should i tell a friend I think their child should be recieving help for autism

That is a very sensitive topic to be opening and a lot of parents deny the fact that their child is special. I don't know your relationship with the friend but if he/she is very close perhaps you need to say something but be careful of your words. My partner and I was in the same situation. When I visited him for a month and stayed with him there was a child then whose parents were my partner's housemates. Since they both worked, the mother-in-law watched the 3year old and I could constantly see him because I stayed at home. I noticed that he had difficulty in speaking and would suddenly throw fits of anger. Attention was lacking in many ways for I tried playing with him several times. I told my partner that the child displays symptoms of autism, he agreed that he noticed that too. But we both think that the parents don't want to deal with it or accept it. They frequently fought (I don't know if that's the reason, but we notice that one of them usually would sleep outside the room at night). I had told my partner to talk to them about it but he said that it's not his place to say anything. A few weeks ago, the wife talked to my partner that she noticed that her son had symptoms but wasn't sure, my partner simply told her to have him checked for sure but he never stated that he agreed because of the symptoms we both had seen. She did have him checked and found out that the child was autistic indeed. I think what's important here is that the parents should notice it first and accept it first. It's not right for anyone to say so because if the parent is in denial, then you would start creating problems or tension with the relationship. I think my partner did the right thing. He didn't intervene, but he made himself 'available to talk to'. I think you should just do that. They noticed that the child was calmer around me. I noticed that too. He liked being with me because he noticed a lot of things like my nail polish, my fingernails, etc. And I let him help me with laundry. The attention is quite short but it does come back when he is reminded. So there you go, just let them be, they'll figure it out soon. It's better that a medical professional tell them because the person has authority. But if you're really close with the mother, you could try stating that your nephew or niece already started doing this and that and was wondering why the child is a little bit late, but be optimistic do not look glum. Good luck! Have a great MyLot experience ahead!

i would but try to do it lightly because it is more common these days and the child deserves the best even if he/she does have it so i would bring it up and see if maybe she may need help and offer to just be there as a friend

I think I would bring up the subject of autism. She how she asks. Then say something about her child having it? If so, Has she had him tested? Slow and sure would be my approach. Maybe she has a problem with her son being tested or who knows. Hopefully not, but I would approach it carefully.

The parents are probably in denial stage. The best thing to do is to gain their confidence, to take up the issue about the kid's possibility of having autism so he can get some help already.

As a friend of your friend's,in my opinion,you should tell him the thing.Of course,you can tell him by some proper way.You can do it when there is only the friend around you.Maybe your friend has noticed it for a long time and any mention about it will spoil his heart.So,do it carefully.