Yep, I won't chat with him for a week or longer.........
By ryanong
@ryanong (9665)
Vietnam
May 15, 2012 3:23am CST
This time is really the worst time for my relationship. My bf and I often get conflict when chatting. Even a small problem will be a big problem. I am a simply person but he is a detail person. Many problems, i think it is ok but he told this told that, should not do this should not do that... And he told me that i am not Ryanong who he knows anymore...
Honestly i hate debating, fighting...it just takes time and very annoying...and now i decided that i won't talk with him for a week. I don't want to be frustrated more because of debating.
It is 2 days since i had that decision. I feel ok with it, i also don't say directly to him that i wont talk with him for a week, i just leave all there and get out of his view.
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5 responses
@hlovate16 (20)
• Malaysia
16 May 12
heyy, heyy , we are almost under the same roof ! :D . but the difference is,, he is only my best friend . yep,only my best friend, no more or less .
being as best friend doesn't mean we were never fighting . no, we did fighting ! sometimes, for just a small matter,, oh God, how i really want to cry . i can't be apart from him, no, never . and so i try to tied up our relationship by being a positive thinker and an open-minded person . I am a woman, so do I have quite high emotional sensation but I know how to control it . sometimes we need to imitate things from others ,and that is what i often do ^^ .
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people says, sometimes God deliberately encounter us with the wrong person, before He meet us with the right one . keep on searching :D .
p/s : sorry for the broken english, I am still learning to write and speak english well :)
@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
16 May 12
Don't worry too much when you have a debating with best friend because with friendship we are easy to ignore small things and be happy together easily. In my case, it is the relationship, and it is not easy to be happy back as in friendship case.
Let me see, i never have any conflict or debating with friends yet because they understand me well and sometime i just say: Ok, it is up to you then they are happy with it. But with boyfriend, it is not easy like that, even i don't want to continue debating more, he still blames me this that.
I am teary woman too, i have a feeling that my bf is so gentlemen, so polite with the others but with me he is so strict. When i told him about it, he said all because i am his girlfriend. OMG, what the hell is he thinking?
@hlovate16 (20)
• Malaysia
16 May 12
he is surely care about you :) . mostly bf are caring enough but maybe in your case, he is too caring . uncomfortable right ? try to have a slow talk with him, discuss what is missing , and accept opponent's opinion .
@thewonderboy (7501)
• India
16 May 12
Staying free from you friend without chatting for few days is OK but never leave the relation. Each of the relation has it's won value and it is very difficult to get such a good relation and never break those ones for simple reasons.
@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
16 May 12
Thank you for your advice, thewonderboy. When i am too tired with it, i used to think that i will give up it. Currently i really don't know what should i do with my relationship also...there is no cure for it, i think. I don't ensure also...but conflict, debating...make me tired.
Tell me thewonderboy, what should i do next?
@GemmaR (8517)
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15 May 12
It is horrible when we fall out with those people who we love, but we must never stop talking to them for this long. The problem with not talking to people is that the problems that we're having seem to treble in size during the time we're not speaking, and then by the time we come to talk about them it just causes even more arguments. You need to sit down with him and both talk about the issues that you have, and then hopefully you should find that you are able to come to some kind of agreement which would be suited to the pair of you.
@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
15 May 12
Oh, you mean stop talking with him like what i do now is not good at all? But at moment i feel ok with it, no debating...
i really don't know what should to talk with him...a small thing could be a big thing of debating also, i don't want it... Everyone has our own opinion, but he need i should be agree with him all and obey him all...
He is older than me, he has more life experience than me but i have my own thinking of an issue, why i have to obey his talk all times? Why he never accept my opinion?
Sigh...
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
15 May 12
Having some break is one of the best way to give each other space.
Hoping the space will make you miss each other and realized things as well.
So, it's been two days since you haven't talked with him and you said- you feel fine.
And he also did not bother to make any steps to contact you?
@VersatilityatBest (17)
• United States
15 May 12
Open communication is the best thing for a relationship. Everything should be discussed as calmly as possible. It is hard to read the tone of someones voice over the internet, but try your best to not take things the wrong way and to reason with each other.
@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
16 May 12
I love to talk everything clearly...but we still get conflict this time. He goes into in details and his conclusion is he and i are so different,blah blah...For instance i talk with my closed friends, he shares anything related with his marriage life and he asked me advices, i gave him...but my bf said i just give my opinion, don't give comments about their marriage because i just heard from my friend side only.
Oh, I don't agree with it, my friend asked and i answered, that's all. Then the debating is happened...
Btw, i think don't talk with him for awhile is the way i can do now to avoid debating more...I am really tired with debating...
