Would you help your Aunt even if she have hurt you before?
By Resy King
@resy21curapika (2131)
Pasay, Philippines
May 14, 2012 7:02pm CST
I still remember my other aunt. She came from Dubai Lately. I was not that close to her before ever since. Although she did tried to catch up with me lately when I already grown up but not that much since she keeps on traveling in and out the country for work.
One of the main reasons; even everyone is fond of her when she comes back with all those presents from the other country; I remembered beating me up for a petty reason. I was playing with my cousin before. he did punch me (the heck! being a lady like me) of course I fight back. Then my cousin runs to my aunt and it turns out that my aunt scolded and did slapped me.
Now she doesn't want to go back to Dubai to work; she wants to stay here for good and she is asking a favor for me; if I can help her get a job in where am I right now. Without thinking twice; I did help her. Of course doubts filled in my head later.
It was full of "what if's" lately. yesterday it was so not me of lending money to a friend in need (as almost everyone including my close friend; I wouldn't if I won't and it's final) and now I'm helping my aunt who have hurt me before physically and emotionally; whereas in some cases; I really can't stand helping those who has done wrong to me and I even wish them the best on how to make it through.
Tell me what's on your mind. If you were in my situation, should you help? BTW; we're about to meet again so I don't know what to say to her personally although we have planned a meet up through text. Let me know if you would help someone who has tarnished your confidence for a long time. Thanks!
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@blessed1306 (34)
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15 May 12
I come from a very big disfunctunal family and they will alwyas hurt you no matter what. the fact is blood is still blood and they are the only ones that you will always bump into sooner or later. your being the bigger person by forgiving in the first place and believe me thats the best quality any one can ever have. my advise yes forgive but dont forget. be a little bit carful on how far you give her help and how far you give her chances. the sad thing is family are not once you have been burnt you have been burnt and thats something you will never forget x
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@nicanorr (1789)
• Philippines
15 May 12
The pain that was inflicted of you by your aunt is understandable. It did leave an indelible negative imprints on your being. To relieve yourself of the negative feeling towards your her, it is best to forgive and forget the incident. Doing so will give you inner peace. Help her the best you can so she can realize things aren't at her command always. Like all humans, your aunt is nothing but a bag of feelings. She's subject to commit errors. Be guided with the truism "to err is human, to forgive devine".
@MoonGypsy (4606)
• United States
15 May 12
i have a similar situation. my brother in law treated us so badly when we stayed with him. no he is out in the streets with his family and we are in a three bed room house. when my brother and law and his girlfriend had a fight and child welfare came out to find that they had been in the street with the baby for days. no one knew this, but my sister. my sister told me what was up and i sent them some money so they could get off the streets. do i regret it? no. this is because i am trying to relieve some of my own bad karma, by being spiritually bigger. sometimes revenge is not the pie best served. sometimes you have to show people how to be by example. i am not saying let her screw you. if she does, that's it. finish with her, but at least you know that you have done all you can to be the bigger person.
@mysticalecstasy (472)
• Pakistan
15 May 12
Well she is your family after all. And there are times where she has acted irrationally but that doesn't mean you reciprocate in kind! I good deed goes a long way and besides life is too short to be holding grudges. So try to reconcile and if she does throw wrench then leave before the bill arrives! Let her deal with that!!
@averygirl72 (37845)
• Philippines
15 May 12
Hmm...I have experience like that but not in physically hurting me. I actually have resentments with aunties and the likes and I prefer not to be as close as them as much as I could because they are like intruders in my life. Though some of them have really help me, I just hate it when they meddle with my life and are showing favoritism where they actually like the other niece or nephews and not actually you. With due respect, we must be kind to them. Invest in doing good to them even if they have done something bad before.
@dandan07 (1906)
• China
15 May 12
In your cousin's case, I think your aunt is quite selfish. She only thinks herself well and she will never consider your situation.
I think there is no need to help her for you do not like her and she also does not care of you. In her eyes, you are a good tool for her when you are useful. Today earning money is not easy. It is easy to lend money to some people while hard to get it back.
@cloud31 (5809)
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15 May 12
You did it right! I salute you for that,isn't it nice feeling to help the one who hurts you before? She hurt you in the passed it may not be right but its over now. You learn to forgive and make chances to her its one thing that admirable to you.
Forgiveness makes us free from burden and mind will be ease when we know that we are not keeping grudge in our hearts. If I'm in your situation, I will do the same,beside its her who hurts you in her mind,her conscience haunting her and she did a big mistake when she hurts you..
Keep it up!
Happy myLotting!
Happy myLotting!
@KingEric (80)
• Philippines
15 May 12
Hello. Honestly, I can relate with you right now. I also have a sad history with my aunt. I also arrived in a situation wherein I have to make a choice between forgiveness and hatred. I tried reflecting and after days or weeks I came in a realization that I should start forgiving and forgetting what was done against me. I tell you, it wasn't that easy. It took a lot of courage and time to give up my pride. After making that choice, guess what, I felt better. My crazy mind was no longer bothering me. I was so relieved. My tip for you is try looking at your aunt's good side. Think about what she has done good to you after all those years. Ignore or forget the wrong, aim for the right actions and it will be easier for you to forgive her. It's just my opinion though and I hope you choose a decision that will make you feel better of yourself. God bless you.
