My best friend's ex hit her ON MY FACE!

I hate when guys be like that. And i look down when a girl doesn't defend herself when a guy tries to hit her. I have had a friend that something similar happened to and trust me i really felt like to hurt that guy so badly. She begged not to get involved. So I did as she please but she kept going back to him so I just left them to be and stopped getting involve cause it seem she will never learn her lesson. I really don't feel that mental disorder should be an exception for his acts. He needs to learn anger control. So I tell me if he continue to do the same, would you keep saying its because of his condition. I think not. Marriage or not, she needs to stop dealing with that guy. But then if its the first mistake ever, I think everyone deserve a first chance. Like I always said to girls, why leave a boy that only hurt you once, a boy that MIGHT have learnt his lesson, and take up a new boy that knows nothing about you and may have the potential to hurt you all over again. Give the previous one a chance to redeem himself. One chance is all you need, nothing more should be given. Only one chance.

Oh! That's bad. I am afraid that he will hit again again and it won't be just a slap on the face.. :-(

When I read your title, the first thing came in my mind is the santiago-tulfo encounter at NAIA. hehehe. Kidding aside, you can consult a lawyer if the marriage can be nullify. I don't know if the secret marraiage has been completed the requirements to consider it as marriage. You can also help you friend to go to a local civil registrar to verify if they have a marriage license you can get the license number from the marriage certificate or directly from the registrar. Please take note that marriage certificate is different from a marriage license. If none, their marriage can be considered as null or void. Also, having a mental incapacity can be used to nullify their marriage. His acts can't put him into exception, hence, this can be used as ground for nullity of their secret marriage. By beating your friend, she can file a case of RA9262 (not so sure) but it was entitled, Violence Against Women and Children.

That is awful that he hit her. I'm sad to hear that she married him. This probably will make things a lot more complicated for her. I hope that she will be able to figure things out. She has to take the time needed and really sort out her thoughts and her current situation. Her husband hitting her is a big thing and she has to figure out if this will be a continous action of his.

well maybe, but I usually thinks that it is all in our mind. How long are they together? If they are together for years then that accident wouldn't be an excuse. I mean if he really has a mental disorder, it should have shown in the earlier of their relationship. Maybe it was just his excuse so he can come back to the girl.

the guy was not really in love with the girl. if he really loved her then he would have the initiative and common sense that it was so rude to do such thing. I was just afraid of them being married. any circumstance may happen since the boy has a mental disorder that may lead to a very serious case.

Hi Annrielyn, I'm sorry that your friend is in this situation and that you got dragged into it as well. You mention that he may have a mental condition which causes him to act out in a violent mannner. Ok so that may be the reason behind his behavior but there is never a good excuse for her to stay and tolerate it. You also say that she was warned by the guy's mom about his condition and she still went ahead and married him for whatever reason. It sounds like a toxic and dangerous marriage but there is not much you can do other than just be there for your friend. I do think it is odd that they were married and she did not even tell you about it. Why the secret? Abuse is grounds for divorce but ultimately it is her choice on whether or not to go that route.

Aw, too bad. Once a guy hit the girl , he can always do it again (and again) If your bestfriend really do not love the guy anymore- she can always file annulment or legal separation. She have to seek legal and proper action regarding the secret marriage. Unless their marriage hasn't been registered then there will be no problem. We can always suggest or give advice- but at the end of the day, still it's your friend's decision that matters most. have a good day

Well, that should serve as a warning to her. That man is an abuser and she is going to have a hard life with him. She better start thinking straight now. The man is a potential wife-beater. Why would she want to be with a man like that? She should junk him now.

Hiting your partner is a big NO..NO... Once a man hit his girl, it will eventually become a habit. And if the girl accept she will forever take it. I will reduce your self esteem and self respect... and later on... what if you have a child in front of you. Men become abusive once they hit their partners... not for mental deffect but base on emotional aspect.

I know that many women stay with the man because they are afraid that they will be alone or something else. But even if your friend loves this guy, it's not safe to stay with him If the guy has some mental condition, that is not an excuse for him. He has to learn how to control himself. He even hit your friend in front of you, it shows that he has no shame...

Your friend could sue his boyfriend of the act he did to your best friend. She could file a case of serious physical injury in the court she could even further pursue as a ground for annulment of marriage or legal separation as the case maybe.

Hi annrielyn, I am sorry to hear about this unfortunate incident that happened to your friend. I understand that as her friend, it is ultimately appalling to witness your own friend being hit on the face right in front of you. If I were on your shoes, I probably do more than what you did. Guys like that are so hideous. And just because they were secretly married he already has the right to hurt your friend physically. And if that guy's mentally was affected by an accident that happened years ago, he should be sent to a physician so that situation like this maybe avoided.

I really don't like a man hit women. I consider it as something disrespectful. But, It is your friend choice to keep coming back to that guy, Just pray the best for your friend.

If he has some mental condition then that is one of the grounds for annulment. However, if the wife (since they're married) still accepts him regardless the condition, she must understand that she's tolerating the act. Therefore, she should think about it because it may not be slap next time. I think it's not good and should not be tolerated. Hitting a woman (or anyone else for the matter) is something that should draw the line from love and abuse. He had hit her in public (you were there) therefore, he has problems controlling his emotions. By the way, why did they marry in secret? Are they really young? Why did the father of the guy allow it? Was she pregnant? I know it's not easy to let go of someone you love, it's easier for us to advise her on leaving him but the ultimate decision lies with her. There are a lot of women who cannot leave their abusive husbands because they're afraid of things (like never finding someone, not wanting to leave because it would seem she left him at his lowest point in life). But they must remember that once a man hits a woman, it is not going to stop. It's sad really. But she has got to make a decision. Have a great MyLot experience ahead!

hi annrielyn oh my you could have called a policeman on that as its assualt and battery.I am sorry your best friend is so controlled by that creep that she did not call a police officer on him.Even if they are married He had no right to hit her and all the apologizing in the world would make that right. she needs to get away from him and stay away,Even if he has a mental illness that does not mean he can hit her any time he wishes. get her to a battered women's shelter and help her divorce the b.as.t.rd as he is not fit to be her husband at all.

Why would she stay with that guy and marry that guy? is the marriage even legal in the first place? it can still be void or something..she really should remove that guy from her life. That is too much drama, she deserves someone better.

So, you are telling us that maybe this guy, who slapped your best friend's face might have some sort of mental disorder, maybe, or possibly he fell his head when he was little? That just won't explain anything at all. He hits girl, that is a fact, and you witness yourself with your own eyes. Some guys don't have mental problem still hit girls. What excuse would get for them? But, some girls always find an excuse for their boyfriend's violence, and that is their choice. Don't cry or ask for sympathy.

There's no other excuse for any person hitting another except for defense and protection. Since they just argued over something, no hitting should have occurred. Get your friend away from that psycho guy, you can't trust him to not do it again. How many times did you slap him? Only once? Oh my, I would have loved to help, maybe added a few kicks... maybe find some bat to use on him. That's brutal, sorry, and there's no excuse for hitting another but it sure feels good.

Hearing this story, I am so irritated about that. As a man, his hitting girls is not moral. After all, violence couldn't solve problems. Especially in love, violence are not permitted. If I were the girl, I won't go back, other than get married him no matter how much I love him.