Lessons Learned After the Pain

the first thing when i realized it is really over was i decided to let it all out for a wholeday by crying.secondly, i prayed that our Lord will help me moving on.the most important lesson i learned was:love first yourself before anyone else.

Hi... topic that I can relate right now... because I am in the process of mending my heart. In your question about the aspect of moving on these are the things I've done. 1. I sleep the whole day and sleep well at night, I just felt that I haven't done sleeping well and alone for a long period of time, 2. I listen to my playlist of songs, and sang with it, i feels like i spilling out all the pain, hatred, regrets, and all the negative feelings that I felt on that moment. 3. Lesson I've learned is that, we tend to hold into a relationship because we don't want to be sorry for the time we spend with our partner. I your relationship is no longer healthy and arguement and fights become frequent we should have think carefully and don't prolong the relationship. You are just making the pain more deeper and you may end up loosing yourself. Forgeting who you really are before...

In my case, it was really quite straightforward when I find my other half "uncomfortable" with me. The both of us just could not communicate deeply and most of all, honestly. I could sense that he is holding out on me and that there's really something going on behind my back. You may say that we, women just seems to have the better sixth sense with these and as such, rather than pushing further, I just start to withdraw one step at a time. In this way, it would be better for the other party to approach the subject of breaking up and for me to accept that there's no point carrying on with this relationship. One thing I learn about relationship is about give and take, even with breaking up. When things are not going our way, we just need to be able to take the reality and face the truth of things.

When I was young and new my first real love was over I freaked out. I understood why and that he felt guilty and yet I knew he loved me. So why couldn't we work it out? I was just sick about it. It took me a long time to realize I needed to let him go. I was so emotional I went out alot and finally found someone else. The most important thing I learned is to respect the person. If you don't you never really loved them at all.

Well for me it's all about time..Time will come that you will be healed from all the heartaches and pain..and you will become stronger and think that life must go on..it doesn't stop from your last relationship..and then you will realize that the next thing will be more exciting..:)

1) I will get angry if my girlfriend cheat on me..It's not fair because I'll do everything for her and one day i hear - It's over I don't love you anymore.. 2) Maybe it's better to be alone long time to forget what she did. 3) Most important lesson?Huhh never trust on girls..

The first thing I did was to reach out to a dear friend. What I said made him Really help me. I said at least I'm not thinking of killing myself. How was the pain eased? I talked to that same friend. He told me not to listen to any sad love songs and he just showed me I did have worth. The most important thing I learned, true love takes time and is based on a true connection. It is not fleeting like desire.

The answers to those questions can only be answered by the person ... so general answers dont apply ... but one thing that has always helped me when a relationship ends is ... i look at it this way ... i'm moving through life to learn and experience so each relationships is a learn lesson about myself and how i view the world and when it ends it means that its time to go and learn a new lesson or that person wasnt really the one that was for me for a life time but just for the lesson i needed to learn so with this attitude it makes it easier to leave and be left .... its only painful if you try to make something happen that wasnt really meant to happen ... when you are resistence of what is ... and if its ending ..that is what is ... and its ok ...i would rather be alone than be in a relationship that is right for me ... smilin ...

I had my most painful break up many years ago. It seems like I saw my dreams shattered in front of me and I cannot do anything but to cry and accept it is over. That time, I made myself very busy. I tried hard not to think of him. I talk to people and I really kept avoiding him to be the topic of the conversation. I do socialize with my friends and do my hobbies and force myself to smile even it is very difficult. After those painful months, I just learned that sometimes we have to learn how to accept things because there are things not really meant for us. I condition myself to think that I deserve someone better. I am not successful in forgetting him but I have been successful in forgetting the feelings that I had for him before.

Whatever happend is over and look for the new skies and heights. Experience lessons from the past and this is what if I were in your place. We are slowly growing on a phase to phase manner and we have to face life realities. For certin matters we will never get or ask advice from other and we will directly try or get into involved directly without experiencing and the thrilling present day experience may cause us to enjoy fully and as much as we can. When it turns into the 2nd phase, when it comes to real facts, things will change and the happy moments may create certain painful question marks infront of us. To get rid of all these shapelss question marks, we have to get rid of the golden moments, certin real worhty things (for some people) and at the end of the time, many things must have lost for ever. And finally a long breath with relaxed life with a few expectations and a hidden prock of conscious will remain with us when the bells are ringing 1-2-1-2-1-2...

I think the first thing most people do is try to accept that fact themselves and then they start to spend time with their friends and family to ease the changes that are about to take place. It will definitely take time to get over a relationship that ends especially if you have been together for awhile. It is important to take small steps. Start doing things that you enjoy with your friends. Take up hobbies that you haven't had time to focus on. Lessons learned is that life will go on and so we have to move forward and focus on what we need to in our current life situation.

Oh, no lesson looks like each other so that it is really hard to say that i already have many lessons of love so that next time i may not get any mistake or broken love more. We just try don't get back the same situation in the past but we may got new situation and the love maybe broken also...Love is really hard..

Hi. Usually when I am going through a time where the relationship just ended I try to find ways to keep myself busy and believe me, there is always a way. For example, I try to take a class, reconnect with people I am comfortable with, or do some projects that I had been meaning to do but haven't. The one thing I take away from a previous relationship is that some things are just not meant to be and to find someone who values many, if not all, of the same things I do or at the very least respects them.

Losing my son's dad broke my heart, but i realized its not the end of the world for me.I have all the reason to move forward and live my life to the fullest.I have the world's greatest blessings...my child.

1. I try to talk to him first and DO EVERYTHING just to make up but if I have done everything already, when I already gave my 100% and there's no remaining hope and I think it's already time to give up, then I'll do number 2. 2. I will cry for it in a week. I will cry and cry and cry everything. I will ask for help from friends to support me and care for me while I'm at my weakest. 3. That nothing is guaranteed to forever.

A heartbreak is something that I certainly would not wish on anyone. When my husband told me that there is another involvement besides me, I did not eat or sleep for 2 days. I didn't know what to do and how to go through life from thereon. I sincerely don't know how the pain eased, but I knew it was gradually fading through the help of friends who were kept on telling me that I was better off without the husband. The most important lesson I learned from the breakup was the reality that not all relationships are fairy tales no matter if you have been married for many years. However, I have moved on but it took me years to accept that the marriage was really finally over. I have found another love and I hope this time it is for keeps.

she don't want to answer my phone calls , she asked me to call any more , she came to say don't beleive me , i not standing on a sold ground to word her

Hi, these are interesting questions in which I would love to share my two cents. 1. The first thing that I usually do when I know that it is over is to accept. Accept that the relationship is not meant to last. Easier said than done, but I know that I have a choice to bask on the feeling of sadness and curse the entire world for what had happened, or I can just accept it and move on. The latter is the most wise thing to do. 2. Contrary to the popular belief that moving on entails detaching yourself from anything that reminds you of the person, I expose myself to anything that reminded me of him. I go to the places we usually hang out, I do the things we usually do together, I remind myself of those happy days, until I get tired. Yes, I let myself cry albeit in a very discreet way so as not to bother other people when I am in public place. I do this because doing otherwise makes me feel that I am running way from the fact that the relationship never worked out. I choose to face fear eye to eye, until I get used to the pain, and then eventually, all these things wouldn't have bearing to me anymore. 3. The most important lesson after those pain? I should not let the sorrow of losing that someone outweigh the joy of having had him. To be thankful that I was able to experience the pain that made me a better person.

I have been there for a couple of times already. I believe that breaking up is normal course of life. During those days that I feel the anger and pain, I have those unexpected people around - my family and friends and the One above. They are the ones who comforted me. My brother and my best friend supported me, we go out and meet other people - literally, I exposed myself to the outside world. I believe that refocusing coupled with prayers led me to accept this life-altering event. There are so many things I learned from this event of my life - one is to have our relationship work we need to have a constant communication. Equally, important is honesty. Also, I realized the true value of praying and having a friend.

1,light 2.due to truth 3.patient