When you broke up with your partner/spouse what challenges did you face?

it been worst. Cos people surrounding will start talking bad about me. Collegues and neighborhood start talking each other. Cos they know that we was couple. I choose to keep quiet. But i dont care what people said. Its pain in short while like 1 year, but actually i release from him and God always with us and now i married with other man which much better 1000000000000 times than him

To be honest it was a big relief to me. I felt free. Free to go, to do what I like. Which was hard since I was completely broke, without a job and with kids. Still that freedom, not being afraid anymore, knowing it's my house/place I can leave people outside, no need to open the frontdoor, etc etc. I am still happy we broke up (although I tried it 3 times again with the same person). My life, self esteem, etc it all improved. Each day again I am happy I made that step, no matter how hard it was, despite of the fact he stalked me over 14 years.

when i was in that situation breaking up with my partner years ago. i taught i can't move on right away and think that i can't do it and can't live life without him. but i was wrong, after a week i realized that i'm better without him.

The hardest thing for me had nothing to do with my ex, who I was married to for 24 years but with my grown children. They had a lot of emotions to deal with, struggling to understand things, things that I just could not explain to them. Even though they were older at the time (18 and 21) they still had issues, maybe even more issues than if we had split when they were younger. Sometimes I think it would be easier to explain to a 5 year old that Daddy doesn't live with Mommy anymore rather than trying to explain a complicated relationship to older children. Anyway, I ended up moving back to my home province, two provinces away from my kids. I still miss them terribly. As for my ex, well, I haven't missed him since the day I left.

The challenges can be enormous, even if you are the one to end the relationship. For me it was hard because I basically spent all of my free time with the other person. For example, if I wanted to go see a movie or eat a new restaurant, it was easy to just bring my boyfriend. Doing those things alone aren't as appealing. You can do those things with friends, but its harder since you have to take the time to make plans. Also it can be tough financially, going from a two person income to a one person income. There is a sense of independence and freedom that comes with being alone. Before you would always have to have the other person in the back of your mind to worry about and consider. Being single can help you rediscover yourself without outside influences.

The hardest thing was to not rely on them for support. I remember i ended a relationship and then a week later found out that my uncle might have cancer i immediately called her forgetting we broke up and it was an awkward experience. She still came to my side and supported me and this caused us to get back in a relationship again. But by far the hardest thing is to forget about them and not rely on them for emotional support/.