Underappreciated (what do you do?)

good day tess_quinain, it seems like we are almost on the same boat. that since i was born and until now, my efforts are not appreciated. that it does not really matter to them the hardships and perseverance that i have done, still, i am under appreciated. that i didn't feel that my parents has been proud of me. perhaps, i was not able to make it to the board exam during my college years. even i did not passed, i have worked hard to earn a good standing in life. working not only for money, but also, for me to have a good reputation to my job. to be an awardee in every task in all of the job and company that i have worked for. however, all of those was just an ordinary for them. so i have decided to just work for my own. since they are not really appreciating what i am doing, so i just decided not to consider them. hence, before, they are always included, in every plan that i am doing. now, its different, i am still including them but they don't play an important role anymore in the plan that i am working on. as i have just realized, everything will really has its end. and i guess, my turn has come.

Absolutely, I feel like that a lot! That's probably because I'm still a student, but still. I think everyone feels like that and not just once in their life, but frequently. If we're always held to reach every one's expectations, what's the point, right? What if we don't want to please those people anymore? All you can do is to find your happy place. Do things that you enjoy and be happy with yourself. That's the only way you'll get by in life! With family, just push it out because they still love you at the end of the day no matter what. Just carry on and talk to them about how you feel!

well, if you are sick and tired of pleasing people, stop doing it. start pleasing yourself. people are only holding you hostage to that because you are letting them. you are afraid that you won't be love or accepted. have love and acceptance for yourself first, then true people in your life will recognize who you are and love you for it.

tess_quinain ..Sounds like you are on the right path..we all have to accept that others nmy not appreciate everything we do, but we have to do the right thing for ourselves and be true to ourselves. Others criticism is useful only to the extent we can learn from it to improve, but not necessarily a dictate of how to be.

I felt that way before. Yes, it hurts, in my case I was used to compared to my sister during my high school days. My Mother would always appreciate her in front of her friends, which I don't experience. But this thing I kept to myself and keep on going with my own way. Time flies, everything has changed now. I was able to enter the government service on my own effort. I know my mother is so proud of me now.

I felt that feeling once and it sucks. No one wants to be unappreciated and not getting recognition for your hardwork. You worked hard and put a lot of effort on those so-called big project and end getting nothing from the people around you, it definitely hurt you well not physically but emotionally and mentally. If whatever you do don't please that someone, just remember that whatever you did was worthwhile to you because you made the right decision and made use of your time whether you felt that you didn't make something out from that experience. At least you learn that you will never do the same mistake twice and not forgetting to learn how to ignore the past and just move on with life.

I think everyone feels that way at some point or another and I don't think it's because they really are underappreciated, I think it's more because people don't realize how you feel and just assume that you are okay. Also, realize that you can't please everyone all the time and you shouldn't try to.

I never feel that way anymore. Although I have been in past relationships that I did everything to please the other person, or help them out, and it went unnoticed, and it was taken for granted. But, once you figure out that yourself is the most important person to take care of and please, it makes life a lot better. And the people in my life now, show their appreciation for things I do for them, just because they appreciate it. And I have a 'special' friend, (well friends for now) that shows his appreciation for every little thing I do for him, and it's nice.

right now i feel very much underappreciated! i work for an individual that i've worked for the last 2 yrs. during this time, i haven't asked for any vacation time, i've only been sick once, and have worked more than 30 days in a row without days off (am currently going 90 days without a day off) and yet they continue to ask for more. they continually want to add more duties to the list and i don't have the time for everything. i put in almost 60 hours in a weeks time. i'm at the ledge. one push and i'll be telling them to forget this! i quit!

I do agree, we can never please anybody fully..that is why i stopped doing that - pleasing other people, i only try to make my own family happy and sometimes that alone is hard. as long as i know i exerted effort that is enough

Yeah, sometimes i feel like that, too.. Like you think you've work hard enough yet nobody acknowledges your effort..but i don't really get it into me because i know that i've done my best.. I won't let those haters knock me down cause i only need those people who love and support me in my life.. :)