I've Found My Own World
By MoonGypsy
@MoonGypsy (4606)
United States
May 5, 2012 11:10pm CST
lately i have been finding my own hobbies and things to do that have nothing to do with husband. for example, i talk more with people on my lot than i do with him, or any body else on the outside, for that matter. it's like i am in my own world. now that i am in my own world, he wanting to come back in to mine again. what's up. what should i do. should i stay into my own thing? is it that as soon as i tune back into him again, it's back off the video game land? i don't know. i am enjoying myself. don't get me wrong, i still love spending time with him. it's just love doing me, too now.
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5 responses
@Bluedoll (16773)
• Canada
7 May 12
Hi there MoonGyspy
I say both too, it might be a balance ...
Please fasten your seat belt. We will be traveling at the speed of light. Enjoy your trip as you cruise over video game land. On the return trip the landing might be abrupt do to weather but when you meet your husband at the airport embrace and enjoy your time in that world as well. Warning some flights are restricted, no real world humans are allowed so keep that in mind. Only you might be able to go. That kind of goes for video game people too right? They have to stay in the game!
@MoonGypsy (4606)
• United States
7 May 12
this is very true, but it's not me that is the video game addict. it is him. i have just given up trying to compete with the video games. i just started getting into hobbies that i like to do instead of trying to spend my free time getting him to spend time with me.
@MoonGypsy (4606)
• United States
7 May 12
that is very true i do love him. i just want him to want to spend time with me sometimes, too. if not, i can only do what makes me happy until he wants to join me. my kids, of course, that goes without saying. yes, we spend time together.
@GardenGerty (160626)
• United States
6 May 12
You probably need to do some of both. We enjoy having you here, and it may be something that he will get used to. It also may make you more interesting to him anyway because you are more independent now.
@MoonGypsy (4606)
• United States
7 May 12
perhaps that is what is making him more clingy and wanting of my attention lately. he probably notices my independence. it is a bit sad cause he doesn't realize it's like kind of taking me for granted. i don't blame him. i don't think he means to do it.
@granite_butterfly (448)
• Canada
6 May 12
I think that couples need to have individual hobbies to enable personal and relationship growth. The only time this would be harmful would be if the hobbies were somehow breaking down the relationship. There are many of us who feel more comfortable facing a screen than facing the life outside of it. You are not alone. I, too, feel comfortable on MyLot. Maybe your husband is feeling threatened by your new found hobby and requires a bit more attention from you. Some partners become insecure that way. You shouldn't have to give up hobbies for partners. If individual hobbies cause friction in a relationship, then there is a problem. We, as people, need to be ourselves within relationships. Best of luck.
@MoonGypsy (4606)
• United States
7 May 12
you present both sides very well. on one hand i don't want to ignore him, on the other hand. i love spending time doing things i like to do by myself. i guess the answer is balance.
@alberello (4752)
• Italy
6 May 12
Dear friend, I am very glad you found your own world. Certainly I think it is wise to give more importance to the family rather than to video games or something else that we do just to get distracted. Try to enjoy life in the best way you can, of course around your dear people who love you.
@MoonGypsy (4606)
• United States
7 May 12
yes, i still love doing things with my family. it's just that at one point it seemed like i was dependent on them for my entertainment, especially my bg. that was really hard me wanting to spend time with him and not the other way around. now that the tables are turned i have to find balance.
