My mother don't understand me!

I am sorry you feel that way to your mother. But it's understandable because of how she treats you. Or maybe she is just so too occupied with household chores, that's why she sounds always irritable? If you don't mind, i think there are underlying reasons why.

The first thing I am going to tell you and hope you believe me, is that you are NOT bad. You have been told you are bad by a parent who from all accounts do not know how to speak to and raise a child. It is sad for me to hear that there are still parents who treat their kids this way and who did not buy her mother a card because the card will mean nothing. I feel it might be a cultural thing - I don't know what displeases your mother so all the time - and maybe it is time to do something about it. I know that Chinese people are very reserved and conservative and for you to write this in a public place must mean that you are very hurt. Do you have anyone in your family like a cousin or an aunt who can support you? If not, I would seek help where both you and your mother can speak to someone and hopefully sort this out. A mother/daughter relationship is important; don't lose touch with your mother, but also decide to be your own person. Bravo for having the courage to speak about it!

Sometime we have misunderstanding with our mom..but don't be upset..they always love us even though they blame us a lots...

Sorry you are having hard times with your mother. I use to be like that with mine. What I came to learn is this. Mother-to-be is what they call you when you carry. Almost-mother is what they call you when the baby is almost out. Mother is what they call you when the baby is here. Mother-in-training is what they never call you to guide you threw all the hurt, love, and pain. Maybe your mother just needs to talk to someone, something could be hurtin her and the only thing she know is to take it out on you. You are going to have to talk with her and let her know how you feel. You could have put it in her mothers day card. Me: I had someone else go to my home and talk with my mother because she who not listen to me. Called me hoe, trash, and always told me no one wanted me. It hurt me like hell but when I got to the bottom of it, she was hurting for so many years and took it out on me. You can not get back the time that was taken but you can try to make a new path for yall to take and today me and my mom are so much better. Anyhow, I hope this helps you to take a different step.

I completely understand where you are comeing from me and my mom have never gotten along my whole childhood. she used to be abusive she has a baby and gave it up(my parents are divorced) and she never cared about me or what i though she always though i wasnt good enough. But, she has a new boyfriend they have a child together and we are now starting to get along better but, it still seems like she doesnt suport me i txted her to have a happy mothers day and she didnt even write back till way later mad because i didnt come to see her but, i was with my bf and his family so i couldnt it wasnt like i ignored her i did txt her.

I can honestly say that I also have a bipolar relationship with my mother.. One moment when get along well, like we should, and the next she's literally swearing and threatening me. I love my mother, don't get me wrong, but I hate how she treats me sometimes as well. Since I have no job I wasn't able to afford a decent Mother's Day gift, so I managed to her a card and signed it by the nickname she always had for me. My mom is negative person, when I think positive, she deepen her negativity. When I like something, most of the time she will hate it, so I understand exactly how you feel. It's never any fun arguing with a parent, especially a mother. Between me and her we're close on the outside but the inside we're very distant... And don't worry, you are not a bad daughter, so don't think that. (: No girl can be a bad daughter.

I do understand you're situation because my brother has the same situation just like yours. Ever since my brother, was a little boy. He was scolded by my father all the time because of this naughty ways. However when he grow up, he became matured enough. Sometimes he also did things that were not acceptable still my dad is still scold him. I know my dad has a reason but sometimes he is being so unfair to my brother. Every little thing that my dad he sees, he always blames my brother even though its not his fault anymore. So, I talked to my brother, and comfort him at the same time advice him to do an action just in little ways to show that he's sincere to have a truce with my dad. As of today, I think its working. It's still not yet fully truce but there's some improvement. For you, I think that you should first talk to your mom in a sincere way. Then I'm sure that you two will figure out by starting in little way.

Hi there! you will only understand your mom when you become a mom too. It seems that they don't understand us but the truth is they do. Sometimes mothers are different. There are those who are really showy and very expressive and there are also who are more reserve and serious. They are all different and with all the duties that they have we can't blame them for acting weird sometimes. I suggest that you initiate a move to become close to her. Make her feel special once in a while for she deserve that. A simple hug and kiss even when she's angry will make her feel better. So it is not that she don't understand you, she has her reason(s).

Well, you see, sometimes the reciprocal relationship between parents and sons, is not always easy. To this I personally know of it! Even when my parents are not pleased with me, but I understand it and know that they are right. So I can confirm you that in my case I know I'm in the wrong! In your case I think it's a momentary pissed off, I believe and hope for all of you, that with time to "reign" in your family will just love and affection!

I am so sorry to hear that you have a difficult relationship with your mother. My Mum was my best friend. She passed in 2003 and I miss her beyond words! We too had moments where our relationship was a little strained but we did love each other and would never do anything to break our fantastic bond. One of my Mum's favourite sayings was, 'Two wrongs never make a right!' Maybe in the interest of peace, you should try and understand your mother's needs, and not judge her too harshly.