What I was just thinking about having kids.

Wow, awesome post! And I do agree with you, with a giant BUT. Population and living conditions for our ancestors made it manditory to make babies like rabits. Like you said living was hard and survival was not gauranteed, but now more babies survive than ever before. Premature births are no longer always fatal, life spans are longer (for pretty much everyone), diseases are, coming back yes, but pretty controlled, most places are also kinda safe (there is a lot of crap going on in the world to say 'safe') and even with all of the wars, droughts, poverty, and natual desasters our population as a race is NOT dropping or even in fear of slowing down. Which in itself is a bad thing. I truly believe in having a family, as I am a mother, but and it's a big BUT we have to think about the future. Think about over population (which seems like our race's current objective), about polution, about the limited natural resources that are being gobbled up. When my son grows up and has kids, and his kids have kids (ect) will there even be room for them on this little world we call Earth? Will they have breathable air? Drinkable water? And I am only going out two generations from now and my son is only 6. It is truly scary the damage we are causing, just by doing what we do to live. I wouldn't give up my son for the world, but he is not getting any brothers or sisters either.

I'm a parent I don't regret having my daughter or now having a little boy. Yeah today is harder then it was a few years back, you have to work harder to provide for your family. A lot of people feel they need certain amount of money or to do this or that before having kids. But you don't have to, if you want have kids have kids if you don't then don't. It's not for everyone to be a parent. There were people way before us that had it just as bad if not worse some times and it never stopped them from having kids and it should stop us now. I might be poor with one child and another one on the way but I would say we are lucky compared to others at at least we have a home, food, and clothes and that is what is important. The rest is just bounces.

Timeout ..What I find fascinating is EVERY generation voices the same concerns...they "don't want to bring more people to this shameful world"

It is not really that I do not want to have children but if I wouldn't be given a chance, then I think I am fine with it. During my teen years, I used to say that I am not going to have children because I do not want responsibilities, but as time goes by, I realized how am I be able to pass on legacy from my ancestor if I am not going to have a children? Then for a while it struck me which led me into deciding to have children. Apparently, I do not have children until now, but like whT I have mentioned, I am okay with having a children or not having it, whatever is God's will, then I am fine with it.

if someone does not want to have children then I think there's a another reason and they would not change his mind because to increase our populacje.Nie know if people decide to offspring by reason of the children is not a bargaining chip!

I think more important that having a legacy passed on, is making sure that you are able to provide for that future legacy. There are so many children who go hungry and go without a lot of things, because parents do not realize the full time, money, and effort it takes to raise a child.

The biggest difference in raising children now is how the parents choose to raise their children. Many parents have the children and when the child is old enough to where they don't need to be changed etc, the parents turn the child loose and all the child to raise themselves. The great parents are the ones who are there with their children, teaching them right from wrong, teaching them respect for other living beings, teaching them to give back to their communities and the world in general. The parents teach their children manners, respect for others, right from wrong, and what language is acceptable and what if offensive. (I cannot believe how widely accepted the "F" word is now. It is so common place, like using the word cat or dog.) Parents who make a difference in their children's lives are those who really care and are the ones who should be raising children rather than using the children to procure more money from the government rather than getting a job themselves. I have neighbors who were raised by different kinds of parents. One set of parents had children for the sake of having extra money and weren't involved in their child's lives. The other neighbor had loving, caring, concerned, involved parents. The difference is like night and day! The ones who came from non caring parents carry forth the same attitude including that the world owes them...and that you better give in to their wishes otherwise there is all he!! to pay. The other neighbors are the ones who check with me (and others) on a regular basis to see if there is anything that I need help with...or if I need anything. The world has always been "shameful" in one way or another. Whether it is from wars, terrorism, of depressions. Society's view point on right and wrong changes regularly, although we do have a basic set of expectations of our fellow man. Stating that they don't want to bring children into this "shameful world" is, in my book, a lame excuse. It seems more like they are saying that they don't really want to be bothered teaching their children what is acceptable behavior and what is simple right and wrong in our world. One big thing to take into consideration about our "shameful" world over that of generations from hundreds of years ago is that news travels in what could be considered as nano seconds. In the past it took weeks, even months, for news to travel from one part of the world to the other. Now it is simply a matter of turning on your TV or computer to find out the news, which focuses on the negative and horrible happenings. It would be wonderful to hear the good news that happens in the world. But with the focus on the negative happenings tends to make people feel that our world is "Shameful" and horrible.

Time out i do agree with you. Also if someone doesn't want kids cant they give the child up for adoption because at least the kid will have a life and a family if they are adopted. Life has never been easy in any generation yet people have been having kids since the start of time. I would have loved to have had kids, but i have been unable to and yet i see people who say they don't want them and it is very sad to me.

I think the same way about not wanting to bring children into this crazy world. Things are getting worse and they will continue to get worse before they get better. Like another person mentioned we are doing a lot of damage to our planet. I have my daughter but I don't plan on having any more.

Hi Timeout. Having had favorable thoughts on the matter, perhaps you should. (Smile) Timeout, if you have the time, the partner (who you want to be the co-parent of your child or children), the social network, the requisite resources, the love and attention to give them, patience and understanding to share with them.., among other things, then, go for it. Perhaps, it's time for you to get it done! Should you decide to have kids, enjoy your experience., as you'll be making a lifetime commitment to them (and in many instances, they'll be committed to you).

Wow, awesome post! And I do agree with you, with a giant BUT. Population and living conditions for our ancestors made it manditory to make babies like rabits. Like you said living was hard and survival was not gauranteed, but now more babies survive than ever before. Premature births are no longer always fatal, life spans are longer (for pretty much everyone), diseases are, coming back yes, but pretty controlled, most places are also kinda safe (there is a lot of crap going on in the world to say 'safe') and even with all of the wars, droughts, poverty, and natual desasters our population as a race is NOT dropping or even in fear of slowing down. Which in itself is a bad thing. I truly believe in having a family, as I am a mother, but and it's a big BUT we have to think about the future. Think about over population (which seems like our race's current objective), about polution, about the limited natural resources that are being gobbled up. When my son grows up and has kids, and his kids have kids (ect) will there even be room for them on this little world we call Earth? Will they have breathable air? Drinkable water? And I am only going out two generations from now and my son is only 6. It is truly scary the damage we are causing, just by doing what we do to live. I wouldn't give up my son for the world, but he is not getting any brothers or sisters either.