Would you ever cut ties with a friend like this?

I have a very close friend when i was in high school. We share everything problems, happy moments but when we reached college, she has a new boyfriend. I'm happy for her but as months and until now because she has a son and a job now i understand she's busy but i think she has no time even just a single text message how are u? She only text me when she ask a favor and then when i replied and ask how is she, no reply. It kinda hurt sometimes that i feel i am nothing to her anymore. But i got to move on. It is really true what the saying "Even you have a lots of friends, but only few are being true to you.Others are just passers by to your life".

I have a so called friend like this. She hasnt really put me down but she has lied to me and stood me up 3 times this week! I do not need her in my life. I am going to pull the plug on this so called friendship very soon. I always seem to fall into relationships of any kind that are one sided. I put all of the effort in and they do nothing but enjoy my sacrifices for them. I am done doing it. I am sick of being hurt. If I ever find a real true friend that would be great but I have not found one yet..

Friendship is delicate. It has good days; it has bad. All we know is that we are supposed to able to be ourselves with friends. You know... agree to disagree, and not be judged. Honesty should be involved and opinions, even though sometimes hurtful, should be given if requested, but toned down if seemingly hurtful. I think friendships come and go, but handle with care. Facebook, in my opinion, is not a good way to socialize with friends. It is too open to others and less personal. I would imagine if certain things were not made so open, you could discuss things better. Sometimes things get lost in translation or are even misconstrued online. Trying getting face to face sometimes, instead of on facebook if you need to communicate and evaluate.

I do think that there are a lot of times that we need to evaluate the relationships that we have with other people. The thing that most people don't take the time to realize is that we are actually blessed with few true friends in the course of our lives and it is far too easy to let those friendships fall to the wayside when there are other temptations out there. That is something that I've come to realize in the last year of my life and because of that realization, the people that I surround myself with have changed a whole lot.

Expressing our "true" thoughts and emotions done in writing can be misconstrued. A single omission of a punctuation mark or excessive use of it or a misspelled word can mean the other way around. Those words you used, as I read in between the lines - "toxic", "rude", "put you down all the time", ""judging" - as I see it, there is nothing wrong on what you just did. I respect your decision. For me, a true friend can say anything to me in my face as long as it is the truth and for my own betterment. I may feel bad and angry initially but I believe, time can heal all wounds.

I have two friends that i have had more than ten years. These two TRUE friends have been through all of my drama. These two are the only two friends that can put me down or tell me the truth, like my hair looks unhealthy or that I am gaining weight, and I don't get mad at them cuz... If your best friends can't tell you the TRUTH...who can. Now, to let you know, I do have many friends, just not that close to me as the other two that I consider BEST friends. Of these friends I too have that one friend that puts me down alot..even when I am in a good mood. He is not trying to bring me down, He always laughs when he does it, like it is a joke, but that is his nature and he does it to everyone...not just me. When I need his help...He is always there. Good Luck with the decision that you have made:-)

I have experienced the worse than your situation. A friend of 4-5 years just told my soon to be ex husband my secret a week ago. She totally lost my trust, friendship and respect as a person. She has let me down by all means. So in your case, I think you have done the right thing - not sad and mad about it. Just ignore this 'friend' from now on.

I put people in different grooves and therefore I know who to take it from and who to drop. I am doing it all the time. The best way to look at a situation is if one is not comfortable interacting then its time to drop that person from one's life.

A pleasant day Adang1988, Upon reading your post, I remember a situation in my life that I have met a friend almost the same as what you have. That she always puts me down. Wherein, I was in a down situation, and yet, she still puts me more down. Most often times, our colleagues always tease me, if I was just so blind that I can't see the real attitude of that friend. Hence, during those times, I am just giving them a sweet smile and ignore whatever negative comments they always say towards that friend. Until one day, a situation was happened. And I feel so embarrassed for what she did. As we are on a public place during those times. That she shouted on me in-front of many. And the only thing I did during those moments was to cry. As I cannot help myself, my tears automatically falls down from my eyes. That, my mind tells me, after all, she did not treat me right. I do not know what to do that time. But, I just told myself, that will be the last. From that time on, my eyes turned awake. And on the following day, I promised to myself, I will not allow her again to embarrassed me in-front of anybody. That what she did is enough for me to turn my back to her and cut off the knot that binds us. Everything was changed. The care and the friendship that I have lay down for her, all of those, disappear.

I dumped a friend of 5 years and never had chance to meet her again.I totally avoid getting along with her. A friend should not bring a friend down.If a friend can't appreciate a little and who would supposed to do?I'd rather to be alone than stay with a friend can't appreciate and can't give a real meaning of friendship. Welcome to mylot!!

Your right, if the friendship is toxic or if you find yourself hurt, or growing apart its not a friendship anymore. If a little comment upset you that might not have upset you years before, you guys just grew apart. People change over the years. I have friendships I thought were good, but turned out to not be. Seasonal friends. We all learn from them and gained something in the friendshisp, but now its done. Especially if your not even upset over it, it was coming.

I’ve always thought friends could say stuff to each other and if there was a problem they can work things out. It can make friendships grow and become stronger. That word though toxic is something to think about. If it isn’t working or can’t be resolved then I suppose it is toxic, yeah. :-(

Adang... I can perfectly relate to this incident... Even in my previous company there was a guy.. we were very good friends and everything was superb... One day he took a cheap shot at me and said some hurtful things on facebook...We argued and the comments on that just kept increasing with neither him nor me willing to back down.. I ultimately blocked that person totally.. so now he don't show up in my friends list.. nor can he comment or use my name in his links.. I won't forgive it... We have met publicly after this incident and he apologized to me dearly.. but I know that in his heart he is a evil man.. he has shown his true colors by talking bad things behind my back.. and things which are not true but damage my self esteem.. Never accept such friends back again.. they are a curse and they are snakes in your sleeves...let them free.. and never turn back to them because they really don't deserve your friendship.. I have realized this the tough way..having gone through the ordeal and all the embarrassing moments after that... but never put up to misbehaviour by anyone.. never back down or get beat up emotionally by some bully like comments... always have a response upto certain limit...beyond that just stop responding to such crazy things...and better to just block that person.

I say better late than never. Having a toxic friendship can't be good for anyone. That person usually just brings you down. You maybe in the best mood and feeling so good about yourself and this so call friend just comes along and with one sentence, make you feel like crap. People like that you don't need in your life. Granted, I don't want a friend to lie to me and always agree with me, but if the negative always out weighs the positive, then consider that friendship a liability.

If a friend of mine upset me, or was constantly rude to me and never had anything nice to say then I wouldn't think twice about dumping them and letting them know that I didn't want to be friends with them any more. I had to do this once in the past and it was hard at the time, but now almost three years later I have moved on from our friendship and I know that there is nothing that I could have done to save it. Some people just don't seem to realise what it means to be a friend, and they just treat you badly until it is far too late and you cannot take any more of it.

Glad you dumped this person. Make sure to put them on your blocked list as well. No need letting them know what is going on in your life. Block them out and forget about them. They are not worth your time or energy.

For the word that you give a quotes, its all depend on yourself to figure it out. Whether thats a judgement or suggestion. All could be mis-understanding if we just read a text.It could be different if we listen or talk face to face.

I think you did the right thing to that so-called friend of yours. In my view friendship is important but not more important than one's self respect.If that friend is trying to put you down all the time then it means that he/she have some sort of issue with you which he/ she can not help but is revealed by their attitude. I used to have many such friends in my life, who by no means behave like this which is absolutely intolerable for me. Bu you know what when people are actually envy of you they say such things pr behave like that, and i feel a different kind of excitement in flaunting in front of them, their actual nature get revealed after that. But you should better not deal with this kind of people and throw them out of your life. these kind of toxics are really harmful for us to survive. they crate unnecessary problem for us.

Hi, I read what you wrote. I just want to share my thoughts with that. I also had friends like that, but trying to understand them would be more convenient for the both of you. Have you ever talked to this friend of yours after what happened? If not, why don't you try to talk about what happened. Sometimes it's difficult to really understand what is the thought beyond those words a person types or comments in a chat, like in Facebook. Maybe it's not what this friend of your really meant. I'm not saying that what you did was very judgmental, but try to look deeper and try to understand why this friend of yours did that.

Now, were they trying to put you down or trying to help.. did the person specifically say anything intentionally to irritate you or just to piss you off? or were they trying to help you realize maybe? i don't know what your hair looks like and i'm not one to judge more or less because i have had every length and color in the rainbow in my hair. but were they trying to be mean? or really trying to help? You should look at the problem on a larger scale rather then on a small one and see if you still feel the same way.