A good adviser is not a good listener?

I am not sure about thsi, but how can someone who is not a good listener provides relevant and useful advice to other people? If that listener does not take in what he is told, the chances are that the advice he gave will be ineffective or basically just nonsense for the one in need

Yeah that can really be the case many times when you really just think about it to say the least. There are just people who really have their minds made up for whatever reason long before they are going to give the advice. Long enough they really listen to the full scope of any issue. partly because I think that people just want someone to really listen to it. I think some people just really want to really make themselves heard, so they can be listen. Advice tends to really fall on deaf ears and really it is something that might only loosely apply to the problem at hand to begin with. There are just many times where people can just listen and perhaps offer some advice, but it is something that might not really be followed.

Sometimes the best advice, is to give none at all. It is just to be there and listen without a judgemental thought. This is obviously very hard, as it is in our nature to try to help out others with our own experiences. Maybe listen, then ask first if they would like advice. If they say no, then just smile and say I am here for you. If they do, then feel more than free to give it.

I guess that line is correct at some point. There would be people who wouldn't really take their own medicine. Come to think of it, those who asks for advice doesn't know what to do next so they do such. As for the adviser, he/she doesn't take one's own advice for the reason that he/she still knows what to do next with life. He/She just want to take the risk. Aaah.. I hope you get what I meant.

Most people just need to vent. It's sometimes better to be a good listener and a shoulder to cry on You can only be absolutely the BEST adviser if they heed your advice and most people do not. no one knows the whole truth unless it's happening to you sometimes it can be blown out of proportion or even worse than they're telling you. SO, my advice---just listen!