have you ever felt lost?
@crazzydolphin (3636)
United States
May 16, 2012 9:38am CST
i thought that i would be ok and that it wouldnt bother me if i talked to her any more or not but it has been atleast a month now and i actually miss talking to her. the other day something happened and i almost picked up the phone to call and tell her. i cant just call and talk to her and saying im sorry will not fix this and from what i understand she heard something that me or my husband supposively did for her daughter so that is why she is still mad and we are not suppose to talk to her daughter any more either. my husband does sometimes and i havent seen her since. i really miss talking to her daughter. she may be young but she was more like a sister to me.
i feel so alone and so lost right now. those 2 were the only people i told everything to and right now i need someone and i cant talk to them. i never realized how much i needed that friend until now. i am going back to holging things in again and not talking about things because i have no one to turn to and that isnt the way it should be and i know this but what else can i do?
have you ever felt this way?
if so what did you do to feel better about things?
i hate the way things ended up and i cant change that now. so all that is left to do is pick myself up and move on i guess it just sucks BIG time lol
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4 responses
@laken02 (3065)
• United States
16 May 12
wait im lost, did a good friend get mad at you and now your not talking ? i know that i have one good friend that i can talk to and tell stuff too and we have had our disagreements but i try my best to even over look small stuff to keep this friend she does do some things that i dont like but i overlook because she has been there for me more then not.. so is there anyway you can mend this relationship i feel you need to try maybe send an e-mail or say your sorry or wahtever it takes to mend this relationship that is so important to you and you need in your life this person so at least try to mend it and if you cant then move on i would do everythiign i could of it were me.. :) good luck
@laken02 (3065)
• United States
18 May 12
well it is a two way street and she has to be missing you as well, just giver her time and space she needs, she is still hurt or something.. but in time she will get over it and hopefully want you back in her life so for now i would act like it did not bother me and let her make the first move when you see her since she has been acting like she has i would not try to talk to her or even look her way, i would leave her alone and see what happens, right now she has the upper hand and when she realizes that you dont care, she may feel the freindship is in danger of losing you and she may come around... just dont let her know it bother you at all until she wants to talk.. hope this works i feel it will :)
@crazzydolphin (3636)
• United States
17 May 12
yes a little over a month ago me and my neighbor across the street got into an arguement one night when she was over at my house helping me and my husband do some things. well she things went down hill and she went home. we texted a bit then she called i told her i was sorry because what i said came out wrong. well within the next hour she was texting me more things and said she dont cry that she was done. since then i cant talk to her daughter and her daughter said she heard something so she cant talk to us any more. i have tried to call 2 diffrent times ans the first time she sent her daughter over to my house (thats when we were still able to talk to her) then the 2nd time she wouldnt even answer. now if i see her outside she turns her nose up and she walks the other way.
it really is important to me but it is looking like there is nothing i can do to fix it. i know that with time things might change but i realize how much she meant to me a little to late. shes always meant a lot to me but i realized it more after we stopped talking.
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@courtknee525 (3742)
• United States
16 May 12
That's really a tough situation to be in and right now, I'm kind of in the same boat as you. My boyfriend left for the army yesterday and for the next few months I'll barely be able to talk to him. I'm used to seeing and talking to him every day and he's my best friend I tell everything to.
I feel so lost not being to just call him up and then see him. I know it's only been a day but it's already killing me.
Just try and stay strong and things will always somehow work out.
@crazzydolphin (3636)
• United States
16 May 12
your situation is WAY harder to deal with. what he does is a great thing :) and not many people respect it enough but i sure do. i had family in the military and i almost was and my husband wants to but i havent been able to agree to it because i would be to scared all the time for him.
thank you for the advice i am trying to stay strong and you are right things usually find a way of working its self out no matter how it ends up.
i hope that you can also stay strong and await his safe return.
@courtknee525 (3742)
• United States
18 May 12
Thank you :) As much as I hate his decision for joining, I still support him because he's doing it to better our lives and since he plans on getting married to me someday, I stand by him, support him, and I'm proud of him for what he's doing.
It gets a little easier with each day, but it's still not the same as it was before he left. Keeping busy makes my time pass a little faster but I still miss him like crazy
@crazzydolphin (3636)
• United States
22 May 12
i am sure that was a hard decision for everyone but i will say that is the best thing that you can do is support him and be there when he returns. like i said my husband wants to and its not that i dont want to let him i am just scared. can i ask you how do you cope with all the worry and not knowing? i am not trying to bring up bad feelings but my husband still really wants to do this and if we cant get on our own feet soon he may really go out and join so i want to kind of be prepared and ready for what to expect (if that makes sence).
i am sure you do and soon enough he will be back in your arms :)
it does seem to get a little better with each day but i have these days where i miss her more than on other days. i guess it will only take time. i am glad that you responded it was a nice story you have and even tho we have 2 major diffrent problems it is sort of 1 in the same :) thank you for your advice and your story that has helped me feel a little better :)
@crazzydolphin (3636)
• United States
16 May 12
to look at the positive side of things i do not have to do as much like drive her all over and i am not having to answer my phone or a text every hour so i get more done at home but it gets a little boring with no one to talk to lol. maybe this is for the best everything happens for a reason i just dont see the reasons behind this. thank you for the advice i hope it does get better it hasnt seemed like it would :(
@Laurelle11 (409)
• Australia
17 May 12
my heart goes out to you, I do know how you are feeling, I have been there and am sort of there again at this moment but before I went and saw her and told everything that you just said and true friend that she is, she forgave me and we moved on from it, I just wish I could do the same thing with the situation I am in now but thats life and we do the best we can to deal with the every day problems that are bound to happen at times. Best of luck to you.
@crazzydolphin (3636)
• United States
17 May 12
i am not sure that she can just let it go but then again i am not sure why eles she is mad. she hasnt told me her daughter said she heard something. she wont even say hello to my kids. i guess this is life and you are right everyone has to find the best ways to deal with everything that life throws at them.
