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Great topic!I agree with you .It is the most difficult to play the role of parent in real life. We have an old saying,"It doesn't come home to you how much you owe to your parents until you bring up children."The parents not only have to take care of children's food ,clothing but teach them how to conduct themselves, therefore parents must set a good example with their own conduct.There is something in the saying "like father,like son".

You got a point in there my friend. Character of your kids sometimes depends on how you mold them. Some said that kids at young age have a very good memory, this is the time they are storing or using their long term memory. This could be the reason that what they will see, they could bring it untill they grow and become their character. Most kids learn to speak bad words from the parents it self. When they always heard their parents talking bad words as normal language, they will really acquire those. In my case, I have a son (going 2 years old) that I think is very intelligent, he can copy the words that speak from our mouth. One time, my wife accidentally said the "sh!t" word, he repeated it. So my wife told him that don't say that word because it is bad. In that way, we can teach our son to say what is good and bad. As parents, if your treat your kids "rude" by shouting or beating them, you will be the one to suffer in the future. They might become hard-headed. Just like my cousin, their parents used to beat them when they commit even a simple fault when they where kids. Now, the youngest is used to make troubles when get drunk that even he even said bad words to his father. They did not even respect their parents. They respect our parents more than theirs. I think they are already harvesting fruit of what they planted to their kids.

I am in the stores a lot, and I see behavior by parents and even grand parents that makes me stop to think. I know I was a strict parent, but evidently I did not do too poorly. I have loving and respectful young adult children. Yes, our kids learn what we teach them by our examples of how we treat them and others.

I so agree that parenting is the most difficult job any of us will do in our lifetime. And I have all the grey hairs and psychosis to show it. Even my grandchildren are mine for life and with all their problems heaped up on top of the problems we individually already have our self. I see how kids act out in the stores and such and it makes me wonder what happens in their home to make them the way they are. I don't necessarily agree, however, that it takes them a long time to form their characters. I think it begins to show up in the class room and the play ground. I do try to treat my daughter and grand kids with love and consideration but sometimes they do try my patient. When you start getting the "I don't care"s and the "What if I don't"s. Defiance and anger is what I am up against on a daily basis. All the talking, child psychology and understanding tends to get old after awhile. But I keep on trudging forward and I do love those good moments with my grandson puts out his arms and wants a hug or actually does what he knows he should without being asked. Treating them with love? You betcha. Getting some in return. Yes indeed. You have a good one and happy Mylotting.

Hi telmesh! Yes you are definitely right. I am a working mom. Perhaps, I could say that the most precious thing in my life are my children. They are my strength, that's why I keep on fighting. I am presently undergoing a training which is a basic requirement in our agency. There are times that I feel like quitting because I can not cope up with the situation. But thinking that I am doing this thing for my children, I would not quit. Like you I am not agreeable on maltreating or hurting the children in one way or another.

I am a parent too. I only have one child though I have neice and nephews who I consider also as my children. And to tell you honestly, I never had tried to spank or let my hand fall to them on the situation that they have tantrums. Anyway I am a very patient mom and as much as possible I tried to talk and explain to them the pros and cons of a situation. I was able to observe also some parents especially in public places like malls how they treat their child. The fact that they carried it with them for nine months, how on earth they could do some foul acts to their child and of all places, why do it at public places. I believe it is just a matter of disciplining a child in a right way, talking to them and asking to them things the most appropriate way. We were kids before also, and I believe we were raise by our parents with the proper way of raising a child. Every action that what we did is a manifestation that will let our child a better person. If we keep on doing harsh thing to them, that is too bad...we might not know, that little child will be a President of the country someday. Values we are trying to show them, will also be the same values they will use if they will be on our situation someday. I pity the parents who do the shout, the whip to their child. I just hope they could realize the soonest possible time that what they are doing has really a bad effect not only to the child but aso to the people who could see them.

Ya absolutely true.We often get angry with our parents for not providing us luxuries of life or the things which we always wanted to acquire to make ourselves happy but when we become parents then we understand that how difficult it is to become a parent and to provide all which can satisfy the child. I am a parent too and i always want the best for my kid.I am a full time working mother and always make sure not to shout at my child because whatever he does it is just because he wants to draw my attention .Parenting is a full time job and it needs a lot of toil and hard work.