Online guy

United States
May 8, 2012 11:05pm CST
So I have been talking to this guy online for a while we talk about meeting and he has my number but right now my phone is not working. I mean we talk all day he sends me messages while he is at work and I will respond sometime later and it goes on all day and we are getting to know each other but I think I might be reading to much into it. I think that we could have something someday but I don't know if he feels the same way. I would know if he didn't feel the same way if he did not talk to me at all. I am just really confused.
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9 responses
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
2 Jun 12
You should ask him. That is the easiest the way to find out. That way you hear it directly from him and you don't have to be confused about it anymore. There are confusing times in a relationship when both partners are able to spend time together so I can understand how hard it would be to know how the other person felt when you aren't spending time together in person.
• Valdosta, Georgia
10 May 12
I agree with others here. If you want to know you should ask how he feels! Then you will know and it might hurt a little now if hes not feeling it but it will hurt a lot more if you keep getting more involved and then he turns you down, you know? The internet dating thing can work by the way, my husband and I have been together 8 years and married 7 years! We met in a chatroom online... I hope you find out soon either way so you can finally know and move on if you need to. =)
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
9 May 12
Is he someone you've already met? Do you know the guy personally? If your answers to my questions above is "NO" then try not to think too much about it. Most people have the mistake of expecting too much with someone to the point of 'falling' for them before meeting - and when they do meet, it's just awkward. However, if you've met the guy and you know him personally. Then just enjoy the feeling until he decides to go the next step. Do not attempt to control the situation yourself because you'd end up more attached to the guy that he is to you if there is a relationship blooming. As per suggestion on the guy online you've not met, let me share with you my experience on these stuff. I am the type of girl who enjoyed chatting a lot in my time. Internet chatting wasn't common in our country those days and I have met a lot of people online both male and female. There were a lot of people who courted me online, but I just didn't see the point of talking about these stuff until you meet personally. Similarly, I had this friend who was in it as well. However, unlike me, She developed a relationship with someone online and I guess they were 'together' for 5years and they haven't met yet. The reasons were valid because they were far from each other and the guy was literally on the other side of the world. But their relationship somehow 'blossomed'. After several years, I met a group of online friends personally. I was scheduled to go to the city that most of them were and so we decided to meet - as friends. You know what, I met my partner in that scenario. We were good friends online, then met and were good friends offline, then he decided to 'court' me after several months. I think it was a great way to have the relationship because at least you've seen the person, been with the person and have met the person several times. On the other hand, my friend and her online 'boyfriend' decided to meet finally. After they met, she told me that it was very awkward. The guy was not as he imagined and expected him to be. She didn't like the way he talked and his smell bothered her big time. He wanted to kiss her, but it was just confusing for her. There was no spark. After that meeting, they broke up. Moral lesson is, we have a lot of senses, all those senses should be satisfied in order to see the 'spark'. If there is no spark, there will never be a relationship. Unless of course the main purpose of the relationship isn't love. Have a great MyLot experience ahead!
@bjc66bjc (6730)
• United States
9 May 12
Hi stavilyn, all I can say is before you fall in love with a online person you need to make sure it is the person he says he is...A lot of online people are predatory person of some type...Don't get to hyped until you really know this person he may not be the person you think he is... BE CAREFUK!!!!!!
@vertu007 (683)
• Romania
9 May 12
If you talk to him about it you will find out. People spend to much time wondering about things likes this. I know it's not easy, I've been there, but I'm the type of person that needs to know. Whether or not is yes or no, I need to know. So go ahead and ask him :).
@audrey92 (20)
• United States
9 May 12
I think you should just ask him.The worst he can say is no,I just want to be friends.It sounds like to me that he likes you. Most guys don't keep chatting with you if they are not interested in a relationship.Good luck.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
9 May 12
i am sure you have his email address, maybe you can let him know that your phone is not working so he won't be getting the wrong idea that you are hiding from him.
@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
9 May 12
If you wish to continue to text and talk only, don't meet now. If you meet in the near future the thrilling experience of texting and talking will stop for ever. However, if you wish to end up with the anxiety to who and how he is, you need to meet him. To get a firm and static relationship, meet and the person is also good and I think you must have already met him.
@oogliz (12)
• Indonesia
9 May 12
you have to do is tell him that you have the sense to him. we would not know since we are not trying to say. so do you want to do, whatever that outcome was an easy matter believe me.