How many years it takes to heal broken heart?
By deine86
@deine86 (115)
Philippines
May 7, 2012 2:19am CST
Based on my experience, for me healing a broken heart takes 2 years. After two years, I can barely say that the wound of my broken heart is healed. I can now move on with my life, no more heartaches, no more thinking, no more sleepless nights and no more stress. I also realized that giving too much of everything is a bad, bad, character. So how about you? Did you experience same thing?
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18 responses
@annrielyn_03 (350)
• Philippines
7 May 12
I experienced the same thing as your. the only thing that we are not in common is the length of the healing process. with my first serious relationship, we've been together for just a year but it took me 3 years before i really moved-on. I'm quite guilty that the moment i changed my boyfriend (which is now my husband) the first few years of our relationship was a crap. I always remember my ex. if i saw him, i would still cry. when we fight i still rely on my ex's opinions i would still want communication with him. but as time pass by, i forgot him and i had my full attention to my husband the moment we had our baby. it's just too long to heal a broken heart and so hard to become friends with your ex' lover.
@mauricel (113)
• Philippines
8 May 12
No offense meant... but can I ask you why did you rely on your ex's opinion whenever you and your husband had a fight? why did you kept on communicating to him before?
That happened to me me and my ex partner, everytime we had a fight the ex is always there, my partner know how much I hate her, and I really dont get it why did they have to talk and discuss about us. I found it foul and I felt that I am not respected for that matter.
I am trying to find the logic of my ex action so maybe I can understand her and it will help me moved on.
By the way, when we broked up my ex and the exgirlfriend met again, and the girl even stay in my ex house for couple of nights. That is the reason why I totally gave up on our relationship because we already had an agreement before that if time come and we had an unsettled issues and they meet up again it is over and done for us.
I cant stand a relationship who cant respect each other and cannot follow an agreement.
@annrielyn_03 (350)
• Philippines
8 May 12
@mauricel, as what i was saying, before my husband and i lived together, i admit that my mind is still stuck on my ex. that's why there was a guilt on my part that i haven't moved on immediately after having a relationship with my husband. but then when i really got my full attention to my husband, i was able to hook up with him and forgot my ex.
@SHAMRACK (8576)
• India
7 May 12
Dear friend,
It is very difficult, being sincere to something like this and lossing it or being cheated, I am still undergoing it even after those bitter five years. May be the worst was at the initial stage, now I have recovered a lot with help of my family, friends, and advocates. I know how would be that pain as I had tasted it even now a part of it is with me....
@deine86 (115)
• Philippines
14 May 12
Yap I know the feeling and that's the hardest part of being cheated, makes you feel that you wanna die! I hate that feeling but kinda better now that I have my friends and family just like you. But don't be afraid to try again maybe the next person that you will love could be the person who would fulfill your empty heart. Just keep believing and pray for that someone. Nothing is impossible with God! take care and God bless!
@gorjuzliz10 (201)
• Philippines
7 May 12
based on my experience, it depends on the degree of love you had for the other person.
for me, it took me more than 2 years to completely be over that special person.
i am now over him but i still think about him every now and then.
@loveshop (127)
• Turkey
7 May 12
hi deine86, based on my experience with my ex, it took 1 year to heal my broken heart. I was regret to have boyfriend and promise to myself wont trust guys anymore. i cant eat and keep crying just because this fool guy. I learn in my life not to giving a full heart to guys. Dont hope for them unless they propose you for marry. God gives us good and match selection in life. After 1 year broke off, i met someone from other country, and we are now married happily on 2.1.2011.
@GilMegans (241)
• Philippines
19 Dec 12
Hi deine86, well healing process of a broken doesn't constitutes timeline. It can eventually healed even i a short period of time if you will openly accept it without carrying any grudge of your past. You must give ample time to understand the reality of the situation and admit it wholeheartedly so that you can easily moved-on and forget the bruises of yesterdays pain, and then suddenly, "presto" everything will gonna be alright.
@Jennlee3 (292)
• United Kingdom
5 Jan 13
I feel like it's nearly impossible to answer this question because I feel there is no sole answer. I feel every individual experiences heartache differently and for everyone the time is going to be different. It's probably contingent on how powerful the love was, how emotional of a person you are, how sensitive you are, and what steps you took to heal your heart.
@narnia007 (1050)
• India
25 Jun 12
I think I can take on a project to estimate the time for a broken heart to healI am very much curious because,I too took 2 years to get over it completely like the things you mentioned above to be rid off completely and have a normal life.I had relationship with my girlfriend for about 3 years after which she dumped me for another guy she found on Facebook.Let me see other people's timing to get over their ex-lover.Guess,this would be an interesting finding.
@mauricel (113)
• Philippines
8 May 12
Hi there! Good to know that you already moved on.
Currently I'm in the situation of moving on from a morethan 2 years of relationship. I don't how long will it take, but what I tell to myself "the sooner the better".
I don't want to be miserable because I have a son to take care of, and I need think of him first before myself and my emotional baggages.
Hoping that it will not take me years to heal my broken heart.
@asliah (11137)
• Philippines
19 Dec 12
hi,
for me it should not be in a year or more,if i am in a broken heart situation it will only takes for almost a month,and its really hard in the first to second week of that,with the help of my friends and of course my family i can still move on.
@butterscotsh (1012)
• Philippines
9 May 12
Oh gosh, wee the same! When I first experienced heartbreak, it took me
almost two years to move on! And after two years, I cannot cry about it
anymore. I can actually just laugh about it. And yes no more
sleepless nights. I felt lighter because I don't think about it
anymore. It took me two years to be like that. We are like just the same
because I gave everything to my ex-boyfriend too and it's too late
when I learned that lesson.
@factorial (977)
• Philippines
8 May 12
As for me healing a broken heart took around ten years! But I have to move on...
Yes! "giving too much of everything is a bad, bad, character." I agree!
@adorablelucia82 (91)
•
3 Jun 12
In my case, it was really took 4yrs. we had 4yrs.in relationship also. It was really hard for me, not easy to move on and I'm very thankful this time I found a new love.
@512771751 (1096)
• China
26 Jul 12
Oh, maybe I need one year to heal my broken heart. It is better to make your bad experience tooken place of sweat love. Then you will easily heal your broken heart.
@zhette4220 (181)
• Philippines
13 Jul 12
Yeah. Probably.. I've been in that situation and it hurts a lot. It's been more than three years and I haven't moved on yet. I guess it depends upon how willing a person wants to move on. Coz even if that would take over a decade, if one's heart and mind isn't willing to move on, heartaches will never leave him/her.
@rogue13xmen13 (14402)
• United States
8 May 12
It depends on the person. Some people can get over it sooner than others, and some it takes a lot longer. It isn't easy to get over a broken heart, but when you finally do get over it, you are glad that you had that experience because it makes you a stronger person.
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
8 May 12
Being in love will always have a price. One is most vulnerable when one is in love because we tend to open ourselves up to someone who may or may not drop us like a ball. Too often do we get our hearts broken, and regardless the amount of pain, it seems that our hearts would still crave for that love - thus repeated heartaches that never seem to make us feel enough is enough!
I have had my heart broken several times. It takes for me a long time to heal since it takes for me a long time to love. However, I couldn't really say that I could recover in the same duration with all of these 'heartaches', some takes months, while others take years, and there are those special moments that seems to take forever to heal.
I guess it's true, "different strokes for different folks" but there's only one thing to remember - we will heal.
Have a great MyLot experience ahead!
@salma07 (639)
• India
7 May 12
Hi deine,
First of all, welcome to mylot, yes i had my share of this phenomenon but i am still in touch with my ex, he has considered me an important part of his life which is quite sweet of him, but a totally miserable experience for me...he now has a girlfriend whom he loves so much but even though i got over it (took me about 3 years...and its still there, so i should say 4 years) i am still got jealous over her but avoided her and now i am completely avoiding him so the sake of our future, according to my experience i should say it never healed for me because i gave myself soul to him which he broke completely yet he still wants more...sometimes i wonder what i saw in him, i guess his beauty..
@Angeljames5103 (21)
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8 May 12
You are so right when you said that giving too much of everything is bad...i have been through all that pain.I gave my all and when we broke off i was like a walkin zombie...It really takes time to mend a broken heart but friends and family really helps a lot..now i can say that i am back on my feet again..i have learned my lessons the hard way.
