People you know requesting to be added as friends in facebook
@triplejazzm51 (1373)
Philippines
May 3, 2012 10:04am CST
When i made an account in facebook, my intention was to be able to connect with family and close relatives here and abroad. At first i was able to strictly observe that but later there are lots of people i know who discovered my account and wanted to be added as my friends. Honestly, some of them were not really close to me, but i just don't want them to feel bad so i confirmed them as my friends. Later, i realized that we don't really communicate with each other, they are just there in my list of friends but whats happening to them and their friends has really nothing to do with me. Why did they requested me to add them? So that they could know what is happening to me and compare their status with my status in life after decades of not seeing each other? Is curiosity the only reason? There are times i want to remove them, but i am afraid they will know and get angry. Do you have the same feeling too?
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6 responses
@bjc66bjc (6730)
• United States
4 May 12
Hi triplejazzm, no I don't have have that same feeling because
I am in control of my facebook account and I definately do not
accept everybody that request to be my friend..I no not need
friends that bad,,,and those i do accept I am happy to be able
to share life with them ...I find facebook to be a very good
forum to stay connected with people from the distant past and
the present as well as family who is in other places...
There are people who have requested me that are friends of friends
and I don't have any idea who they are, so I do not accept them.
Just because they are friends of friends or family dosen't in
any way mean they have to be my friend.
If you don;t accept them you don't have to worry about removing
them....LOL...
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@triplejazzm51 (1373)
• Philippines
5 May 12
Hi bjc,its good to know that you manage your facebook account very well. Truly facebook has its advantages and disadvantages. I think from your and the others points of view, i have to check my list of friends and remove some i don't really know. I will remember your line, if i don't accept them, i don't have to worry on removing them 
. Thanks.
. Thanks.
@AwesomeGuy250 (334)
• United States
3 May 12
I have not really had this dilema. My facebook is somewhat small compared to others, but that's ok. I don't really mind. I'd rather have facebook profile kept nice and organized. If someone you don't really know adds you, you can always add them and remove them later, or just not accept their request. If you know its a spam profile, I'd ignore and deny it right away.
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@triplejazzm51 (1373)
• Philippines
5 May 12
Awesome,that was my plan at first but more and more people are requesting to be friends and some are not really close to me. There are also requests, i don't accept because they have done something wrong to me before and they might do it again to me.
Apple, you are right, we should not accept people we don't trust. they might use our personal information against us. Here in my country there have been news of thievery and murder because they started as friends in facebook.
It's really best to check the profile first of those people requesting us to be friends before we confirm. Thank you.
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
4 May 12
Well, you never really know what will become of people asking to be your friend on Facebook. Many times you can have people who you know but not really friends with wanting to connect with you there just to keep a close eye, and see if you are really who you pertain to be. Or maybe it is just for a Good number, like look at me and how many friends I have.
But there have been times because of the Games on there, etc. that I have met someone and very Glad I have. We sometimes become really good friends and eventually have even talked on the phone, or someone from my past I get reacquainted with and it is a Good thing for sure.
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@triplejazzm51 (1373)
• Philippines
5 May 12
You are right, Krause, sometimes i feel suspicious of those people and i don't accept them. I did not know that some people wants to have lots of friends in facebook and I have not tried playing the games there too. I have received numerous invitations to join in these games but i just ignore them because i don't know how to play.
You are lucky to have met a nice person at facebook. There was also one thing that i am happy about this site, i have found my long lost best friend and we will see each other on June.
Take care!
You are lucky to have met a nice person at facebook. There was also one thing that i am happy about this site, i have found my long lost best friend and we will see each other on June.
Take care!
@maharlikah (1045)
• Philippines
4 May 12
At first when I was new to facebook, I accepted everybody who added me. But later I realized that why should I add them? When in fact we are not communicating in that certain social networking site. I already unfriend them anyway.And this time when I got a friend request to stranger, I do not accept it anymore. Unfriending takes time. A waste of time. :-)
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@maharlikah (1045)
• Philippines
5 May 12
Thank you so much for the info. I still have a lot who are just the same what you got, spam messages and other unnecessary invitations.
@triplejazzm51 (1373)
• Philippines
5 May 12
Wow, thanks for the information and the tips (from the two of you). Its only through this discussion i learned that there are spam friend requests in facebook. I must open my account after this so i can remove friends who are not really friends. I think i will have to do a general cleaning of my account. I will apply your technique of unfriending aschatria. Thank you so much.
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
6 May 12
During the time that I was on Facebook, I found it kind of amusing that class mates from high school wanted to be my friends, the type that would never give me the time of the day when I went to school. Really, the term "friends" have been rather kind of cheapened thanks right in part due to Facebook. It is really just another way for people to just pump up themselves up.
I think that it is amusing when people had decided to send me friend requests and I wonder if I had ever exchanged more than five words with them throughout my entire life in the world. That is rather fascinating, but really it is just to say that they have more friends. They don't care. It is all that there really is to it. It is just a status grab, just to say they have "X" number of friends.
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@triplejazzm51 (1373)
• Philippines
6 May 12
Yes, i also observed that. Some just want to boast their achievements and their children's and their relatives especially those whom we haven't seen for a very long time. I think it is just okay to remove them from our list.
@viji_v2 (727)
• India
4 May 12
In the beginning I started to think like you and added people who I rarely know their name. Later now I thought of using separate list as like close friends and just friends to club together. So it is easy for me. I used to unfriend only those who spam or just bullying me by any means.
@triplejazzm51 (1373)
• Philippines
5 May 12
That's a very good practice to copy viji, i think i have to do that too. Thanks a lot for sharing.
