People Who Love to Argue

I am a non-confrontative person. I do not like arguing or debating or fighting. I enjoy discussions on many topics where persons share and listen without intensity. I like being relaxed, peaceful and serene. I live in senior citizen housing and many of the residents are very confrontive and combative. I avoid those residents because I find them so exhausting and draining.

To me argument and debate are two different things. An argument implies an altercation, a heated discussion where tempers flare, insults are hurled and hurtful things are said. A fight that is non-physical if you will. On the other hand a debate is a more controlled discussion that offers different or contrasting opinions on a subject. Having cleared that up I can say that I find people who love to argue irritating. Why argue? It only brings about negative energy for everyone involved, including the one who loves to argue. Some debates are televised, as in political debates. In fact, debates can be quite healthy and can actually bring about solutions to problems. Arguing rarely serves any positive purpose.

Dear Megamatt, I too feel some times the same way you are feeling now! I know few people for whom arguing is their birth right! They can debate on any thing from any side with full zeal and enthusiasm for hours together! Once I had been to my cousin's place and having spent some tome over there, when my cousin asked me how I liked the place, I told him that every thing is fine but here people are having the habit of arguing about anything and everything! My cousin smiled at me and said that it is the habit formed by these people here as they really don't have any purposeful work to do and they are never serious in their lives and that is why they are indulging into such silly activities! He in fact was referring to those youths who were qualified and were unemployed! As per him out of frustration these people are aggressive and they have made it an habit to argue about anything which has now become part and parcel of their life! Initially I never got convinced about his views, after giving a long thought today I feel he is right in a way. People who are frustrated, insecure and who have the identity crisis tend to enter into debates and arguments, which in long run becomes a part and part of the personality.Such people later in their lives through have attained good position in their lives they tend to be like this because of their habit ! Such people derive pleasure from debating about anything with anybody! I do have few friends even today who are just ready to debate on any topic! But one interesting thing I have observed about these people is that these people are very smart, to steal our ideas and subject so that they can be used in later argument with some one else on the same topic! For them this is a fun and sort of entertainment! Thanks dear Megamatt, I liked your discussion and enjoyed participating in it! Happy Mylotting!

I find it frustrating to have a discussion with people like that! They are always correct, and you are not. I think of one friend my husband had . . . nice guy . . . but he was a total know it all - and yes, he made a debate out of every little conversation we had. This personality of his escalated as we got older . . . to the point where the friendship had to be let go because he was getting nasty about it. I don't mind if someone is opinionated - but I don't appreciate when lines are crossed all the time.

I think there are really one, two, or more persons that really love to argue or debate, I think its their character and its their way they have been living for, and honestly its really hard to deal with this type of person.

There is a difference between a person who likes to debate as opposed to a person who just likes to argue all of the time. A person who likes to argue all of the time is very annoying whereas a person who debates most times has the grounds to debate an issue. Yes, it's quite amusing to see a person who always argues make a fool out of themselves.

It makes me sad when people argued about things even a little things. I don't understand why they can't compromise with each other or give way to others. I'm not fond of arguing over unnecessary matters.I ignored most arguments which can't give me any benefits. I hope those people love to argue learn to give ways to have a friendly environment. Happy mylotting!

This is especially annoying when in a matter there is the possibility of two different opinions to exist at the same time. Many people try to force others that their opinion is the right one, not accepting that you can just have a different thought on a matter. The other people that you mention in your "smartness" example.. well I think they kinda have a problem if they cannot even accept a compliment:P

There are those that like to argue but also those that like to debate. It can also be two different points of view that can even happen within themselves. The zebra with black strips or was that white ones?

I find them frustrating most of the time. I know of one person who says the opposite and tries to contridict everything at any given time she pleases just so she can be so called "right" and most of the time she is not. She likes to have the feeling that she is smart but in the end she is the dumbest person I have ever known. Asking questions that are totally dumb and then gets mad if someone else asks a normal question, a real turn off as far as a person, for me.

Those type of people aggravate me. I knew somone who would argue over everything and anything including pizza. We had a difference of opinion of a certain pizza chain. She could not accept that we had different opnions, she had to tell me i was wrong.