is love the way we think or feel it is?

I agree with you to an extent. Love is a very general term, and there are tons of levels of love. Love is more than being a girlfriend/boyfriend, hunband/wife, siblings, parents, or children. Love is when you care about someone. When you genuinely care about how they feel. Someone that you want to see happy, and you work to see them happy. I believe we love our friends, family, spouces, and sometimes neighbors. It's just to different extents. I apologize but I will have to disagree with you that love is when we need someone in our lives. I believe it's lust, want, desire, love to some degree, yes. Imagine that you love someone. You feel you can't be without them no matter what, but they don't feel the same way about you. If you "love" them and have to be with them does that mean you force it on them? That would be something that they didn't like, you wouldn't be doing THEM good, you would be doing YOURSELF good. No, i'm not saying that if you ever make someone unhappy you don't love them. We are all different and we are bound to disagree such as I am with you right now. When you love someone though, you're willing to compromise. You look at their side, see what it means to them. You either let it be, and accept that they do that, or that that's their personality, or you meet them half way. Alternatively if it's something you strongly feel about you can discuss that with them as well, and perhaps they would be willing to give it up, or meet you more than half way. An example I can think of is my wife and I. I hate doing dishes, absolutely abhore it. I can't stand the hot water, or the icky feeling the water quickly gets when dirty dishes are put in it. But it's unfair that I make my wife do all the dishes. So to compromise I put the dishes away after she has washed them, or i'll clean off the table, counters, floors etc. It's not the best example, but at the moment it's the best I could think of.

I believe that if you love a person, you understand him/her and you don't insist what you want..if you don't see that person, and then you want to see him/her to make you feel better, then you are just thinking about yourself..it's not love..love don't deceive us, selfishness and other negative attitude is..