haveing a big fight
By verolop29
@verolop29 (1096)
United States
May 15, 2012 4:51am CST
Last night was not a good night for me. We had another fight about how much money i spend each week. and this time i think i just about had it. He acts more as a father to me than a husband. he usually gives me two hundred dollars to spend and he calls it 'my play money' only its not. he wants me to use that towards food and everything else we need and once thats gone its gone. He just got paid fri and he has yet to give me my allowence, which has droped down to one hundred. Im not doing anything less around the house so i dont know why he has done that. I talked to him and did everything i could to make him see that i dont spend all that money on me. But he doesn't see it that way. Im just gonna be completly dead to him. im gonna take myself out of his back account. he says im acting childish but im not. i hate having these money fights. this isn't the first time we had this talk ither and each time we do...i just pretend everything is ok! and its not but i have to tell myself it is just so i can get up in the morning and make it thru my days.
I have tried working 3times and always got fired because i was late to work. i made it two weeks before i was fired from my last job and i quit that one. i was just too hard for me to clean other ppl's places and having to clean my own. he didn't help ither..i guess it was too hard for him to do...idk.
so maybe i just need to be on mylot more?! yes! i think i do!
6 responses
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
16 May 12
Money fights have been what the vast majority of the fights that my husband and I have had have been about as well. Only, for us they are for different reasons. However, it is finance based none the less. I can't get a job outside the house right now because of the fact that my little one doesn't start school until in August and my older one is going to be out of school for the summer pretty soon. So, my best answer to the problem has been to kick myself into more gear when it comes to the money that I'm making online.
I do spend time on here and I also do some article writing and a few gpt sites as well. I'm not making a ton of money, but it is enough to make me feel better.
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@apickett (123)
• United States
16 May 12
It sounds to me that your husband has control issues and he is using money to control you. I'm sorry for you, I really am. If I were you, I would seek marriage counseling. His behavior is not acceptable. I am by no means bashing your husband. I just am very sorry that he does this. Perhaps he has some deep seeded issue that he needs to resolve? Please ask him to go to counseling with you. If he does not agree, then definitely go yourself. Lots of luck!
@verolop29 (1096)
• United States
16 May 12
he does have a deep seeded issue as u say. his father raised him that way..i dont know y ither. i mean i was raised as different as different is when i was growing up but im nowhere near that tight about money. i have bought up marriage counceling but he doesn't think we need it, but i do think we do. for a few days...actuallly our who marriage has been rocky, he doesn't kiss me we dont sleep together, so i dont feel like his wife. i feel more like his live-in-maid...and its terrible. thank god for antidepresants =D
@apickett (123)
• United States
16 May 12
Oh I see. That is really sad that he is like that to you. I can only imagine how unhappy you must be. Antidepressants work wonders, but that is only putting a bandage on the wound. You all do need counseling, but I understand that you can not make him go. I sure hope that he see's how difficult he is making you all's marriage. Keeping you in my thoughts!!
@urbandekay (18278)
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16 May 12
Simple, keep accounts of how you spend the money. Then if much of the money goes on food and other essentials it will be plain. You might ask if he would like you to spend less on food, buy cheaper brands, etc
all the best urban
@silverglint (2000)
• Philippines
15 May 12
Hi, mylot is not really a place where you can earn enough for your expenses, though it is a good place to earn while you are having fun, it will not exactly meet your needs. Maybe you should consider looking for freelance work online so that you don't have to commute to work and you can work on your projects on your own timetable, as long as you meet the deadline of course 
There are so many freelance job sites out there, try your luck in one of them, just make sure that you don't have to pay them to get jobs. those sites are scams.
There are so many freelance job sites out there, try your luck in one of them, just make sure that you don't have to pay them to get jobs. those sites are scams.
@feebeetee (6)
• United States
15 May 12
Hve you tried working from home? There are several companies out there that you can be a customer service rep. Pay is not going to get you rich but it can put at least 600.00 in your pocket a month. That is part time. Full time you can earn even more. I know I hate depending on my husband so that is why I try to keep some kind of job going. We don't argue over money but He is a spender and I am the saver. He makes more than I do but I do pay some of the bills. Right now he is working out of town so I hold down the fort here paying bills so that is my motivation for keeping my job. Maybe if you have some kind of hobby or artsy feel. You can sell things online to make extra cash. I hope all turns out well.
