Can a man be just a friend with his ex?

Hello besweet! I can understand what you are feeling. I know that you just wanted the ex to be a friend to your bf. Well, i can say it's okay to be friends with exes but then it's better not to cause it may cause jealousy to both of you who are in the present relationship. Some say, it is about the trust to one another. If you know you are truly loved by your partner, it's okay for you for your guy to be friends with their exes. But i know it's hard to see that your bf is hanging out still with their ex. Maybe you just have to be open to your feelings and talk things throguh with your bf. I know he'll understand and tell him if you are in the situation, what would he feel,right?

Many guys wanna be friend with ex...but honestly, i can't do. If the love is broken i don't want to see anything related with the ex- and sure i say No with being in friendship with the ex- also.

I think it is okay- some couples that end well, when they have an understanding that they both want to end the relationship..if they really have closure. Just don't get jealous..

Hi besweet. Yes, it is certainly possible to be friends with an ex. I broke up with my ex and we're still very good friends. He, I, my boyfriend and best friend go out once in a while to have coffee or just talk. Most of the time, we spend weekends on our best friend's house. He and my boyfriend don't seem to mind it as I've already assure my beau that the past will always be the past. Of course, I certainly don't flirt with my ex because that's just plain rude. I also don't hug him either. Still, you might want to consider the personality your boyfriend's ex has. Some women are just plain friendly and do not see the malice in hugging their exes. If you wish to tell your boyfriend about the situation I suggest you start with "I hope you don't mind but I feel really uncomfortable when your ex hugs you."

It is possible in some (less) cases, this depends on the kind of relationship they had. This doesn't sound platonic to me so talk about it! If not confront her with her flirting behaviour. There are also men who don't even notice that or still find it flattering.

Everything is possible in this world and i believe in that word. I have been friends with my ex, girls that once like me, and every girls that i know. It's just the matter of how you treated them and how your relationship when you are with her. If you have a good relationship and breakup, i think she would know how nice you are and stuff and you just want to be friends. Also, don't get too close.

I wouldn't like it as well if my boyfriend would be hugging someone else - most especially someone in her past. Your boyfriend should have had the decency to avoid such physical contacts because you're there. I would have brought that up with him once and for all. I would tell him that this sort of thing would never be brought up again but I would just want to let him know that I was bothered by it. I would surely tell him "what if it was me who was hugging my ex-boyfriend, how would you feel?" Sometimes guys think that as long as they're with you, you should be fine with anything else they do. I truly know how you feel and I would be bothered by it and silence could not stop me from thinking otherwise. It's best to talk it over one more time but promise him and yourself that you'd never open the topic up again - unless of course something is really up. Be calm, keep the conversation loving and with respect. Not worth anything to fight over since obviously he's with you and not her. Just raise your issues with him so that he would understand that those sorts of things hurt you and you need to be assured that regardless the flirts in this world, you can trust him. Have a great MyLot experience ahead!

Well I understand what you are going through and let me be honest. When a relationship ends, their is still a bond in place. Something will always be there to connect the two. It might be strong, or it might be weak but the fact is that there is always something there to connect the two. Now it all depends on how your boyfriend is specifically. Can he control his self. Can he put you always in front if you get what I mean. That is the reality. Now you ask if you should bring up back a conversation about her with him. I really think not to be honest. Bringing up back a conversation will make if feel like you don't trust him, unless you honestly don't, then you can bring up that conversation. But what you should know is that if you bring up that conversation, you might allow things to escalate and i doubt you will want that. My advice to you is to hang low. You can watch over the every now a then but don't bother your boyfriend so much about that girl. Like seriously. Well that is my take on the situation, and it is your choice if you want to follow. Take a while to think about it.

Yeah perhaps you should just mention that to him. That you know he wasn't doing anything but that you don't like her hugging him. He probably will not see her that often anyway so you right not to make a big deal out of it. That way neither of you gets upset over something small.

Yes besweet I think you should bring it up again. Tell him it's wrong to be too friendly at his ex and even have the odesity to say she's just like that. If she used to be like that then, it was because they were in a relationship, so she must be like that again as they are not in the relationship no more. This girl is just being nasty tool, when I meet my ex with his current girl I don't even want to get closer as I wouldn't want the girl to feel out of space. I would damn well tell him, not fight about it, but talk like decent adults.

Situation like this happened to me before and I felt the same way like you did, considering I am not a jealous type. We are women so we have instincts and I do trust that. So what I did was I talked to my boyfriend then and told him that the talking and the catching up is okay with me but please avoid too much hugging because it makes me feel really uncomfortable. I am glad that my boyfriend is very understanding about it and he make it a point never to do it again. I suggest you talk to your boyfriend about it, and inform him how uncomfortable it is for you. If he is considerate of your feelings enough, then I guess he will do something about it so that you would no longer feel uncomfortable.

I understand where you are coming from. It is a very awkward situation for you, and I think if it bothers you this much, you may want to express how you feel about it. It was in poor taste what she did, and from the way I read this, she did it on purpose. She was cognizant of you, but did she acknowledge you at all? Did she say hello? Good luck to you.