I will leave all my family.

@indahfth (11161)
Indonesia
May 4, 2012 10:08am CST
Soon, I will leave all my family. Because, I must follow my husband, went to my husband's hometown. I'll live different islands with all my family. Actually, I was very heavy, leaving all my family. Moreover, my mother was ill. I have no other choice. I must go with my husband.
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asdomencil
@asdomencil (4265)
• Philippines
5 May 12
That's part of life. after marriage, whether you like it or not, you really need to go separated from your family and start your own family. It is really hard to leave them especially when you really have closed family ties/relationship. You can still visit them anyway. Good luck to the new chapter of your life.
indahfth
@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
5 May 12
Yes. I really understand it. What makes me sad, is the state of my mother who was ill. If my mother, in good health, I would not feel sad to leave.
indahfth
@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
5 May 12
My mother did not want to leave Yogyakarta.
adhyz82
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
5 May 12
why you did not bring your mother too sista??ask your husband about it.. maybe he had no objection about your request
Jane
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
4 May 12
I am sorry to hear that you need to leave your family especially in times when your mother is ill and needs some care. I think you can ask your husband to give you more time to be with your mom- just few more days until she's fine.
indahfth
@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
4 May 12
Actually, my mother has improved. The doctor told me she had recovered. My mother has a maximum healing. My mother had a stroke. The right hand and right leg can not be moved normally. I still have 2 months, to take care of my mother.
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adhyz82
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
4 May 12
so how about your mother now sista??
indahfth
@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
5 May 12
Actually, my mother, did not want me to go. But, she does not want to arrest me. Because, it should be, I followed my husband.
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celticeagle
@celticeagle (166761)
• Boise, Idaho
6 May 12
Sad t6hat you have to leave your family. Can you write to them? Be glad that you have your children with you. Whether your husband fulfills you or not. Your children are your legacy and they will live long after you are nothing but ashes. Teach them and help them to be the best they can be.
celticeagle
@celticeagle (166761)
• Boise, Idaho
6 May 12
I hope it is good for you.
indahfth
@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
7 May 12
Yes. I hope this is good for me, and my family.
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indahfth
@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
6 May 12
I was very sad to leave my family. But, we'll start a new life. I really hope, our lives will be better. And no sadness I have experienced.
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adhyz82
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
4 May 12
where?/sumatera island or kalimantan island?? what about your kids??
indahfth
@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
5 May 12
I will go to Tanjung pinang. My children also will move with us.
indahfth
@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
5 May 12
My husband, born in Tanjungpinang. My mother has improved, but has not been able to walk properly.
adhyz82
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
5 May 12
i know the place..its in riau province or maybe babel province (the new province, ex riau province) so your husband is tanjung pinang people or work in tanjung pinang? what about your mother?
Dominique25
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
4 May 12
Sorry to hear that you have to leave your family. It must be an overwhelming sadness that you feel with decision. As our family is very important to us. And now you have are a family with your husband you have to go where he goes. I hope that you will be able to find encouragement during this hard time for you. I also hope that you will be able to go visit your family from time to time.
indahfth
@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
5 May 12
Yes. I must follow my husband. I am aware of it. The hardest thing is leaving my mother who was ill. My mother, still needs me.
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Dominique25
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
19 May 12
Sorry to hear that you had to leave your mother. How far does she live from you? Will you be able to travel there to help her? Does she have other relatives who are willing to look after her if you live far away? I hope that she will have someone to care for her.
ryanong
@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
5 May 12
I can understand your feeling right now. However, married woman should follow the husband. You can have time to visit your mom and stay with her for 1-2 days when she gets sick. I hope you have a happy marriage life. Best wish for you!
indahfth
@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
6 May 12
Yes. Women who are married, have to follow her husband. I can not often visit my mother. Because, I will live on different islands. The cost of the trip is very expensive.
ryanong
@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
7 May 12
I am sorry to hear that. You mom is still sick, you can delay your going 1-2 days to be with her in this time because later you wont have much chance to meet her regularly. In case you can't do, keep your love in your heart, i believe that your mom will understand. Be happy,
indahfth
@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
7 May 12
I still have 2 months, to take care of my mother. I wish I could take advantage of 2 months, well.
hsofyan
@hsofyan (3446)
• Jakarta, Indonesia
20 May 12
Yes, a good wife must support her husband. That was the meaning of marriage.
indahfth
@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
21 May 12
Yes. Although difficult, leaving family. I must follow my husband.
momof3kids
@momof3kids (1894)
• Singapore
7 May 12
I will pray that things will be better for you. Never forget that Allah loves you and He has only good things for you. Continue to be the good wife and person that you are.
indahfth
@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
7 May 12
Thank you. I will certainly continue to pray, so we have a better life.
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slaney
@slaney (18)
• Indonesia
5 May 12
You must be very sad if should leave your family , especially your parents.but the decision to follow the husband was a good decision., however now you've built a household.
indahfth
@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
5 May 12
Yes. I am very sad to leave my parents. Moreover, my mother was sick, and really needed me.