He asked to borrow my bike at midnight !!!!
By ryanong
@ryanong (9665)
Vietnam
May 1, 2012 10:10pm CST
I live in the second floor and he lives in the first floor. He is student and he has a bicycle. However since i moved to that house, he often borrows my motorbike. Many reasons he gave me such as he should go to take a fan, he should go to his uncle house, he should go to buy some stuff, etc...Some first times, i was OK with it and happy to let him lend my motorbike, but it is annoying when he often asks me to borrow.
This time i am so tired and i go to sleep early. But midnight yesterday, around 12 pm, he called me to borrow my motorbike again. I was very sleepy and didn't want to wake up but he called and called...and i had to wake up to give him my motorbike' key and a helmet.
I tried to re-sleep but couldn't. 1 hour, 2 hours past, 3 hours past i could not re-sleep...I am so annoyed of it.
8 responses
@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
4 May 12
It is an house, not an apartment. To save money for rent a house in here, i stay in there for a while. However, we live in separate rooms, using separate toilet and bathroom also. I don't think it is a big problem to concern. Renting a house in here is so expensive, so that there are 5-10 people living together in a house which has many rooms for saving money.
The main things i wanna discuss in here is my neighbor called me at midnight to borrow my motorbike, It is really annoy me.
@fashionfever (2200)
• Indonesia
2 May 12
Hi Ryanong, I can imagine how do you feel. that is really annoying when someone annoyed our sleeping time, this person is really disrespect you and being selfish. I think you should tell him NO, not to borrow your motorbike unless for a real urgent situation that cant be reach by his bicycle. If he wanted to borrow your motorbike, he could have asked you earlier so he doesnt have to annoy your sleep. In the end he has a bicycle, he could use his bicycle instead of always depend on other people to borrow him motorcycle. How about the petrol he used? Even if he bought you petrol for your motorbike but he has no right to annoy your sleep. This person really try to use you and your motorbike, as for me I dont borrow my motorbike to other people except my family members or a real urgent situation. Most people nowadays own a motorbike or a vehicle and then I also need to know if the person who want to borrow my motorbike is a good rider and have a driving license type C, I dont want something happen to my motorbike.
@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
2 May 12
Yes, you are right. In the beginning time i was ok because i think he borrows my motor bike 1-2 times is ok. But his borrowing is never stop i think. it is so annoying.
He has no a driving license also, i know it. The fact is i really need my motorbike for going to work everyday. Without a motorbike, I cant go to anywhere. So that i don't want any problem coming to my bike. If he has a mistake when driving, police may keep my motorbike for a month because he has no a driving license, no my motorbike document.
You know what, when i could not sleep, i heard he went back with a gal after 1 hour, they was talking talking. I am not curious about it but it is noisy at night time also.
I should do like you, i have to learn to say NO to him when he asks to borrow my bike.
@Victoria222 (675)
• Russian Federation
2 May 12
yeah, but what will happen if you say no? you will beok you will do what you want, you won't have to give YOUR bike to him. it is your own thing so do not give to him. you are the ownerso you can decide whether to give it or not.
@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
2 May 12
I really don't know exactly how is he feel if i say No directly to him, so that i am still consider about it... He and i live in the same house so that i don't want something is not nice between us. But I really don't like he borrows my bike regularly like right now.
@maclanis (2406)
• Belgium
2 May 12
I think it's rude that he called and kept calling when you didn't pick up just to borrow your bike. He should have figured out that you were already asleep! You should talk to him, and tell him that it annoys you. It's okay if he borrows it every now and then, but he shouldn't borrow it at night, or I don't know whenever you don't wan it.
@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
3 May 12
If that guy thought carefully before borrowing, he could not called me at midnight when lamps in my room is turned off already.
Of course, i don't want to get annoys from him, especially at midnight. Talking with him as you said is the way to solve this problem.
Thank you so much.
@stanley777 (9402)
• Philippines
2 May 12
You should tell him about this and say that there are limits to when he can borrow it.. He should know that what he did upset you..You could have just cut the line of the phone..or turn it off.
@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
3 May 12
Hix, he knocked my door and called me wake up. At that time i slept already and lamps are turned off.
You are right, he should know the limitation of borrowing something from me...But i am still considering...about talking with him. He and I live in separate rooms but in the same house, so that i really don't want something not nice happens. How can i talk to him and he still feel happy with my suggestion?
@Victoria222 (675)
• Russian Federation
2 May 12
i think you should say no to him. there are lot of people that can not say no.i was that type of a person 2 years ago. but then i was annoyedthat some people used me just for their purpose i got really angry with it so i finally said no. :) you should do the same.
@Lida2010 (84)
• Colombia
3 May 12
I think you should set some boundaries with your neighbor or friend. You should not feel guilty for saying no at times and should loan out your things at your discretion and not at someone elses' request. Remember that when you purchase or own something, it is for your use and/or enjoyment and not for someone else to take advantage of. Lastly, remember that your friend/neighbor can only go as far as you let him. Have a talk with him and let him know how you feel and that this borrowing cannot be constant.
@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
3 May 12
Exactly he is a neighbor, not my friend. Normally if i meet him i just say hi and then i go up to my room in the second floor.
You are right, I should set up the boundaries for anything.
Honestly, i am complaisant so that i fell so guilty for saying NO when someone ask to borrow me a bike or money. I used to lost money because of it. Now is my bike. I really don't want something happens to my bike because i need it everyday...
I will try to be courage to say No to him when he borrows my bike too many times.
@vaishnavc (556)
• India
2 May 12
Well i think it would be okay for him to borrow your bike sometimes.When there is some emergency and all.But not all the time.So make it clear to him that your bike is not public property.Tell him that you will lend it to him on emergencies only.
@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
2 May 12
Ya, you are right, i am OK to lend him my motorbike but not many times like currently and made me up to borrow a bike as last night. He can use a bicycle as he used to use right?
But I am quite complaisant so that it is not easy for me to say directly to him that my bike is not public property and i will lend a bike to him on the urgent situations only. Should i write it on the paper and leave it in his door?
@jupijupi77 (257)
• Malaysia
2 May 12
I think you should talk to him..Try to make him understand..looks like he just take advantage from you.For me its okay borrowed someone stuff sometimes but if often like that it was totally wrong..
