To be the one who say GOODBYE or to be the one who is LEFT behind?

Separation is part in one's life. You have to learn to accept things in a positive side. :)

I want to be the person who will be left behind. I have experience that once, at first I was so devastated and thought what did I do to deserce this. In the end, I realize that it was better that way because if I was the other person, then I would have to feel the guilt of leaving that other someone behind.

I'd feel sad in both situations as in both cases you are separating from your near and dear one. I mean if the person who you are bidding adieu to is s stranger or someone who irritates you a lot, I'd not feel sad.lol

a very good day to you sherlysinguran, honestly speaking, your topic captured my attention. that a while ago, me and my friend have had our miscommunication. that, i thought, it will lead to separation. that, i must think, people do really come and go. that although you win some, you are bound to loose those important people. and same as you are, i have also experienced the same way before during my childhood days. but, slowly i realized, it is life, and i have to move on with or without them. that, people do really come and go but it does not mean it will be the end. sometimes you just need to remove them to your mind but not on your heart. thus, either of the two - either you will be the one to say goodbye or be left behind - you must not forget them and must not remove them from your heart directory list.

I moved a lot in my life long before I got married and I left behind so many people who I loved and loved me at those places. It's hard to say goodbye to me because I love them. Most of the time I just left because I didn't want to say goodbye and I could not take the pain.

Being on wither side of the spectrum is both hard. I have experienced leaving the same way I have experienced being left behind, and those are not nice feelings. I agree with you that if only we can have choice, I wouldn't pick any of the two. But then I guess all of us will experience these one way or another.

i know it's really hard to say good bye. this is why i don't like good byes. it seems so final. i light to say see you real soon. i am not lying cause that could mean anything on the space time continuem.

I'd rather be the one who says goodbye. The emotional trauma of being left behind is so difficult to recover from. Well, this is no longer about cousins visiting, it's more of life where people in your life whom you cherish most would say goodbye for good - that's when emotional separation becomes a traumatic experience. Though, surely it would also hurt me if I have to leave someone I love because of some reason we both could avoid. Anyhow, I guess saying goodbye be it being left behind or leaving will never be easy. As the song goes, "There's no easy way to say goodbye." Have a great MyLot experience ahead!

Both of them can be feelings that are rather bittersweet in their own rather distinct ways. But you know what, they really do mark the closing of the one chapter of your life. And the opening of a brand new, brave chapter of our lives. There is really nothing else beyond that, just rather something is changing and changes can be hard to swallow. There are going to be a lot of people out there who are going to come right into your life and leave right out of your lives. There are times where you are going to have to walk out of the lives of other people, having to say that harsh goodbye. It is really unfortunate but it is rather true. Life if nothing else is rather hectic and there are just times where it can really lead to many, many bittersweet moments.

If you leave/say goodbye you are active have something to do (they say).. if you stay you are passive.. have nothing to do as to feel pity/sad you are left behind. I think it's just what they say.. you can be active too if people leave, pick up your your own life/dreams again and do what you like to do. I don't think it makes any diference if you say goodbye or you are left behind. It just depends on the person how he/she handles it/acts.

I've always been the one who says goodbye. Last year, I went to another city for the review of my board exam. It was for six months. And this year, I went to another place for my first job as an engineer. It's very exciting to travel away from home and be adventurous. You can meet a lot of new people, have a lot of new experiences in life. The bad thing is that you'll be away from your loved ones and family. Then you have to be strong.

to be the one to say goodbye or to be the one who is left behind? For me, both choices can really hurt us. Wether we're the one who leave or the one who's left behind, no matter what, if we've shared good memories to those people we're saying goodbye to, it will really hurt us. There's no escape whatever we choose..

I'd rather choose the one who say goodbye coz when you were left behind you'll feel empty and sad just like what you said.

Neither one is pleasant, depending on the circumstances. For many, many years I was always the one left behind. I always thought back then that it was harder to be left behind because the person leaving was embarking on an exciting journey. They were going someplace new and would be busy doing new and exciting things. They wouldn't have time to be sad. But that is only if the leave is a temporary one. I've now discovered that it can also be very sad if you're the one who leaves, especially if it is permanent. Even though everything is new to you it can be scary and sad at the same time. You are experiencing everything new on your own. You miss the people you left behind terribly. If it is a permanent thing you don't even know if or when you will see your loved ones again. There is nothing in this world more sad than that.