1,2,3 or 4? How you will feel to be alone?
By viju0410
@viju0410 (2286)
India
May 17, 2012 7:48am CST
Hi friends,
Its summer holidays for the children in India and my neighbor friends are off to their mother’s home for the vacation with their children. The males (I mean their husbands) returned home after dropping their wife/s. Yesterday all of them gathered at my place for some tea and snacks and I checked how they feel at home without family? Their answers were:
First - I got some free time and I am relieved for a while from wife’s nagging and the demands of teenaged children. Loves to cook his own and clean the home too - Totally enjoying. 
Second – I don’t have the habit of being lonely. I miss my wife (they have no kids) and wait for the weekend eagerly as she’ll be back. Cooks with half heart and mind but Missing the family life.
Third – Is a businessman, claims he has no patience to cook or wash cloths but cleaning is done before his prayers. Loves food / tea/ snacks etc cooked by the next door neighbor (i.e. me& my husband) and gets bored by eating at hotel daily.
I checked with my husband in which category of above he falls? He says he’ll be busy during day with his work but evenings he’ll have additional quota of his peg and sleep well. 
Share which is your number and how the wife/females here will react in such a situation. Happy lotting and have a nice time.
Viju
Second – I don’t have the habit of being lonely. I miss my wife (they have no kids) and wait for the weekend eagerly as she’ll be back. Cooks with half heart and mind but Missing the family life.
Third – Is a businessman, claims he has no patience to cook or wash cloths but cleaning is done before his prayers. Loves food / tea/ snacks etc cooked by the next door neighbor (i.e. me& my husband) and gets bored by eating at hotel daily.
I checked with my husband in which category of above he falls? He says he’ll be busy during day with his work but evenings he’ll have additional quota of his peg and sleep well.
Share which is your number and how the wife/females here will react in such a situation. Happy lotting and have a nice time.
Viju3 people like this
7 responses
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
17 May 12
Dear viju
When in college and right before I met her, I loved being all alone, it was so very carefree and the bachelors thing you know
- I could keep anything anywhere in my room or even bed or even the computer and no one, yes, no one had any say...
Since I met her, I just cant seem to be all alone. Anything, yes, these days when it has been months and she is away, I still dont get to find that loneliness... Ever since we met, and I identified her as my soul mate, I have never been lonely, she is always there in my thoughts, in my heart and many a times my actions even when I am physically all alone in this house, seem to show that I have her around.
Darn, where is my pair of glasses today!
When in college and right before I met her, I loved being all alone, it was so very carefree and the bachelors thing you know - I could keep anything anywhere in my room or even bed or even the computer and no one, yes, no one had any say...
Since I met her, I just cant seem to be all alone. Anything, yes, these days when it has been months and she is away, I still dont get to find that loneliness... Ever since we met, and I identified her as my soul mate, I have never been lonely, she is always there in my thoughts, in my heart and many a times my actions even when I am physically all alone in this house, seem to show that I have her around.
Darn, where is my pair of glasses today!
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@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
18 May 12
sids,
Here in our country, men who does houseworks are admired by SOCIETY.
Husband who does houseworks and help their wives are praised by their in-laws.
So, it is a common thing to see husband here who do marketing, groceries,do the laundry and iron clothes, changed diapers and become a nanny etc.
Honestly- I don't know how to cook when I got married.
It is my ex who taught me how to cook.
Sorry, but, of all houseworks- I am not fond of cooking during my bachelorette days :P
But now- I promise, I can cook anything as long as you provide all the ingredients needed
Well, your wife is lucky to have you who did all the necessary houseworks
Well, your wife is lucky to have you who did all the necessary houseworks@viju0410 (2286)
• India
18 May 12
Hi Sids,
I know you are missing her presence but sometimes we can't really help being alone for a while at home. As dpk mentioned, after marriage you are so much used to be with her but her absence is only temporary and hope you both will have great times ahead. She's there in your souls so 
Jai - Great that ex taught you cooking. In my case too, my husband is a great help to me for everything - be in grocery shopping, marketing, or at the kitchen - he is a much better cook than me..
I know you are missing her presence but sometimes we can't really help being alone for a while at home. As dpk mentioned, after marriage you are so much used to be with her but her absence is only temporary and hope you both will have great times ahead. She's there in your souls so
Jai - Great that ex taught you cooking. In my case too, my husband is a great help to me for everything - be in grocery shopping, marketing, or at the kitchen - he is a much better cook than me.. @jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
17 May 12
I admire number 1 for being able to do all the housework.
Well, my ex hub is a house-band (hehehe)
I mean, he can manage houseworks as well.
He is very organized and can keep the house well kept while me and kids are on vacation (well, that was before)
Now he does not live with us.
It's nice when men knows all house works and can manage to cook for themselves :p
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
17 May 12
... and mop
... and wash clothes
... and also marketing - veggies etc for home...
Why?
I have no one else to do it for me
Seriously, I love my wife and always want to do small things that would allow her save time for herself. She is so very occupied with so many things - her office, her hubby (that is me) and also my illness...
I have no one else to do it for me
Seriously, I love my wife and always want to do small things that would allow her save time for herself. She is so very occupied with so many things - her office, her hubby (that is me) and also my illness...@viju0410 (2286)
• India
18 May 12
Hi jai,
yeah. Today morning this no.1 was calling me from his kitchen (we can't see each other but we can speak/ hear ) and was checking if i get some good smell of his cooking. . For a long time we are planning for a dinner of Daal Baati (Puffed Dough Dumplings With Lentil Curry)which is a Rajasthani delicacy and followed in Madhya pradesh as well. Now we wait for all the wife/s & kidoos to to back for this treat.
Sid - Now its time for me to ask (of course shamelessly) keep lunch ready for me too. I really appreciate your sweet views of your wife.Keep it up.
. For a long time we are planning for a dinner of Daal Baati (Puffed Dough Dumplings With Lentil Curry)which is a Rajasthani delicacy and followed in Madhya pradesh as well. Now we wait for all the wife/s & kidoos to to back for this treat.
Sid - Now its time for me to ask (of course shamelessly) keep lunch ready for me too. I really appreciate your sweet views of your wife.Keep it up. 
@svcvmamidi (242)
• India
17 May 12
well these kind of situations are more common as i am always alone whenever away from home town since i am not married and i like my privacy its not hard to be alone all day i work and when i come home i cook for myself and eat well watchind television or movies and this continues for the whole week and when its weekend its party time and movies so this is how i pass my days until i get a leave or holidays
@viju0410 (2286)
• India
18 May 12
Hi sv,
Now you are not engaged full time with a partner and kids so you are your own till you are not in any kind of relationship. I am sure you will have to give lot of time to your partner once you marry. Thanks for sharing about yourself. Happy lotting!
@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
17 May 12
Hi Viju!
I think all of them will miss their respective wives after 2-3 days because they are so used to the routine when their wives are with them. When their wives take care of their needs and look after their children, they start taking it for granted. However, when they are required to carry out errands and house hold tasks on their own, they start 'missing' their wives.
@Professor2010 (20162)
• India
20 May 12
Viju beti
Guess i fall under none, normally i am never alone, if at all say for a day or two, my renters will give me starting from breakfast and tea to the bedtime tea, at times all the 4 give, and that becomes a burden again.
Nice discussion.
Are you observing Sabitry brata today for your hubby?
Blessings
@blaqwynter (218)
• Canada
17 May 12
All the wives went on vacation but you stayed home? I would packed up and left along with them, just to have free time and have fun. All work and no play is hard on the soul.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
17 May 12
Interesting to know about number 1 he can cook and clean! I hope his wife knows that so he can continue with that if she and the kids are back. Might be she has way less to complain if he does so. BTW it sounds strange to me that women and children leave and the husbands stay at home. We don't have holidays like that (btw Summer starts way later over here).
Holidays you spend together, not separated.
@viju0410 (2286)
• India
18 May 12
Hi,
yes friend, his wife is well aware of his qualities of cooking and cleaning. The day they will be back, he will make something which is his wife's favorite food.
Here, the husbands join them only for dropping the wife to her home and they don't usually stay for all the days at in-laws. Plus Indians hav a tradition of giving highly and special treats (like for him they will make all special/rich food etc) for their son-in-law, which many people do not appreciate. That's why they don't spent long time at their wife's place. This way the wife also get time to spent with her mother father/family.
