Why paint a person with a black paint when you break up?

Well, most would be that they don't want to keep things bottled up inside. If their relationship is good and going well, they talk about it to share their happiness and well, maybe boast a bit on how great their relationship is. On the other hand, if their relationship ended up being on the rocks and eventually, they breakup, they tell it to people to, again, let the bad vibes out and rant. Or maybe they just want people to listen to them and maybe they hope that other people would pity them? I'm not sure but some of my friends tell their sob stories to have other people pity them. People's reaction on such things would vary on their personality. There are people who would rather stay quiet and try to resolve everything and move on and there are people who just want to let off some steam. Besides, keeping everything bottled up inside is not always a good thing to do especially if one's depressed or worried over something

I think at the moment people decide to divorce most of them are not talking about their wonderful husband or wife (well men seldom say that) or happy marriage anymore for longer time. I also think that it depends how the divorce goes on if you paint someone black or not. Many people get mean during (a long) divorce because they can't get what they want or they find out more cheating/lies etc. I also don't believe women talk more about it as men do. Men talk whole time, already start complaining right after the marriage in pubs, to their friends and I also see them show up on tv (might depend as well on where you live?). This besides of the fact talking is a way for women to get rid of the bad feelings (if men could understand that and would talk to their wifes more frequently or at least listen to them instead of ignoring them, there wouldn't be so much problems about nothing). I think most men are not great husbands, they like to have their lover, houskeeper, personal cook etc.. and go on with their lives and out with their friends. Women give up a lot of their lives, goals in name of ... Why not enjoy a happy marriage in silence? Why should you? If you are happy why are you not allowed to show it? It might even stimulate others to set/go for the same goals, to learn from it. Why not stress in silence? Because if you don't spit out what is bothering you it will eat you. Plenty of prove for that. People get serious ill because of not saying what is on their mind. Stress kills too btw, it's only good for shrinks and doctors who make a great income out of that. About 80% of all patients are sick because of stress!

When we like someone or some people, we tend to talk about good things they have, and how good they are. That's normal as human beings. Seldom do we find people makes good statements about somebody we hate. This also happens when we talk about marriage life.