
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
2 May 12
I completely agree with what you are saying. It is important for parents to set a good example. I agree it is wrong to tell lies. And we shouldn't be expected to cover up for someone else's mistake. I'm younger than my brother and yet I'm mature enough to see all the mistakes he's making and why things are turning out bad for him. And yet he doesn't. He has a good wife and yet he is ruining his marriage and in the end will have a sad outcome.
@TheIzers (680)
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2 May 12
Your mom is right, and your brother has no right to make your mother to lie for him. He is not a kid anymore, instead of getting upset and tried to make your mom liar he should learn to take care his problem. I think he just got upset because now his wife found the true. That's his fault who brought his girlfriend to your mom in the first place so if he keep whining about your mom wouldn't lie I will tell him "deal with it or don't make your problem into ours."
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
5 May 12
I agree. He really needs to learn to handle his own problems. Instead of getting everyone else involved. That just isn't right or fair. It is definitely his fault and he can't blame others because he has gotten himself into this mess.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
2 May 12
I completely agree with you. He was literally screaming and yelling at my mom because she would not get on the phone and tell his wife that he didn't bring his girlfriend over. I told my mom as well that if his wife had asked me about it that I wouldn't lie to her. She is a wonderful person and she doesn't deserve all that he is putting her through. He has such a big ego and thinks everything is a game. He still says that he isn't seeing the girl when he is. He thinks that just because he doesn't say that she's his girlfriend that that is the case. Some people are so backwards in their thinking process.
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
1 May 12
One as a mother myself I would never lie for my kids at all. If they are cheating on there partner then there parent has ever reason to leave them if they want to work it out then my child will have to stop what they are doing.
If this was either of my brothers I would tell them to f off because one that is our parents why the heck are my parents going to lie for them because they messed up then they need to live with that it not my parents.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
2 May 12
I completely agree with you. I was so mad at my brother. I could not believe that he was yelling at her on the phone because she didn't tell his wife that he didn't bring his girlfriend down. He expected her to lie for him and he made it sound like it was her fault that his wife is now again mad at him. All the problems he is having is his own doing. He can't blame anyone else. And he shouldn't have brought his girlfriend to our moms house. My mom lives two hours away from him and he just out of nowhere pops up with his girlfriend. He should have asked her how she felt about that before putting her in that situation. Knowing that is wife would ask if she had meet the other woman. It is so awful. I told my mom not to let him get to her. That she isn't involved. And that we hope his wife will be able to just move on with her life because she deserves better.
@Noseclams (149)
• United States
1 May 12
I know that lying is wrong, but he shouldn't have put anyone in a position that they would have to lie for him. This dude sounds like a jerk and pretty stupid for bring his girlfriend to meet his family when he has a wife.
I would have pulled him to the side and told him that he and his girlfriend need to leave and she is not welcome in the house, and if he pulls another stunt like that than I would tell his wife what he is up to. I realize this doesn't help you in your situation at all, I just wanted to throw in my 2 cents.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
2 May 12
Thanks for sharing your thoughts. I completely agree with you he shouldn't expect others to cover up his mistakes. He's made his bed now he's got to sleep in it. He can't be mad at others because he didn't arrange the sheets right. He makes me so mad. My mom lives two hours away from and he just shows up out of nowhere with his girlfriend. Knowing that my mom doesn't want to be involved and that she didn't want to be rude to the other woman. But my brother should know better than to do something like that. He really has been disrespectful.
