Age difference of a married couple.

My husband is 12 years old than me, and we don't think much about the age gap in our daily lives. Sometimes we talk about it for instanse if my husband mentions a song that he listened to as a teenager, I don't know any of those songs because I was still in kindergarten at that time In a situation like that we notice the age distanse, but in our daily lives it isn't important and we get along really well. I used to think that a 12 year age gap was a relatively big age difference, but today I don't think that it makes much of a difference as long as we love eachother.

I am five years older than my wife... after 26 years of marriage it is still ok...

The age gap is only an issue when there is a sizable gap and one person has way more life experience than the other. If there is too much of a gap, the older person will start to become impatient with the younger person. Sometimes there is a clash in what activities each person is interested in. The younger person may want to go out often to do the sort of things the older person has grown out of. It's a continuous balancing act, depending upon the ages of both persons.

Hiya shibs, Think that it is the love that there is between the couple that matters the most above anything. 1 year older, two or five years older what matter? When you are in love you will not see the difference unless you are willing to let it become an issue that comes between you. In your case you are four years older but that would not mean anything to me in particular. It is true that in some cases age can create problems but then so can other things create problems and cause break ups as well. He is 15 months older than me that´s all I will say he does not like me writing about those things on here lol and of course I am 15 months younger. Wishing you much happiness shibs everything will be fine.xxx

In our country when it comes as arranged marriage some what age difference would solve many problem. But in few cases it would create problem if any of the either partner is not satisfied with the other's age.

in not married yet, certainly i'll be looking for someone know. i have try all kink of age different. with some that same age, younger than my age, also few other that older than me. when i in relation between same age, their think some is just like me even lower than me. like we both still have something else need to be done. while when in younger than me, sometime they show that the were ready for a serious relation but sometime they can act like a baby i think. then when with older than me, i just feel comfortable, they were more stable even in emotion and financial i guest, it not im a materialistic woman.it just. when u want to married him, u need to think forward how the life will be changing. later u with life together and many things can change during the time. now, im happy with him. hopefully we will get married soon.he already planning about it now..

i am 5 years older than my husband. we knew that when we met. it is the least of our problems and we don't have that many. just normal stuff like every couple. i don't think that age matters as long as there is love between two ADULT people. some people put a big thing on the age thing. i don't see what difference it makes. two people of the same age aren't guaranteed to stay together.

Hi shibham! I personally don't think alot about age gaps when it comes to partnerships. If they are really large gaps I think it could cause issues but there are also people that just fit in with different age ranges than what they actually are. I only have a one year age gap between me and my partner. I won't mention which one is the older one...I think it is him

To some it doesn't matter as long as they are inlove. To some they chose a partner who are older than then for a lot of reasons. One of the reason i observe is they find older man much responsible, secure than being with a man younger than them. Older man think maturely and a thinker compared to a young man. There is also a case why they choose older man for them to benefit what the older man can offer, that includes material things. They are much stable. Older man prefer younger partner and women prefer a bit older to them, but not so old. I prefer a partner who's age closer to mine. I don't like being accused of using the person. In my country if you are with someone older than you(age gap is ten years or more) they see you as mistress.

Now people not like more gap between age of man and women in our community if boys are 30 and girl is 24 or 25 then their parents says ohhh more age gap we are not ready to marriage they wants only 2 to 3 age gap. But I notice in old time at least 8 to 10 years age gap between couples. First you tell how many years of age gap in between you and my deverani... then I will say dear dever.

Hi shibham, I don't think age is an issue in marrying someone - whether love or arranged. If the couple loves each other or finds attraction on their first meeting (as with the case of arranged) then age is just nothing. I have a friend who is married to a guy younger than her - and there were no issues. If people talked about it, we just have to let them talk and get tired.

age gap doesn't matter when itcomes to love, but for me it ,i prefer to marry someone who is 3- 5 years older than me,because we girls tend to be more mature than the guys with the our same age. but it depends cause if you really do love the person then there is no sense thinking about age gap

Well i really appreciate your thought.. Well age gap should be taken into consideration only when the age difference in very high..But i feel for a sacred institution like marriage, age difference hardly matters. what matters is the compatibility and the level of understandability between the partners. It is nowadays often seen that young couples find it difficult to keep the spirit of marriage intact. Yes, but that does not mean a girl should marry a guy equivalent to her father's age. there should be some age difference between the two, not necessarily the girl being the younger of them. What is important is to keep afloat the sanctity and piousness of marriage without pondering much on the age differences between the two...

hi buddy, i think not necessary to have age gape, if she/he is your true love so why you still thinkin about the gape. for me love is something we can't think only with our logic because no logic in love......,that's all my opinion.thanks

there is a difference of 20 years between my eldest daughter and her husband and that seems to work ok. My son is 20 years older than his wife and that seems to be okay. My wife is lot older that me well three weeks as a matter of fact

It is more or less custom in our country for the husband to be about 3 years older than the wife. I think that came ago about because it gave the man time to become established in the work force. Most girls would marry right out of high school with the expectations of staying hone and raising the children. There was no birth control , so she would have a dozen children and be worn out before her children were old enough to be on their own. It was not uncommon for the wife to die in childbirth , so the man would have to quicky find another wife to take care of his brood. I think that the younger wife scenario is out dated. We women are better educated, more hearthy, have fewer children, and are not likely to die in childbirth beause because of prenatal care and hospital delivery. Women now usually outlive their husbands, even when they were the same age at marriage. It is my opinion that husband and wife should be the same age, or he should be up to 5 y ears younger.

In my opinion its just a number. Also, I never was one for marriage or anything because I liked being left alone, but past couple of years I've found myself now engaged and looking foward to the happiness with my guy. Normally I like my guys to be older than me but this situation is not the case. My fiance is younger than me by a bit. But I don't care because all that i know is that i'm happy and we are happy together.

I started a discussion on this a week ago... http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/2658097.aspx

For me, age gap can somewhat make a difference to a relationship. My wife is 6 years younger than me. We struggled at first but we eventually work things out and I can say now that we really complement each other. Age gap can be a factor to a relationship but I believe that the success of marriage depends on the willingness to make it work, to treat it like an investment, the effort we put into it. For example - A young wife can be a little wiser than her old husband - just enough to make their relationship work.

I think the girl should be younger than the boy but not too old than the age of the girl. But it depends sometimes. I know some marriage couples that husbands age has 5 years more than the wife but they were living okay and happy so maybe it depends on both party if they really love each other regardless of the age gap.[b][/b][i][/i][u][/u]