She opend her big mouth

Me and my husband we couldn't afford our first born and now we can't afford our second baby that is coming. Our families help out but at least my husband works and brings home money and we try to do it on our own. Even when two people work its hard to afford any kids these days it get expensive quick. We had to use government assistance and still do for our first child as well as for me right now since I am pregnant again. I wouldn't have told anyone we where having twines till 8 week mark to see if it is or isn't. But I know I'm having one even before then no twins run in our family but that doesn't mean it can't happen. Yes just breath when me and my husband found out his sister was pregnant and she is 19 due any second now. We where shocked and don't know how she is going to do it. She doesn't have her own car, she doesn't live with family so I don't know how she afford rent when she doesn't even have a real job, goes to school and the boy friend kind of wants knowing to do with the baby. My husband was so anergy he hit our door with his fist. I told him nothing to be upset about because we don't have to deal with it. We live over 9 hours away its your mom, dads, and your step parents problem not ours.

It's weird that she would say that she is having twins when she doesn't know for sure. Maybe she just wanted the attention that would come with that. I can understand your situation -- I have known many friends (not sisters, but friends) who "choose" to get pregnant (well, by accident, but they didnt' use protection) and wound up pregnant. Most of them were party animals, couldn't hold jobs, and just didn't seem mature enough to have kids. I have about 3 girlfriends, around my age (21-23) who have all been pregnant and have had 1 kid apiece. One of them is doing incredibly well though, she has cut down on the partying and she is loving being a mother. It's so insane how much she has changed from having a kid. I think raising a baby can totally change a person and make them realize what their (new) priorities really are. Then again, the other 2 girls are still living at home and their parents are helping them out quite a bit and are both jobless and seemingly unsuccessful. *sigh*. I wish the best for them and that they will figure out a way to make it on their own. They can barely afford to keep themselves alive let alone raise another child (and children are SO expensive!). I guess you will just have to wait and see what happens. This could be a turning point for her, you never know! I have seen a party-animal irresponsible immature 22 year old turn into a great mom. It could happen.

It's difficult to think of a baby when neither one of them works or has a source of income (except for dole-outs). Anyhow, still I am happy that instead of her moping around about her sad life, she is excited about the baby. I don't really know the relationship between the two of you, but I hope people do change and this time they'd be more responsible now that she'll have a baby soon. Perhaps if you could give her a chance to be happy. People do change when they want to and perhaps it would be nice for us to be happy for her with this situation. Have a great MyLot experience ahead!

Well, I'm KIND of in a similar situation. My boyfriend (who does have a job, albeit one that doesn't pay very well) and I are going to have a baby (September 4th). We live in a house with my mom, but we all pay rent to the guy that owns the house. Being pregnant, nobody will hire me right now, and it's not like there's that many jobs where I live anyway. Having as little money as we do, we barely scrape by as it is, but I feel bad when I have to ask people for money. I think that's the difference... I want to try to make it on my own, without asking for help from anyone, but some people just ask for money all the time when they have opportunities to go out and make money for themselves.

Maybe try this, Think of the neice or nephew you may get in a few months, no one said you have to like your in-laws but remember....faimly is family forever and that little baby WILL be your family. If you want to be a part of that babies life, play nice with the in-law or you may not get the chance. Good Luck:-)