My sister in law took me off of her friends list
By C
@ShyBear88 (59347)
Sterling, Virginia
May 12, 2012 10:12pm CST
Last night I was wondering why I hadn't hear about how my nephew's week was. Normally his mom my sister-in-law will post what he is doing through at the week and I didn't know last night that him, his mom, and my brother went to go see "The Imagination Movers." So after talking to my mom and her telling me what they where doing. I didn't ask what they where doing she was just telling me because she does that some times. I was just calling to tell my mom I got her a mother's day card and it wouldn't be there till Monday or Tuesday around the same time as my dad's birth day card gets there and she was just talking and talking like normal.
So I went online to see what my sister-in-law was up to and if you have been reading my post over last week you will notice that one out of my 4 sister-in-law is having a problem with the middle name that me and my husband have picked out for our son that hasn't even been born yet. She is having a big issues because of her son middle name being the same just spelled differently. So now she has taken it further. She has called me names, I know she has been talking behind my back to her side of the family complain about to her family since my brother wouldn't listen to her complain about them having the same middle name. My mom has caught her talking to people on the phone about it because ever time she does she starts whispering and she is the kind of person that is always loud weather on the phone or not she just doesn't know how to be quite unless its something about your or someone that cares about you and won't waver. I told her last week to take it up with my parents because I wasn't going to deal with her drama since she wanted to call me name's and pick on my husband for and call him names.
So now she has taken me off of her facebook just to make me upset well its not working. If she wants to act like a child then she'll be treated as one. She is 30 and I'm 23 and who acting more like an adult. When I have problem with family I don't act like a child say mean and nasty things about them or try to pin others against each other by saying someone said this or that just to start a fight to get my way. Life is full of not getting your way and I wouldn't fight with family members over a name. I guess this means it'll take her a while longer maybe never to get over the fact we are not changing my unborn son's name just to please her. She can hide in my parents house in the basement when I come to town and if she wants to see my daughter then she is going to have to see my son and treat him nicely or else she don't get to see other.
I guess this means not even mother are exempted for being immature. This means my kids get to spend more time with family that really cares about them and not making big fusses over names and such.
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5 responses
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
13 May 12
We both should have seen this coming. And worse , she will forbid you from seeing her son. That is her next move. It is petty and childish to you , but it makes perfect sense to her. you keep saying she can stay in the basement while you visit. Do not be surprised if your nephew is down there with her! It is war to her. She is going to use Everything. Sadly all it will do is make her look bad.
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
13 May 12
NO she didn't forbid me from seeing him. She can't control that unless she moves out of my parents house. I don't care if I know what they are up to or not. It's not she really cares unless it has to do with making her look good or if it has to do with causing drama and getting you to agree with her over these stupid things that she gets upset and does stuff too. Skyler lives in the basement already he is always down there with makes my parents made so they force her and my brother to bring him up. Normally the only time he leaves that basement is when he goes to school or when his mother feels like taking him out. If she wants to keep him down stars that is fine she can do what she wants to her kid but that whole house is mine just as much as hers and I will go where ever i want to in there. We will be there for a week so I'll have to do clothes so she'll have to see me then or when she comes up for food. My bedroom isn't the best room in the house for 4 people especially when two of them are little kids. It does make her look bad. Last time she did something like this was over wedding invitations when my other brother was getting married. She was all upset about the color and how things were written on someone else wedding invitations about a wedding. She is always telling about something and getting mad about things its so silly and stupid all of the time. Its from food, to places, to people. If things aren't to here approval its all over. Which I never try to please her and it isn't going to start now for sure. If she wants to be this way its fine with me. But I hope she knows I'm not giving in if she wants to use people to hurt me because yes in the end all she is hurting is herself. My brother wouldn't let her keep my nephew from me and either would my parents. My mom takes him out more times then she does. My mom was the one that buys him tickets to go see these shows because his parents can't and they could if she would stop spending there money. She'll fight with my mom over things. Everyone in that house rolls there eyes and when I'm in town she can't keep my nephew away from me. I'm his favorite person in the whole world and will go crazy in a few weeks when he isn't able to see pictures of his little cousins. You should see how much he loves my Sugar he would call her ever day if he could. He pretends calls her some day to tell her how his school day was. It's every funny and those two look a lot a like almost siblings which is creepy.
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
13 May 12
That's wonderful!Skyler loves Sugar! So she can have her little fit but nothing is going to change.I'm relieved. Skyler in the basement .I hope it is a comfy basement. ps. When you go for your visit, Please get a picture of Skyler and Sugar together? I need my Sugar fix. And then I can see how they look alike.
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
14 May 12
I think I have one of the two of them some where I'll have to look. They don't really look a lot a like now it was when they where first born. Yeah my brother, his wife, and my nephew sleeping in the basement have a small half bathroom down there. I was still living in the house when I was there I had the upstairs bedroom down the hall from my parents room with a full bath to myself because when we moved in I was like 18 already and it was just me and my brother at the time living with them. He moved out and I was suppose to move into the basement so I could have a bigger room and make my old room a guess room. But they both moved into together before I moved down there so they got it and they which they all fit comfortable. There is and extra room down there but it's always full of junk that my sister in law puts things in that she buys that she doesn't want people to know about and stuff.
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@PageTurner (2825)
• United States
6 Jun 12
Hello ShyBear88
I should think that your sister-in-law would be flattered that you have chosen to name your son the same name that your sister-in-law named her son, only with the spelling different. Is this the same nephew who is five and who you are practically his momma, or a different nephew?
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
7 Jun 12
We didn't pick the same middle name for the same reason. I love my nephew but I didn't pick that middle name because of him. I know some people think that I did but I've just always loved that name in with this kind of spelling. It just so happened they had a boy first. My daughter has the same middle name as I do and one of her aunts as well as a couple of cousins that I know of.
Same nephew. Me and my husband just 2 weeks ago had our second nephew come into the world. My husbands little sister had her first baby.
My husband wanted a jr and he liked the idea that I told him a year when we where having our daughter that its kind of a family thing on my side of the family to name the baby after someone and normally the first born son is named after the father. I didn't want a jr I wanted to have a Dillian so we compromised and went with JD. So my son would have the same first name as his daddy and he would have my favorite boy name we picked out in both pregnancy one name boy or girl that we liked. Either the middle or the first name would be after someone in the family.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
16 May 12
I don't even know your sister-in-law, but I do know that she is a pretty petty, immature person. Yes, I think that there are all times that we have an issue with the names that our family members have chosen for their children for whatever reason. For example, my youngest niece's name is Jaely Noelle. Well, when Kathryn was born, my grandmother really wanted her name to be Holly Noel because she was due just a couple days after Christmas. It kind of hurt me that they took the same middle name that my grandmother had really wanted for her first great-granddaughter, but I never made an issue about it.
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
16 May 12
Me I think no one should make a big deal over a name because a name is just a name. Yeah it might mean something to someone but it shouldn't be about other peoples feelings it should be about the parents feelings. I don't think first or second born any child in any family is more important then the next. I keep other peoples kids names to myself weather I like them or not. I didn't even like the first name my brother and his wife picked out for my nephew. But I never said anything to her and I'm still not going to. After a while the name kind of grows on you. If someone changes a litter or two to make it there own vs keeping it the same, I find that neat because how many people in one family change the spelling that its most easier to be okay with over time.
She is always immature about something. It gets old and annoying but we all try to ignore her when she is being like this. Making a hill out of nothing this time around. She feels intitled to have the only Son in the family and is a bit jealous of those around her that has one kid already having another. My brother won't have another a child with her any time soon because they can't even take care of the one they have. My parents do most of that one. I'm hoping by September she stops acting this way before we go home for the holiday's because if she is going to be to me during the holiday's then she can stay down stairs or something.
@sabythfay (4)
• United States
13 May 12
I like how you said "now she's taken me off her Facebook to make me upset - well it's not working." Obviously she HAS made you upset or she wouldn't have encouraged you to write a 563 word post on myLot explaining how upset it made you...
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
14 May 12
No I'm not upset I'm explaining things. Your reading it as I am but I'm not. If I was upset I would be calling her every day bugging her about stuff. That is how I act when upset. So don't try to see how I feel when you don't know me at all. Just because I write something that doesn't mean I'm upset why would you count how many words I'm saying that is just silly and point less. When I'm upset I start swearing left and right and I'll write more then 563 words. You have not seen me upset I'll carry. She took it to a knew level I'm shocked by her immature to do so by taking me off facebook to get to me. If it really got to me I would have said something to my brother about it. But I didn't know did I? I also would have said something to my parents?
Now don't assume how someone is feelings. When I say I'm not upset I'm not upset.
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@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
14 May 12
Oh by the way I also add in stuff from other discussions when it's close to about the same thing in case someone like you didn't read those other discussions or took part in them since its under a different category from the others.
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@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
24 May 12
Not that big of a surprise to me. She thinks it'll make me so upset that I'll test her or change the name to make her happy. But it's not working at all. If that is how she wants to act that is fine with me.
