Hes my husband.....

I understand your feeling...better watch on her. You should find a way to keep a distance between your husband and her too. Best wish for you and your family.

I would be upset by that too. If she keeps in contact with your husband then she could certainly keep in contact with you as well. I think it's a little inappropriate that she contacts your husband like that even though she doesn't say anything inappropriate. I would be bothered knowing that a so-called friend is contacting my husband and having conversations with him. A girl I used to work with was kind of like that with my boyfriend and I. I had known her a few years before working with her and she had met my boyfriend once before. Well, he'd come into the store to visit me and go on break with me and as soon as he walked in the store, she'd light up and get very bubbly but when she was around me she was depressive and mopey. My boyfriend can't stand her but it still bothered me that she would do that. She would even text me about things and then try to bring up my boyfriend's name. It even got to the point where she'd tell lies to me about my boyfriend and tell my boyfriend lies about me. For me, it's just uncomfortable to know my boyfriend might have friends that are girls that he talks to. I think it's hard for guys and girls to just be friends without some sort of feelings developing. It's not that I'm jealous or anything, I know my boyfriend would feel the same so I try not to have guy friends. It's just easier that way and it works for us. We don't control each other but we do respect each other and try to keep each other happy in the relationship

Oh my that is really mean that a friend of yours would do something like that. The first thing you have to do is change your husband account so she cant contract him anymore. This would make me mad. sounds like to me that she wants your husband as her man. I hope everything turns out ok with you.

it sounds fishy. it's good that she lives in another state. with women you don't know what their angles are. i know, even though i am one myself. i have not played those games with anyone, but i have had those games played on me. i would say to ask your husband about it. it doesn't matter what she says. it only matters what he says. she is probably trying to stir up some kind of trouble. head her off at the pass and let your husband know that you know he is in contact with her. let him know that it makes you feel uncomfortable, especially since you don't know why. if he is a reasonable person easy to talk to, this should get some dialect going. he should also be able to respect your wishes on the contact. i wouldn't worry about it too much, though. like i said she is a million miles away. there she should stay. don't let something a million miles away effect your relationship.

It doesn't sound to me like a friendship. I think you have to be honest to yourself and not hide your feelings. Tell her how you really feel about her, her behaviour and the friendship is over. This will eat you and that is wrong. You are responsible of yourself, your own welfare so go for that. Ask yourself how your life will be if you invest as much in yourself as you did in her!