Ever felt this way? What would you do then?

Just like you, i am a kind hearted person, who helps in any way i can. However, before helping i carefully analyze the person if he/she's worth my help. But of course there are times, when the need to help is urgently needed. As long as i can, i will help. But when i have helped someone, but that someone don't even know how to thank me, for sure there will never be a second time.

Hi Jevendiran, I think it is wonderful that you are a kindhearted, caring individual. I am also this way. From what I see and experience in this world, there aren't many left. Too many are self centered who only do things if it benefits them. I believe in the motto, "what goes around, comes around". Don't let those self centered, not so nice individuals keep you from being who you are. When you freely give with a good heart, not expecting anything in return, not only will you be blessed, you will also be a blessing to those who see! The Bible says "do unto others as you would have them do unto you", but, God doesn't want us to let someone take advantage of us. We just have to know when enough is enough. Keep on being you! God bless!

If someone throw stones on you, just throw bread on them. The fact that you have a kind heart is a rare trait, helping others especially when it makes you feel good inside. Although some people would surely take advantage of you, time will make them realize of what they are and the mistakes they have done to you, and surely it would make a difference in their lives.

hello there, here's my piece of advice. well, we all get there. we all begin to be kind, gentle, and willing to be there for everyone who needs us. Until we come to that point that somebody almost crashed us, pulled us down, or seem to destroy what's good in us. it's okay not to put our trust to EVERYONE. but my point will be, what's the difference? like, most of the time the ones who are unworthy of our trust is who we consider as our TRUE FRIENDS, relatives, (the obvious ones we usually thought that are TRUSTWORTHY). so i suggest, be yourself and be a risk-taker regardless of their intentions.. because they're the one making a terrible mess on their own names, and you can always be the good one. people will make that as an impression to you! just keep positive. and always follow what your heart says.. :)

I have that dilemma for years! I have been abused for years in the most worse scenario you can think of so you are warned. I do find it amazing that you only met good innocent people at school. Very hard to believe since so many people world wide have a terrible time at school being bullied already at kindergarten. Most of us are raised in a "christian" way. You have to help out others and you will be rewarded sooner or later (probably never). You found out by now you are not rewarded at all. Because of your behaviour you attract mean people who abuse you, stab you in the back, dump you if they don't need you anymore and laugh at you in your face (since you are that idiot that will always help them out and you are easy to manipulate and do anything to belong to the group or to be accepted so people will find you kind and gentle and helpful and attentive). Is this what you want for you? Is your self esteem so low you like others to kick you? To make a fool out of you? Do you love yourself so less that you care more about these jerks as you care about yourself? Do they make you happy with their behaviour? Are you really able to make them and keep them happy? What will happen if you refuse? If you love and pamper yourself first? If you invest in yourself, your life, your future, your goals, your own happiness? Yes you are foolish and yes you can help it! Before you offer some help ask yourself this question first: would this person help me if I was in need! Ask that person for his/her question. No matter what the answer is you will be able to know the real answer by his/her behaviour. You are just fooling yourself. You are not helping out because you are an angel or out of the goodness of your heart. If that was true you would not start this discussion at all, you would be happy now and shining and feel great. But the fact is you feel miserable and you know you let anyone again abuse you. Get thought, fight for yourself. Promise yourself to help yourself first before you help out other people! You can only change the world if you start with yourself. It's like the German saying: gutheit ist dummheit! (being good is stupid).

From my point of you you don't have to so something just to wait to get something in exchange but of course there has to be a balance.I won't help either a person that made me feel like crap. It depends,you should just follow your intuition.

You should ask yourself what your "need" is, in being helpful to everyone. Don't place blame or expectations upon other people. They have come into your life because you have somehow put out to the world that you have to help people in need. And, people in need often have many faults, much of which you have conflict with internally.