Better Shut Your Mouth

I totally agree my friend. We should learn how to tame our lips from saying things that can hurt. Good if what you will say can be comforting, then say it. But if it will hurt then just keep it to yourself. Make friends , not enemies, so better to keep our mouth shut.

I totally agree with you. Many people just talk and talk and doesnt care the listener's feeling even though they are not closed at all. I met many guys like that in here...and sometime i can do is forget all what they said soon. I don't want to be rude but they still keep talking like that way, i think i should say directly to them that: shut up your mouth, please.

Hello there, I agree with you. We should always think before we speak to avoid any consequence. Unfortunately, everyone is different. Some people just cannot keep their mouth shut. My solution is keep them at a distance so that I won't get hurt and get into the depressed zone......

Hi Bhaby, Don't stress your my beauty my dear, let them do what they want to say and just ignored it. Just think of this you can't control any body but you can control your self. Smile to them rather stress your self . Good morning

Hi bhaby catch: Definetly, some people should take more care about what they say and how it could affect someone. Typically they would tell you that they just want to be honest but I don't think this is a good reason to be offensive with someone or hurt someone's feelings. ALVARO

I think honesty is just that, being honest. we are not responsible for others take our honestly. of course there is a way to talk to people. bur if you're honest, then that's all you should do

Hi, Nice post and nay I am not saying because you mentioned to say something nice. It is a situation one often comes across in all walks of life. Some times at bus shelters, trains, airports, people just pass a comment just for making one not realizing that it could hurt someone's sentiments. When we comment on our close friends too sometimes they take offense as actually they had expected you to agree to their point of view but in actuality you did just the opposite and said something as you saw it. Life is like that. Take care and God bless.

That is true. I also believe that if can't say something good then better shut your mouth. I know this is hard and patience is a virtue, haha. I try my bets not to say words that might hurt any individual but there are times I can't just shut my mouth and unkind words slip. After that, I try to review what I just said and sometimes I really feel sorry for myself because I let it slip without even thinking.

Yes, it is so hard and regretful when we realize that we hurted someone. Sometimes we want to help but well, we never get how someone is going to take our words. I find out early that people don't actually want to hear the truth, I think it helps but most want to hear more of a lie like a compliment than the truth that could even show that I'm actually a friend. I think the truth is very different from criticism, for example, I tell the truth when I'm asked it doesn't matter if it is the dress doesn't look good on her, I won't lie to my girlfriend cause I rather she knows she could dress better, but I found girls that actually got angry... I can't lie, if I care for the person specially!

Honey beti I agree with you, but some persons have that habit, they can't keep their mouth shut,hubby was sick, today he was given solid food, we are planning to take him to Hyderabad or Bhubaneswar, our son will reach here tonight. Hugs from Maa

I agree 100% with you on this topic. I have family members that I'm around often that are always saying something negative, or bringing up negative related topics about people. That's one of the reasons I stay off to myself a lot, because I'm not the gossiping or the type of person to down people. Great discussion.

The words which are coming from our mouth is the one of the biggest weapon in the world. It have the capability to hurt as well as love others and it depends on how you use your words or expression to others. Anyway each of you people make sure that you are not too harsh and make sure that it do not hurt anyone. I think it is not good to shut your mouth at all the time. We are gifted to the earth with mouth and tongue to communicate and we must do it but make sure that you do not hurt any one.

The problem with that mentality is that some people are more easily hurt than others. Some people can listen to an opposing opinion or viewpoint without taking offence while others take offence to anything that is not in total agreement with them. For example, even the title of this discussion BETTER SHUT YOUR MOUTH could be taken offensively by some. I know I certainly do not like it when somebody tells me I'd better shut my mouth. There is absolutely nothing wrong with voicing your opinion even if it differs from the other persons. One can voice their opinion in such a manner as to not offend. As long as one is not being rude, nasty, swearing or calling others names, I see no reason why they should keep their opinions to themselves (which, in my humble opinion is a nicer way of saying I see no reason why they better shut their mouth) Happy mylotting

I truly agree with you. Well, each one of us is uniquely created by God that sometimes there are really those people who utter words tactlessly-- maybe these means nothing harmful for them but for the concerned person, quite offensive already. Let's just be careful with whatever / however we communicate our thoughts.

hello there! you are right, if you don't want to end up arguing with someone, so be it, shut your mouth than hurt other's feelings... But there are also times we have to tell people that they can really be annoying. so just let their moods lighten up a bit and don't be exaggerated at things...what's your say?

Well, I also think the same way as yours. In writing a review or just a thread already exists, we should all limit ourselves to simply express our opinion, by not saying certain words, or write some phrases that may be offensive in some way, or in any way, you do not like for those who read. Instill Mylot is a great community where we all member, may possibly help us, and certainly we must avoid "make the shoes" each other.

There is no way you can be sure you will never hurt anyone's feelings. No matter if you shut up or not. The expression in your eyes/face or body can tell a lot too. Also it can be hurtful if you decide not to speak out loud or to say what is on your mind. Or if you neglect or ignore someone because you are too afraid to open up. Personally I would prefer it if someone would talk to me straight.. how hurt I will be depends on me, how I look upon it.

Hi bhaby, True enough. We must shut our big mouth if all we wanna say are offensive things. But, I think that it would also depend as sometimes we also need to express the things we want to say or remarks that might help another person although might sound hurtful to them. We just need to be careful in expressing the words to make it sound like we are just concerned to them and not like we just wanna hurt their feelings.

Hi bhabycatch013 ! You are definitely right but what one can do if he is so by nature.Actually i am a very talkative person but i always keeps in mind not to hurt anyone while i talks and i never hurt to anyone...But my talkative nature hurt myself many times. Even i tried to shut my mouth but i couldn't because whenever i see someone is talking on some topics that is familiar to me, i can't stop myself..........and its obviously someone else take advantage of it.