I am wondering about what is the role of a mother.

I am so sorry to hear that this is how your daughter feels, Marguicha. I do think that a mother's role ... or actually a parent's role, since fathers should have the same nurturing roles as mothers ... is to be supportive and healing. I also think that our role is to help teach our children right from wrong or acceptable versus unacceptable, and that means that sometimes we need to be firm and choose the path that might not be the easiest or the seemingly most supportive, when in fact it actually is, even though our children might not realize it at the time. However, I also think that the support goes both ways. How can we teach our children sympathy and empathy if we do not talk with them about our feelings and let them comfort us as we comfort them? I think that having a healthy relationship requires both parties to be able to talk with each other, support each other and stand by each other, even when we might not agree with the choices the other is making. So yes, I think that children should help take care of parents at times just as parents take care of the children.

This is just sad on her part, and selfish, in my opinion. The healing she needs is a heart transplant.. I have no health problems at this time, but my daughter informed me a year ago that she and her husband plan to take care of his parents or myself and my hubby or even my brother and his wife who have no children, if the need should ever come up. Bless her heart. I think you need to take care of you if she is not. Does she feel that she has not been shown the support she needs?

Children who do not support his parents, the children who are not loyal and will be in trouble in his/her life. I do not agree with such a child's attitude. But, if my kids and not being supported, then I will prepare the other things that can support if I was not helpless.

Expectations differ from one's perspective. For me mothers should always be supportive to their children. Speaking of supportive, I meant that mothers would always be like a friend and counselor to their children but not to extent of making them futile in their future lives. If I am in your shoes, I would explain my expectations towards my children and why do I have that kind of perspective. Children must understand each role especially to their parents.

Hi marguicha! Speaking of roles of a mother,we have lots of roles! I for one,is the caretaker,laundrywoman,teacher,friend,etc., to my kids. With regards to the support,I think it goes natural since we love our kids. Can't help myself but to support them in any ways I can. I would love for my kids to be with me when I'm old and somehow take good care of me. But I know that would be too much to ask especially if they have their own families then. But I know,with love for their mother,they will somehow support me,even in simple ways,I hope,lol!

I don't know. The Gospel of John (I think) makes sort of a big deal of mothers by having the crucified Jesus 'pass His mother on to the disciple' (Him saying, "Disciple, this is your mother now; and mother, this disciple is your son.") While I agree with your daughter that mother's aren't supposed to 'expect' help--as if it is somehow 'owed' to them--mothers do get help when they need it---help that typically comes from their children. If my mother needed help (which I don't foresee happening), my sister & brother-in-law and two neices have been living with her for years and will most likely be there.