Losing (Not One Baby) But Two..At The Same Time :-(
By Janey1966
@Janey1966 (24170)
Carlisle, England
May 8, 2012 3:52pm CST
Mum decided to ring her friend Debbie up today. She'd heard rumours about Debbie's daughter Kelly and the fact she may have to give birth (early) to twins. In hindsight her Mum shouldn't have bought two sets of baby clothes, pram, etc so soon as - from tomorrow, there will be no use for them..
Kelly is about 26 years old but will have to go into hospital 9 weeks earlier than was planned..and give birth naturally to dead twins.
This is just awful. Can you imagine coming home and seeing all the baby stuff..and you've no babies anymore?
Mum said she was worried about Debbie and her impulsive buying of all that baby stuff a while back but I guess she was excited and couldn't help herself.
Debbie is also angry about her daughter being turned away yesterday as it was a Bank Holiday and there were no staff available..so Kelly was turned away today and told to come back tomorrow, knowing full well why she has to go back. The insensitivity shown by hospital staff astounds me. It's a good job Kelly was with her Mum.
She needs her more than ever now. As for the father..he did seem interested at the start but the relationship was a casual one so I can't see him being that bothered about Kelly, he wasn't exactly there for her when she got pregnant.
Life is so cruel at times...but at least Kelly has her own family for support during this difficult period in her life. Many women do not.
Kelly is about 26 years old but will have to go into hospital 9 weeks earlier than was planned..and give birth naturally to dead twins.
This is just awful. Can you imagine coming home and seeing all the baby stuff..and you've no babies anymore?
Mum said she was worried about Debbie and her impulsive buying of all that baby stuff a while back but I guess she was excited and couldn't help herself.
Debbie is also angry about her daughter being turned away yesterday as it was a Bank Holiday and there were no staff available..so Kelly was turned away today and told to come back tomorrow, knowing full well why she has to go back. The insensitivity shown by hospital staff astounds me. It's a good job Kelly was with her Mum.
She needs her more than ever now. As for the father..he did seem interested at the start but the relationship was a casual one so I can't see him being that bothered about Kelly, he wasn't exactly there for her when she got pregnant.
Life is so cruel at times...but at least Kelly has her own family for support during this difficult period in her life. Many women do not.2 people like this
9 responses
@mikyung (2232)
• Philippines
8 May 12
Losing a loved one can be so devastating, how much more if two at the same time. Life is indeed cruel at times. These are those moments that we really need our family.
There are questions left unanswered in this life. There are those people, that includes me and my wife, who are more than willing and exerting so much effort just to have one, but not lucky enough to have a child. There are those couple who are not planning and even hated to have babies but was blessed with one,two or even more. Life really has it's own way of answering those questions. We are still hoping and praying after years of waiting.
As for Kelly, I'm hoping that she can find the strength, courage and wisdom to face this event in her life. I bet that she can bounce back in time through others support particularly her family and friends like you Janey1966.
@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
9 May 12
Thank you so much
..and you're right of course. There are people like your good self, desperate to have just one child and others who can have them at will, it seems..and not always look after them so well. I hope you are successful in having a baby one day, I really do.
As for Kelly, she is lucky in so many ways. She still lives with her parents and they are going to be invaluable in helping her..and she will help them, no doubt, as they are equally devastated, unsurprisingly.
..and you're right of course. There are people like your good self, desperate to have just one child and others who can have them at will, it seems..and not always look after them so well. I hope you are successful in having a baby one day, I really do.
As for Kelly, she is lucky in so many ways. She still lives with her parents and they are going to be invaluable in helping her..and she will help them, no doubt, as they are equally devastated, unsurprisingly.
@rewardsinlife (1132)
• United States
8 May 12
Oh this is definately quite a hardship and I definately feel for the mother. If she is having money troubles, actually many stores will take back the child's clothes, toys, and whatever else that was bought for the baby with a full refund if the baby has passed away. I know because my friend who had had 7 miscarrages was looking full term and didn't know what to do if the baby didn't make it when she gave birth after buying a lot of stuff. Obviously saving the receipts helps too, and each store is different, but I believe Target will refund everything.
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@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
8 May 12
I don't think refunds are on anybody's mind at the moment but - Debbie being Debbie she WILL have a lot of baby stuff times two in the house. Obviously, she could not foresee these tragic circumstances but I think the items would have to be (either) sold on or given to charity..or hidden in the loft or something for the time-being. The constant reminders of Kelly's loss I don't think (personally) will help her; it'll make her feel worse. If I were in her shoes I'd have to get rid of everything that connects me to babies, no matter how heart-wrenching it may be.
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@changjiangzhibin89 (16789)
• China
9 May 12
It was really heartbreaking,especially at the sight of those baby stuff.As for the baby stuff Debbie has bought,it gives no cause for much criticism.Who would have thought it? The wicked father is an unfeeling brute.He failed his wife when she most needed him.
@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
9 May 12
To be honest, Kelly wasn't married to the father but I agree it's a shame he doesn't want to know. In fact, his own mother didn't believe him when she told him Kelly was pregnant and demanded a paternity test.
I wonder what she thinks of all this now?
@changjiangzhibin89 (16789)
• China
10 May 12
Anyway,Kelly paid for her behaviour in both body and mind.Were it not for her family whatever would become of her.
@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
9 May 12
I know what you mean. Imagine dealing with this all by yourself..awful. I'm hoping that Kelly's Mum will hold it all together. She was in bits when Mum rang her yesterday but I guess she's entitled to feel that way, under the circumstances.
@vaishnavc (556)
• India
9 May 12
Nobody should have to go through what she must be going through right now.I mean life is hard even without horrible things like this.
@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
8 May 12
From what Mum has told me the whole house is full of baby items and when Debbie was talking to her on the telephone she couldn't stop crying. Now, Debbie is usually classed as quite a hard (albeit sensitive) person so this gives you an idea of how tragic this event is. Also, Debbie's husband is working away and cannot come home yet..he's in bits too as they're such a close family..a family that will have to come together even more in order to help Kelly. She's going to need it.
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@kalav56 (11464)
• India
9 May 12
What a terrible thing!
In our families they are strictly against buying even a small thing for a baby about to be born before childbirth.THe baby first wears some old clean clothes.If there is a brother or sister his /her old baby suit would be used.
My heart goes out to this little girl.I am sorry for your friend and hope GOd is with her.
@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
9 May 12
Debbie is well known for her extravagance so I should imagine the house will be full of baby items, prams and the like. Obviously, this would've been a wonderful start for Kelly if the babies had lived but - unfortunately, they haven't, so it's going to be tough for everyone to cope with this. Constant reminders everywhere won't help them which is why (personally) I would be desperate to get rid of it all.
I hope God is with Kelly too.
@kai0224liu (321)
• United States
9 May 12
Losing a baby is terrible, one of my friend she lost her baby two years ago, the baby had major issue of his organs developing, so that baby couldnt make it, and after that my friend suffered for a long long depression untill now and have trauma having baby again. I suggest that make sure always have friends talk to her and comfort her, the recovery is a long way to go, probably not physically but emotionally and mentally.
@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
12 May 12
I agree and I've a feeling it's hit her Mum very hard too..but she's going to have to be strong for her daughter isn't she? It will be hard but I'm sure the pair of them will pull through. No doubt Debbie's husband is back home from working away by now. I should imagine he will be the rock in all this. Hope so anyway.
@The_Red_Death (273)
• Indonesia
9 May 12
I fell sorry about that, that was really tragic and i hope that will not hapend to me. i always hop to grant twins baby, i hope she not kill her self because that ancident
@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
9 May 12
Kelly will be very upset, which is understandable, but she does have an extremely supportive family around her. They come together even more during times of grief like this but I should imagine she may want a bit of space as well, in order to grieve by herself..probably in her room I would think.
