His hobby is just add more friends in the friend's list?
By ryanong
@ryanong (9665)
Vietnam
May 9, 2012 9:22pm CST
I and my boyfriend have profiles on facebook, he is in my friend list but i never write comments on his page and he does the same. We also don't put in relationship in the status of profiles.
However i often connect to his page to see what going on in there. He just was in HCM city for 4 days and now he added some HCM girls in his friend list. Currently he has no any comments to their pages yet, but i am not happy at all about it at all.
Here is our conversation
I: How many times did you date in HCM city?
He: No, just work and work only
I: Then why did you have more girls friends in your facebook list? If don't date, how you guys know the facebook id and add each other?
He: I don't know at all, who are HCM city girls?
Sigh, why did he ask me back like that when i saw all his activities on his facebook page?
I: then you just add as many friends as you can in your Facebook list?
He: What is the matter with it?
OMG, i really don't understand at all. His hobby is just add more friends in his Facebook's friend list!!!
How about you guys? Do you add a friend in your Facebook list if you know them only or just do as my boyfriend does?
11 responses
@musicluv4life (1867)
• United States
10 May 12
I only add people i know, and i would be a little concerned if he is adding a bunch of girls and you dont even have your relationship status up, that means the girls he is adding proably thinks he is single and you know as well as anyone how some girls can be.
@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
10 May 12
Yes, you may right, in his Facebook friend list, most are girls, I know some are his closed friends only, and the others are not and they may think he is still single since i don't put in relationship with him.
Like you, I add friends if i know them only, but he did add all girls who he hasn't known also.
I don't know i am too jealous or not, but i don't like it. It annoy me whenever i go to see his activities on his Facebook page. What is the purpose of his adding?
@musicluv4life (1867)
• United States
10 May 12
Yeah, see that would bother me i know i have some jealously issues but, that seems perfectly reasonable to question. I dont know why some guys do that but, i do know people who are just like that i had an ex that did the same thing is drove me crazy.
@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
10 May 12
Yes, it is. I really can't be happy when seeing his adding everyday in Facebook, and most are girls.
I told him that i may move his facebook out of my list so that his activities on Facebook wont annoy me and he said i am ...speechless.
Sigh, what should i do with his "hobby" like that?
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
10 May 12
That will depend on the person. WHen new at facebook I usually add up friends and add back those who requested to be my friend. That was because I am playing games then... Some add friends so that they can get more visitors to their blogs or websites where facebook is one of their ways to promote those sites.
About your boyfriend, I think there is nothing wrong with that as long as he don't cheat on you. And I hope that he is telling the truth that he isn't dating anyone there.
@Devilova (5392)
• Indonesia
10 May 12
Do you know the exact time they become your boyfriend friends?
Before or after?
I'm affraid the reason to HCM city was to meet them or one of them.
Who knows?
Am I right?
You are His girlfriend, so you should know His habit or behavior whether online or offline.
@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
10 May 12
He did add when he was in HCM city, and he added one more when he left HCM also.
He went to HCm for his business, i don't think he went there for meeting someone only, but during that trip he might meet someone and then add on Facebook, i don't know at all... because i was not accompany with him in there then i asked him, but our conversation likes that.
Sigh, even being as gf, how we can know all? i can't accompany with him during all his trips and he still has private space also. if i know everything is clear...then i am not annoyed like right now...
@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
10 May 12
ya, you are right, Facebook is a nice site for making money by increase visitor for blogs, sites, etc. however my boyfriend doesn't use Facebook for earning money.
If he didn't go to HCm city and just add some HCM girls in his Facebook list, i may think they do search and add each others but in here he went to HCM city and then add some HCM girls in his Facebook list after that, then i am very confused about it.
I hope he told the truth that he didn't date any girl in HCM city...
@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
2 Jun 12
Grrr....i am ok if he have more male friends, but in here, most friends in his list is women, i know some are his closed friends only, most of them, i don't know at all. And he just was in HCM city for few days, he did add some HCM girls in his facebook list after that. Then you think i am still ok with it?
@Devilova (5392)
• Indonesia
10 May 12
Just take a positive thinking, maybe not He who add them.But they who add Him, cause He add a friend from the place He work in there.So they see and add Him.
In facebook, I often add people but they who add me.Its good for me since I mostly use facebook to make some money.
@Devilova (5392)
• Indonesia
10 May 12
Since you are in His friendlist, you could take a spy on His account.
The problem come if they use message or chat services.
As His girlfriend, you should tell to Him that you didn't like for what He has done.You should admited that you are jealous.
Some boys, do such kind like that to testing their girls whether they angry (jealous) or not.
Thing that we affraid of is, that what their behaviors or habits.lol
@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
13 May 12
I did a spy on his account right now, i just get in and check what did he does on the Facebook.
Ya, it is bad if he wants to check i am jealous or not, it is so frustrating.
You may right, i should talk directly to him that i didn't like what he has done. What does he think if i do the same as what he did?
@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
10 May 12
Well, you use facebook as a site for earning money then it is ok for you to add anyone to increase visitors to your site.
Back to my boyfriend case, i really don't know he add them or they search and add his Facebook id, but he doesn't use Facebook as a site to earn money like you, then add many friends in the list for what???, especially most of friends in his list are girls, just only some are his closed friends only. I am still confused about it.
@thewonderboy (7501)
• India
10 May 12
I usually don't accept friend requests in Facebook. I used to accept those ones if they are near to me, IE if they are known to me . I used to reject those request if they are unknown.
@Devilova (5392)
• Indonesia
10 May 12
Why?
Did you never think the benefit?
The more friends in facebook or follower in twitter means the more money and or visitors to your site.
@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
10 May 12
@thewonderboy: I do the same like you. I will reject all requests that i don't know who they are. The Facebook page is my private page to share with friends only.
I don't even know them yet i know what they're doing.
Same as you. I really don't like strange people join my facebook page where i share with friends only.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
10 May 12
I only accept a friend request if i really know the person in life. That way, i am secure that if ever he / she will comment not nicely on FB, i can always confront him/her in person.
@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
10 May 12
I do the same, i accept requests when they are my real friends only. If my boyfriend does the same, i have no complaint....but in here, i am not happy with his hobby at at...i am crazy when seeing his activities on his Facebook page by adding, adding girls into his list.
@alberello (4752)
• Italy
13 May 12
Well, to be honest, I do not much traffic on Facebook, except to answer if someone asks me a question, or alternatively, to play video games, present there. I confirm that I have still more than 100 friends, but there is not hardly ever an agreement, or rather more often than not I just read their post, and nothing more.
@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
13 May 12
i do the same like you, rarely i go to the others' Facebook and read what is going on...but i did read all my boyfriend's activities in there.
I also don't want to add anyone who i don't know them at all...But my boyfriend did...
I may have to live with his hobby also, but honestly i feel so uncomfortable with it.
@messi3336 (213)
• India
10 May 12
i only add who know me and i know them so we will chat so mach they will also chat thats our secreat
