Is love really blind?

I can see your point clearly here...lol. When you are deeply in love, you usually don't know you are loving blindly when there are clearly big defects on your partner but your love overwhelms you that you never knew there are that defects at all...funny but it truly happens.

and may I add...that persons friends and family probably tries to discourage him/her to continue with that love because they are not the ones who are feeling that great emotions of love they felt for that other person...so his/her friends and family are the ones you're referring as the people who are not in love but just observers of another person who are in love...and they see that their friend or relative loves that person with lots of defects because of "blind love".

ya, it is. You are totally right. Then we should find out the way to close one eye in love, open one eye to see the love...

I agree, and I believe your number 1 & 2 go together hand in hand in a relationship. I see your point that in a relationship, sometimes couples cannot focus on their present moment and don't try to enjoy it and instead they are often in a dreaming mode thinking about future things. I think this is a different kind of blindness...they don't see what is at present in front of them but try to always think of the future...therefore they become blind from the present moment and fail to enjoy each others company NOW...

Do you mean if the present reality is too difficult--probably because of a terrible relationship with your partner, then you have an option to think of consoling thoughts about the future and then the present moment seems more bearable because you use your thoughts in a way that you still feel good as well as hopeful. I'm not sure if I understand you correctly...

'Forsaking NOW by focusing on the future' is GOOD though, because this moment (whether it's good or bad) is DESTROYED by the very next one while -the future is always there (like the sun, which always comes back after the night and/or the clouds).

I guess it's true that the saying "love is blind" happens to a lot of immature relationships wherein one person continues to love even if it is clear that the other partner already is already deceiving them and is not worthy of their trust.

I agree to that, and their obsession becomes their source of blindness. I think there should be a balance between emotional love and being reasonable...we don't depend only on our emotions but also let reason join in judging one's situation in a relationship.

I think that is it. SOme become a bit obscessed and they don't see what is actually going on.

Well said, andy. I agree with you that love in a general sense can cover imperfections and even heal them if given a chance, and this can be seen in all types of relationships and not just romantic love :)

I think you are talking about people who started a relationship...not knowing the other very well, but because of possibly physical attractiveness a strong emotion of 'attraction and desire' is created which can be misconstrued as 'love'. Yes, in this case I agree with you that "emotion is blind" because without knowing the other person very well and plunging in a relationship with that person, you might discover...usually too late...that there are defects on the person that would make your love for that person die. To the idea of "love is blind", I believe they are still valid in relationships within two people who took time to know each other very well for a long time...and then decide if the other person's good side is strong enough to make oneself be "blind" to their bad side...

Oh I see. Like love covers a multitude of sins. To take a Biblical phrase. Yes I agree. Love can cover the imperfections of the other person. I would say that 'love' (not romantic love), but the general care for other person, can cover the imperfections of every relationship you have. Co-worker, friends, family, neighbor, everyone. Yes yes, very true.

Hello lovinangelsinstead21, I agree that love is such a strong emotion that many unusual and even weird stories are caused by too much love or a blind love. Your story about a man tricking 3 girls is one of them. Anyway, I probably wouldn't want to hear about the bizarre love story you would rather not mention...I might get the shock of my life.

Hiya better, Love stirs all kind of emotions and in particular the emotions that make people fall head over heels in love without even blinking. Well Stories I have seen on the Television match this kind of category too where they leap first without looking into that love that is beckoning to them. How many of us have been there? Oh yes the three Girls now Women are okay now and much much wise. The other Stories are not that bad really you would not get the shock of your life lol. But that is how love gets us is´nt it? I hope that you don´t get any "shocks" in your life now or ever.xxx

I agree in a sense that you of course try to see if the other person's defects would be bearable enough for you and that the lover's good points exceeds their bad points. In this case, if you see that you can't bear your partner's faults so in this case it's better to leave them than to stay with them with an unbearable life...that is using your common sense. So in that case, the saying "love is blind" is 'selective' of circumstances as there would be circumstances that you have begun to love your partner deeply and seeing their faults won't let you let go of him/her because you feel that their good points outnumbers their bad...so it is dependent on one's personal reflections about their lover.

Congratulations for a relationship that is working so well for you. I can see such great values in our relationships like 'commitment' and 'faithfulness' which I believe are two of the most important things to make a relationship work :) I guess the "blind love" pertaining to cheating is different from "love is blind" from a love that loves another in spite of their faults...but it's true! cheating is indeed "blind love" which leads to heartache while unconditional love through "love is blind" only leads to healing.

You see, I've been in a relationship for 6 years and counting. (I'm engaged, even, to this same man.) I don't think this is blind love because I've taken the good with the bad and my partner has done the same for me. We have our faults and we help each other understand and correct our mistakes. We've never just taken things for granted about each other and we constantly work on making our relationship last for this lifetime. To be honest, we've never cheated on each other. Not that we want to, either. Cheating is actually a sign that you are not really in love because you are looking for someone else to satisfy your need for love. You love someone, then you don't cheat. You cheat, then you're not really in love. Cheating="Blind Love". "Blind Love"=Heartache

I like the words you used here..."people put up with lots of things when they are in love." I think this gives us a good vision of what happens in a true to life experience of one person who loves another blindly. That person ignores too much offense and it looks like he/she is already being taken advantage by the other, because no matter what that other does, he/she still shows love for that other...until he/she reaches a point where the relationship becomes unbearable, then she begins to open her eyes to reality and leaves the other. Anyway, I believe this is one case of love is blind as there are other types different from each other.

I believe you have great point here, and I guess everyone would surely want a love full of mutual caring and respect. And that love should see clearly the truth about the other, and I guess when we are able to accept them for who they are...with their good points and their bad, then that is 'clear and honest love'. I guess "blind love" is usually stated in relationships wherein one of the couples had great defects that the other couple simply ignores and decides to love that person inspite of that defect...in that case that person "loves blindly" even if the relationship could cause troubles or hurt her in the process, she still loves for the sake of love.

I think this is the same idea that adhyz82 has explained that it is not love that is blind but the people...or the lover. And I know in most cases this is true.

It maybe that way, my friend.

Hello succeednow, I believe you when you said that physical attraction can definitely blind one person in loving that other. And I agree too that it is important not only to be physically attractive to that person but tries to know the character of that person which is more important. "Love is blind" is really a mysterious metaphor and I myself at the beginning didn't think this saying is logical ( although I have changed my views completely by now ) but I know many would say there is some truth to this saying and others will say none. Who has the truth and who is blind, I don't know for sure...lol. Have a nice day too!

and if you are physically attracted to another, surely you wouldn't want to be physically blind because you find your attractiveness through the use of your eyes...not physically blind but maybe emotionally blind if that attractive person you like turns out to have such an unattractive character and you decide to stay with her just the same...

Great point, AgentGulaman! I think your observation is very good that people who uses their mind and not their heart would find it impossible to "love blindly" because they use their reason with having relationships, and therefore if they see something that is deeply wrong with their partner, their 'reason' would tell them to let go and look for someone better. But it is those people who uses their emotions to decide to love someone or not who falls for this saying "love is blind" because when this "love bug" hits them, these strong emotions would overtake them and loses their reasoning when they know that their love has great defects, but chooses to love them in spite of it because of these strong emotions of love...or in other terms "blind love."

So what you are saying WakeupKitty is that you pretend to be blind just for the sake of 'accepting' your partner whatever his or her faults are. So I can only guess that so many lovers now are together because they have learned to accept each other inspite of each one's faults...makes a lot of sense. So when you say that love knows all things in the spiritual sense but just closes one's eyes to be blind to the partner's faults, is that right logansilverwolf? And because everyone has their own faults, I think it is quite consoling that we could find someone who would love and accept us just the way we are...with all our past grievous mistakes, our grave faults and undeniable weaknesses. And I guess it is scary to love someone who will immediately leave you once they see your faults that you are ashamed of and wanted to hide...and again, I guess that is why this saying is so popular because now we find a lover who has seen who we really are with all our good and bad points, and they are there to say "I love you still..."

Yes, I understand that they try to see only the good qualities of their love and try to 'blind' themselves of their love's bad qualities. I am beginning to think that it's not necessarily true that we see that the others good points far outweighs their bad points, but it may mean that our emotions of love simply is overpowering that even if our partners bad points clearly outweighs their good points, this strong emotions of love is the one that keeps us with that person...the other term for strong emotional love in this case is "blind love."

I would completely agree with what you have just said, JHkerriokey. I guess your second example would be the noble type of "love is blind" and the first one is either due to being too steeped in love that one fails to see the others faults or maybe simply because of denial or stupidity.

I can see your point, cloud31. When you see your partner's faults, so still somehow try to find a way to change them and make your partner a better person. I guess the saying "love is blind" usually refers to those faults that you can't deal with anymore like when you found out your partner has a child outside of marriage to another girl, or similar situations like that. I guess this saying is still not easy to define but it's quite complex in it's real definition.

Yes, I guess can sometimes simply be a very strong emotion that no amount of fault from our lover would let us dispose of these strong emotions and love we have for that person. I think the "emotion of love" is one of the most powerful emotions on earth. As they say, "love makes the world go round..."

Yes, in what you have just said I can see an image of a lover who is so steeped in the "emotion of love" to the other partner that they forgets that that partner had some bad defects of character because they seem to be so happy "being in love" with this person and that "loving feeling" is enough for them to ignore or be "blind" to their defects.

You know what, I think there is real insight to what you have just said..."love is blind because it doesn't have eyes to see..." so I can continue..."that is why love depends on the heart because the heart can have a better judgement than what our vision of sight can have on knowing if the other is worthy of our love or not." When we look at another using our eyes, we can only see the outer appearance, but if we look with our hearts, then we can see their inner selves...who they truly are and not just skin dip :) Thanks for this insight, douiya.

Yes, I think this is true. When the situation of your relationship with your partner is clear and you know their good points and their bad...and accept their bad points and loving them in spite of it, then this may probably be called "love is blind". So I think "loving blindly" is similar to "seeing clearly the others bad points while knowing clearly the possible difficulties you may have due to those faults of the other, and then still deciding to love that other person because you felt their good points clearly out shadows their bad points...

So this may mean your eyes are "clear" to see clearly the others defects and it us up to you if you see that the others good qualities is good enough and much stronger than their bad points that you will be willing enough to "make yourself blind" to their defects...or in other words, to ignore their defects BUT focus on their good points and why you love them to make you willing to ACCEPT everything about that person, good or bad.