The use of tears

First off I do not believe that. I think there is a real difference between real crying and someone feeling real bad then crying to get what you want. When people cry to get what they want they basically cry what we call crocodile tears. So, it should be a no brainer on how to deal with it. Like I said there is a difference between the two. You just have to look and study the person, you will know if they are faking it or not. And when you figure that out the answer is simple.

To me it just seems like such a cheap tactic devoid of any imagination to use tears to really get things. I prefer more subtle forms of manipulation myself, taking people down a short guilt trip, depending if the situation warrants for it. Figuratively speaking of course. There are just a lot of times where people tend to get overly emotional to almost cartoonish levels. Granted, there are people who are going to be naturally emotional. That is a point that I think that many of us are going to agree with it. I'm not really sure if how the world has been, if I really do have many more tears to shed, because there is not a lot beyond the absolutely horrifying that will bring me to that point. Perhaps it is just me.

I am not one to use tears. I have a tough time crying in front people anyone. I guess I feel like for me it is a sign of my own weakness. Now there have been times when tears have sprung me into action to help someone else but..I have learned that this is a type of weapon. I have also seen that men are using it too. I have become a bit more cautious over time where tears are concerned. There are some people that can turn those things on like a faucet.

I kinda don't like hearing people say that women use tears to get what they want. When I cry, it's because I'm upset... darn it! I cried after failing my driver's test the first time, and the DMV office got really hissy with me, telling me that lots of people fail their first test and there's no use crying over it. He was acting like he thought I was crying to get my way, which I found insulting. I didn't expect my tears to change anything, I really didn't! I was upset, and so I cried! I'd like permission to be upset when I feel like a miserable failure, please! So I've never used tears to get what I want, but I must admit... when I'm upset I'll cry. I don't mean anything by it, it's just that I'm an emotional person and I cry when I'm sad or angry or frustrated.

I regard tears are not used for everything you want to achieve.Like you said, it is indeed a good way to relax ourselves and just let it out to even make yourself comfortable each time you are really in trouble.But not showing this to everyone,coz nobody would regard this as a responsibility to help.

I could notice too if the tears or crying is fake or not..Crying don't win over me..I'm not hard hearted, I guess I just know..LOL

I am not a tearful person,nor am I around tearful people, so I do not know if it works for me. My kids did not even cry very much. I guess I did not expect them to and they did not. Tears just have not been a currency in my life.

Hi savypat, You are not hard hearted but just being sensible. The fact that you say that you wait for the person to get control and than try to help them shows that. Sometimes tears are genuine but they are never enough. There has to be more. Blessings.

no, wouldn't try and deceive people like that. i couldn't even if i wanted to,lol.

For me there are several kinds of tears, even with children. Its different when there´s tears of pain than tears of sorrow. But thge kind of tears I will not accept is the tears that some people use to manipulate others. Those tears mnean staging an act to have what they want. I try not to fall for them.

Me again, I like what Violet and inertia have said too that is really how I would have expressed it as well but it came out my way I guess. I cried buckets the other month when I saw an elderly woman and man lose their only delapidated home to the cold and callous Bank. That is indeed something to cry over. I have only ever cried in desperate situations never to call anyone´s attention I used to bottle all that up and it´s not a good thing really.xxx

Hiya savy, Alas tears for me have never got me anywhere something I learned right from the time I could walk and that was when I was one years old. I did cry once when I was losing a Baby as this was very stressful for me and they told me off saying you can´t cry here its not allowed but other than that I never cry unless I am on my own. I don´t think you are hard hearted just used to seeing so many tears I have to say I have seen other People cry and it broke my heart to hear them I suppose I am quite sensitive although I should not be I guess. Navy Trainer told me I would have made a great Nurse in the Navy but for that and my Maths which was something to cry about as it always got me failing exams. If you failed Maths then it was something to cry over as your other Grades were not really considered as such then even you were brilliant at English Grammar and all that.

Tears is an instinct or natural reaction of emotion, i.e. sorrow, happiness, fear, acting out, etc. More often than enough, tears show up at times to convey those emotions based on what has transpired, and most likely it attracts sympathy. i guess you have a strong personality to tend to realize such act in terms of its use.

I don't actually use tears to get what I want, probably when I was a kid, I cry when I don't get want I want. I hate it too when people are faking those tears just for you to pity them but then they are just fooling around and if they get what they want they start to laugh.

Personally due to all the Stressors in my life right now, and especially if I am a little bit in pain, I do tend to cry a lot. I am not sure if it helps get me anywhere as I am really not trying too, but if I am hurting and especially at a Doctors office, and no one wants to really understand it frustrates me. But I know someone that tries to make everyone feel Sorry for her by crying, and it gets old, and you feel like Yelling ... "Shut up, and Grow Up" ... So I guess like everyone would always say there is a time and a place, and it always depends on what is really appropriate.

you are just more of a non emotional person. you are more of a mental/analytical person. it's not that you are mean. it's just the way you process things. i wonder what your sign is. i don't think that is a bad quality in you. you could probably be really good at helping someone gain control of themselves. just try to remember that each person's response to stress is different. you may not cry, but some do. always remember to let people know that you understand how upsetting it must be for them. you don't have to coddle it if you don't want, don't get me wrong. just to let the person know that they are dealing with a human being. this has become a really stressful world, for both men and women. it's no wonder people are using their tear ducks more often.

I do not use tears to get what I want. That is the easy way out of things I believe and very phony. However, as soon as someone is crying I will cry along with them, but only if I know that its for sure geniune tears and nothing fake about it. Females who use tears tatic are in my opinion drama queens looking to get everything easy in life. I don't have time or energy for people like this.

I do believe that tears can be a powerful weapon towards somebody as it implies a person being in pain or hurt that soft hearted indiviual can easily be sympathize to. Well, I always encounter people like that especially when lending money, approaching you and making themselves as miserable as it can be to gain advantage of you. After getting what they want, they are no where to find.

I never use tears to get what i want, this besides of the fact I have nobody to abuse with my tears. Also crying won't help me, I never feel relieved. Although I do notice that crying and complaining does give many people (men included) what they want or need. If you tell straight and clear what you want or need or feel nobody will take you seriously.

I never do that but because I have strong emotions I cry a lot,from anger or from sadness, and because I cry so often people accuse me of using my tears as a method of persuasion. It's actually really uncommon for anyone to use this and I fell a little offended when people imply that girls and women do it all the time.It also feels really bad when I cry in front of somebody(this is rare,I keep my tears to myself usually) and they tell me stop and drop the act.I learned to hide when I cry just because I'm sick of it...Sorry,my response turned into a bit of rant.While I do not use this method,I believe tears have the power to control people,but it probably needs to be a very good and convincing act and it will only work once so it's not worth it.