Today was my last day with him...
By courtknee525
@courtknee525 (3742)
United States
May 14, 2012 9:05pm CST
My boyfriend leaves for the army tomorrow and I'm still devastated. He means the world to me and he's my best friend. It's just sad to think that for a few months I won't be able to see him or talk to him.
I think it'll get easier for me but I think the goodbye will be the hardest part. I'm going to miss him like crazy and I know that I'll be a proud girlfriend when I go to his graduation in July.
In the meantime I plan on keeping busy with school, work, and of course, myLot. It seems like only yesterday I had 6 months left with him and now it's all gone. I have no idea where our time went but I sure hope that time goes by this fast while he's away.
Do you have a bf/gf/spouse in the military? How do you handle it?
4 responses
@VersatilityatBest (17)
• United States
16 May 12
My spouse is in the USMC and saying goodbye is never easy. We actually never say goodbye we say "see ya soon" I have been with my spouse since before the USMC and it has honestly gotten easier to deal with being a long, but it gets harder to say goodbye. We cherish the time we have together, and when we are apart we keep busy. I have the kids in constant activities, I have tons of hobbies and I work. It gets better, its best to have a schedule and to never count down the days, that makes it a lot long. Deployments sneak up on you, and homecomings come even faster.
@VersatilityatBest (17)
• United States
16 May 12
Sorry I had some incorrect grammar *being alone is the correction. Also
just keep your head up, join military wives/girlfriends forums and chat with others with similar experiences. I honestly thought I was going to die during boot camp, but it was the easiest thing ever! Trust me! Write him everyday, avoid the phone and keep a positive outlook. Boot camp is in the past for us and now he has orders to a second duty station! It gets better. I look back on basic and chuckle now.
@courtknee525 (3742)
• United States
16 May 12
Thank you so much for sharing :) we met in high school and have already been together for 2 years. Today he left and it was such an emotional day. I'm trying to remind myself that I'll get to see him soon and I'll be so proud to watch him graduate.
It definitely helps having people to talk to that can relate to what I'm going through. A girl i work with has a boyfriend who went in the army last year and shes been a huge help.
While he's gone I'm going to keep busy with my job and schoolwork. It'll be hard getting used to not talking to him and seeing him all the time but I know I can be strong, just like he's being now.
It's reassuring to know that others have gone through the same thing I'm going through now
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
16 May 12
Hello courtknee525, it's really something sad and depressin not to see your boyfriend because he's from the Military. Communication is a very vital part of a long distance relationship, remember to innovate and make you're talk fun and worth remembering. this is because most of the time will be missing each other and some what it could fade away too. remember the good moments that you have with your bf all the time
@courtknee525 (3742)
• United States
16 May 12
Yes, I'm definitely trying to. He was able to call me late last night and all we really have time for is just an I miss you and I love you. Soon he'll be able to send me letters and he'll be able to say a lot more then. The first few days are probably going to be the hardest for me. I already miss him so much and it's so hard not to talk to him :(
@shylade (3132)
• Philippines
16 May 12
It is hard to have a long time relationship so you need a lot more trust with each other. Always pray to God and through Him everything will be alright. I also believe that if you are meant to me, even you are far away and miles apart you will always end with each other and God will find a way.
@courtknee525 (3742)
• United States
16 May 12
Yes, thank you. I pray all the time for him and I look forward to the time when I can see him again. The hardest part will be not being able to talk to him all the time and only getting an occasional call and letters
@gloryacam (5540)
• Philippines
15 May 12
Sad to hear that. But, as you say, come his graduation, you will become one proud girlfriend. Soldiers are so noble in that they are willing to give themselves for the security of the nation - other people, us the citizens. Only the brave and noble do that. It may be lonely, but, there are some ways you could communicate with him. Not the same as having him nearby, but, still it's something to keep you in communication with each other. And, it's good that you will be making your self busy while waiting for him.@courtknee525 (3742)
• United States
15 May 12
Even though I don't like his decision to join, I do admire his bravery for doing something as noble as this. I may not agree with his choice, but I'll definitively always be proud of him. I just want the time to go by as quickly as possible because this is one of the hardest things I've had to do
